Comments on: Merry Christmas From The MTE Team

By: joan

joan — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 21:48:46 +0000

Hi Mel
just 3 months since I split from my 3rd narc I am working the narp modules also the childhood wounds course just to day I have this very strong feeling that it was all my fault and maybe he is not a narc I also feel I want to make contact with him I miss the good times and suddenly the bad times don’t seem so bad anymore this happens to me every few weeks I haven’t acted on the feeling and I wont my question is which of the modules would shift this energy and get to the core of this self doubt it has been a pattern for me all my life to blame me when things went wrong in any relationship I feel like if I didn’t say anything everything would be ok.
thank for your help
Joan

By: Julie

Julie — Sun, 11 Jan 2015 13:10:39 +0000

When I was in my 17 year long relationship, it was around year 15 that I started to become more apathetic towards him, no longer being hooked by that addicted pull to “make things right” with him. I realized that it didn’t matter what I did, he still would not love me or approve of me. Unfortunately I became more apathetic about my own self too…but that’s another story. As a result of me pulling away and no longer allowing myself to be emotionally manipulated by him, he upped his anti and started to become more angry and physically abusive. Now, we are divorced and we have 50/50 shared parenting. Co-parenting is a nightmare for me and I continually get pulled into fear and anxiety about my children and what he is doing and not doing with them. I feel like I did in the marriage but worse. Between a rock and a hard place, but now no way to manipulate him by feeding his ego. I fear the kids are going to eventually choose him over me because he is entertaining, charming, and has lots of money. He is a master manipulator and is really really good at looking good. I would really like to hear more about how to deal with your narcissist and heal when dealing with co-parenting.

By: Jonas

Jonas — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 17:03:52 +0000

To you who have a hard time, know that there is light.
I have had a really hard time, but now things are turning,
both for myself and people I care about.
It is so wonderful when you heal yourself, things get better not just for you but for people around you, I experienced this directly today.
This would not have happend if I had not found Melanie’s website
and got the NARP program.
So I want to send my gratitude Melanie.

And how beautiful it is, that you are helping those who are struggling financially by donating narp packages, I started tearing up when reading this.
Thank you.

Happy New Year.

By: Tatiana

Tatiana — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 10:45:33 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Thanks for your response Mel. Emotional disconnection from the relationship with the narc and self-care enabled me to enjoy the company of others over Christmas. No ruminating - just new possibilities for my future. New thoughts created new feelings = new memories. Much love and thank you for providing this opportunity to express my voice through your blog. Blessings for 2015 and the vital work you do for so many. x Tatiana

By: Tatiana

Tatiana — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 10:37:00 +0000

In reply to joan. Hi Joan, Christmas is a time filled with loving wishes for others - even those who have hurt us in the past. I hope you weren't too hard on yourself and forgave yourself quickly, surrendering to the shift to come. My energy is with you to continue with No Contact. It works! This blog is an excellent way to encourage others who undergo difficulties. Surround yourself with positivity and believe in your strengths. Well done to you x Tatiana

By: Irene Madrid

Irene Madrid — Sat, 27 Dec 2014 15:30:15 +0000

I have to attend a board meeting every month with the narc. I am so proud of my ability now, to not respond IN ANY WAY to his insults and gas lighting lies. I picture his false and cowardly words as a vapor that pass right by me. A narc wants ANY attention including even negative attention. Anything that tells them they are someone.

Even better, my entire family ( adult children and SIL’S ) , also fully understand this. At one time, narc had us all mistrusting each other but we have made amends and stay strong together.The 13 of us had Christmas dinner together this year for the first time in a long time.

All of this has made me stronger and understand myself better. Thank you Melanie, for your programs.

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Sat, 27 Dec 2014 05:47:39 +0000

I have read several of your articles. They have given me knowledge, hope, and a lot to think about. I have been dating a narc for 3 years. I am drained in my spirit, soul, and body. I have decided that I can not do this another year. 2015, I choose me!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 27 Dec 2014 05:08:56 +0000

In reply to Tatiana.

Hi Tatiana,

how wonderful that you are enforcing the boundaries.

You are so right … when we reclaim ourselves, and truly heal, and the narcissists are No Longer Our Reality the freedom and joy and expansion is indescribable.

There is NO touching that …

Thank you for inspiring others with your post.

Mel xo

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 27 Dec 2014 05:06:51 +0000

In reply to Jill.

HI Jill,

you are so welcome.

I truly do hold space for all of us, knowing that “wellness” is our birthright when we clear ourselves of our own parts that aren’t serving us.

Thank you so much for being a Thriver darl … and I love that you are healing so much, and have been able to overcome so many challenges. Ones that many people would “give up” at.

You are an inspiration Jill.

Bless and hope you, children and family had a wonderful Christmas.

2015 is going to be your year!

Mel xo