Comments on: My Journey To An Evolutionary Love Relationship – Part 2

By: ins in Dublin, OH

ins in Dublin, OH — Mon, 01 May 2017 20:28:57 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Thanks for taking the time to post. It's lifted the level of debate

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http://www.florida912groups.com/ — Mon, 27 Mar 2017 13:20:00 +0000

In reply to http://www.personalityrelationships.net. I think the smartest name mentioned was Tony Allen. Unfortunately with the signing of Blake, I don’t think Allen is in the cards but he is a terrific on ball defender and can flat out stop pg’s. He could be signed for the remaining MLE but doubtful. I don’t see another defender out there as good.

By: Loren

Loren — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 04:24:35 +0000

Finding this post has anwsered my prayers

By: Buddy

Buddy — Tue, 08 Nov 2016 02:47:49 +0000

In reply to http://www.personalityrelationships.net. Stay with this guys, you're helipng a lot of people.

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http://www.personalityrelationships.net — Thu, 22 May 2014 06:48:58 +0000

Thank you for sharing your love story. It is very entertaining and informative at the same time. I think that a lot of single people that are not so lucky in love like myself will have fun and learn a lot reading this. I was able to relate my past experience and get an idea of what I might have been doing wrong. I’m definitely following the tips you have here and hopefully I’ll be more successful in the relationship department. Thanks!

– Tavia Cruz

By: Thinus Coetzee

Thinus Coetzee — Wed, 12 Mar 2014 14:47:16 +0000

Awwww this was SO great to read! Thanks to everyone who wrote here! I so enjoyed what I call my “relationship sabbatical” the past year and a half, during which I could just enjoy my”self”, learn to love my”self” even more and develop to a greater level. I made a conscious decision not to attach, although the urge was there but upon reflection (and hindsight), it would not have been the right thing to do during the past period. I wanted to honor myself in the decision I took to undertake my relationship sabbatical. This was such a precious time for me! I could attend to myself, body, soul and spirit. I lost a tremendous amount of weight (by choice!), now lead a very healthy and balanced lifestyle, write more than ever before, study and lecture each and every day and learned to love more,starting with me. I cannot give what I do not have, thus I learned that I can only give love if I have love. And I met so many wonderful people during this period, even those of the opposite sex and they all cheered me on, on my road! And I know that the time will come when life will present me with an opportunity again to have my “special one”, my Beloved. Until then, I will continue to grow and smile!

By: AF

AF — Mon, 03 Mar 2014 05:44:08 +0000

I am really enjoying you sharing your journey, thank you so much! Can’t wait to read part 3 🙂 I’m baracking for ‘the friend’ which of course says more about me than you 😉

Reading this, I understand now (again) why I am dating a guy who’s evasive, bad at communicating and unreliable. Yup, time to look into my fear of being abandoned and neglected. I thought I’d done the work, but I’m struggling with this test, so obviously some more stuff needs looking at. I will look into what I need to do myself to feel safe and cared for and stop asking him to give that to me. So many layers to those old fears…

Much love,
AF

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 02 Mar 2014 19:12:19 +0000

In reply to Louise.

Hi Louise,

I am so glad this article resonated with you!

How fantastic that you are in your body sourcing your life through your aligned truth.

It is SO powerful when we have done enough self-analysis, and self-work to FIRMLY understand where our previous blind spots are, and when we have realised what is necessary to up-level ourselves and do it DIFFERENTLY.

And when we know LIfe is an unlimited stream bringing to us ‘more of ourself’ and we NO LONGER need to except crumbs, OR our painful previous wounds.

THAT Is true personal evolution.

I want to shout out a huge BRAVO for you!

Mel xo

By: Louise

Louise — Sun, 02 Mar 2014 18:13:18 +0000

Hey Melanie,

your words resonate beyond belief for me. Having committed to my own self development as a thriver and generally being ridiculously busy, I wasn’t looking to date but by pure chance (on my part anyway) became reacquainted with a male school friend. This was my test, the universe was obviously saying “hey, you, have you got it yet?”

On the surface this guy had a good job, was pleasantly attractive and flattered me (vacuous, but it is always nice to get a compliment)and I decide to meet him for a date. However, my instinct is yelling ‘get out’ and I was unsure whether this was a damaged part of me shunning the idea of any relationship, which could be self-sabotaging. I kept an open mind on this.

The instinct was right. I walked out on the date after an hour and what followed was a persuasion-fest, he could ‘look after me’ and ‘help with money’ for example. I don’t need looking after and I am not broke and certainly didn’t discuss my financial situation with him, but his belief system about women shone to the fore with that particular offer.

Like yourself, I feel I passed the test. The old me would have jumped at a mediocre offer of being externally validated, would have fallen for the post-date persuasion and some of the pity-play he tried to engage my empathy with on the date (his ex was a “bitch, how about that!?!).

The experience was highly valid and worthwhile and proved that I have shifted to a better place with a healthier boundary function. It’s taken a lot of work, time and self reflection and I perceive my journey continues, not that I have reached a destination.

Thank you for sharing. Always adore reading your work.

Much Love