Comments on: Narcissistic Abuse and Complicated Grief https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 07 Dec 2025 17:41:11 +0000 hourly 1 By: Jana https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1286222 Sun, 07 Dec 2025 17:41:11 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1286222 I was married to a narcissist for 37 1/2 years and I was with him for 40 years. I had a child with him she my child is thriving. My husband died five years ago and yesterday is when I first learned about this. I don’t think I was ready to learn about it before yesterday. Yes, I’ve been going through Complicated grief. That’s what my therapist called it. I’m not sure what to do with my feelings. I’m finally starting to get over my addiction to him but now I feel like what did I do with my 40 years with him? Was it a waste of my life? I guess I’m a slow learner. At least I’m able to build a new life in my retirement.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1279562 Sat, 25 Mar 2023 03:57:17 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1279562 In reply to Imke.

Hi Imke,

it’s my pleasure!

Awwww Imke, I feel the same way about Quanta Freedom Healing, when all else is lost – that is how everything I need is found.

Much Love to you and thank you for Thriving On!

As well as your lovely big hug to all!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1279561 Sat, 25 Mar 2023 03:55:33 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1279561 In reply to Annie Evans.

Hi Annie,

please know we totally do!

I’d love you to come into our wonderful NARP Member’s firm – so that you can reach out for support and connect.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

I hope that this helps and much love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Imke https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1279551 Fri, 24 Mar 2023 07:10:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1279551 Thank you, Mel!
This article again really pushed me on the right track.

Whenever evening time started I noticed a sudden diffuse sadness coming over me.
I related it to my fear of darkness which I had developed during the aftershock and shifted topics on loneliness etc., while tiptoeing around some other traumas.

As you said- Until that point I really actually thought I was over this, because my life already has reached a good amount of happiness and stability.
But after reading your article I realized that it was still some bigger inner grief within my body about just everything.

So, I allowed myself to feel it all again and within a second I cried like a baby and shifted it all out!
Today I will use the Goal Setting Module (can’t wait) and I am sure my nighttime grey veil will dissolve!

Thank you!!!!!

Plus I also realized- whenever I am stranded on a lonely island and I could only take one thing:
It had to be the NARP program (:

big hug to all

]]> By: Annie Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1279548 Thu, 23 Mar 2023 23:36:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1279548 Dear Melanie, I started your program over 10 years ago. I had endured a narcissistic marriage for 47 years and divorced 8 years ago. Your program was a lifeline for me and it really worked. I could never totally get rid of my ex. I am now in a much healthier place but at 77;years of age I am so tired of trying to find enthusiasm for life. Do you have other thrivers in my age group.

]]> By: beatrice https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1279541 Thu, 23 Mar 2023 15:54:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1279541 In reply to Marie.

Marie, I feel you.
Have you joined NARP? This program has given me so much. Its better than chatting with a friend or going to any therapist. I myself come from a narcissistic family and broke up with an ex narcissist last summer. I couldnt sleep, eat or even get out of bed. I have no relatives or close ones to talk to and joining NARP made a drastic change in my recovery and grief. Even the free master class event of Melanie has given me hope from the very beginning.
I now see how big my expectations were in regards of relationships (and why I have given so much power to a man) while our biggest strength is actually within ourselves. Its not a dead end, NARP is a new beginning. Take care, have faith. Lots of Love, Béatrice

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1279531 Thu, 23 Mar 2023 05:05:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1279531 In reply to Heidi.

Hi Heidi,

I love that you are feeling hope!

Please feel love and support from myself and this community

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1279530 Thu, 23 Mar 2023 05:04:11 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1279530 In reply to Libeth.

Hi Libeth,

it is so true that this is not a grief that can be compared to another.

I’m so happy that you feel validated and this has brought some clarity as to why you have been feeling the way you have.

Please know NARP membership is here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp and if you require any help downloading your program in any way, all you need to do is email support@melanietoniaevans.com and one of my lovely support team will help you.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-and-complicated-grief/#comment-1279529 Thu, 23 Mar 2023 04:56:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12864#comment-1279529 In reply to Peter.

Hi Peter,

my heart goes out to you for what you have been through – so much loss and trauma.

NARP is the “cleaning out” tool to make way for Source to step in – and heal what we simply can’t. It’s also Peter, with n’s about No Contact to heal … otherwise we just keep always rolling around in it. I know you have ties, but as long as they exist you are keeping taking the poison which is poisoning you – unfortunately, there is no way beyond that.

It’s like living in or even visiting a mold-infested house – the spores get in.

You either clean up the mold or move and stop visiting.

Narcissists are a mold that can never be cleaned up.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

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