Comments on: Narcissistic Abuse Is The Greatest Opportunity To Create The New You https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Wed, 09 Dec 2020 07:58:55 +0000 hourly 1 By: Eve Berriman https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/#comment-1245283 Wed, 09 Dec 2020 07:58:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=973#comment-1245283 This is so spot on. I have finally realized all of this and that this is why it happened , because I had to heal the broken parts of me I was hiding for so long.

It has been a brutal lesson, number of lessons actually, but so necessary. I am shifting into a space of being grateful for this experience even though it still hurts.

]]> By: Helena https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/#comment-1015700 Sun, 25 Mar 2018 10:03:36 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=973#comment-1015700 I am so grateful for this post! I thought I was destroyed by my narc, however what I really was is broken open. What a gift! I did not realize this until I got into another narc relationship and was able to see it! See the damage we both have, the insecurities we both have, etc. I was able to say no- very hard as this one was drop dead gorgeous.. lol.. however- still not healthy. So grateful🙏🏻

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/#comment-910836 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 06:17:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=973#comment-910836 In reply to Karen.

Hi Karen,

If we circle back it’s generally because we have not yet found and healed what that person brings up for us – and “that” – the internal wounds within us is as yet unfinished business.

This doesn’t means we should still play it out with this person, it means that we have internal trauma healing to do on ourselves so that we don’t continue living out the pattern of people who represent these wounds.

Have you done the internal recovery work as a result of narcissistic abuse? If not come into my free webinar in order to understand how to: https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewenbinar

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

]]> By: Karen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/#comment-910424 Sat, 12 Aug 2017 23:51:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=973#comment-910424 This is my second Narcissist dating and now one in the Family who just appeared. I seriously couldn’t understand why this was happening. My father recently passed away who was my rock. I realized I was on my own and started taking responsibility for myself realizing I needed to be more self reliant. As I did I started noticing the narcissistic behavior more and more. I also noticed how I wanted to get away from it. My niece helps take care of my Mom and is an extreme Narcissist. She spends my moms money with out guilt or hesitation. She shows up late leave early with no remorse. Unreal I am the executor so I pay her for this. She has no respect for me and does not listen to anything I have to say. I could go on and on.
The second Narcissist (yet to be confirmed) is a guy I started out dating 4 years ago. I had PSTD, using drugs to medicate. He a very successful engineer. Couldn’t quite understand what he say in me. He was a loner, never many girlfriends but fairly attractive. He helped me get off the drugs and alcohol. I noticed as I got better he seemed to get meaner. Or was it that I just didn’t notice it before? I finally ended it calling him a Narcissistic Pig. I had no contact for 3 months. I recently emailed him apologizing for my name calling and that I dont’ like being that person. Well he jumped right end and convinced me to see him again. I went to see him and he seemed like he was uninterested in anything I had to say. So I just left. He then asked me to do something with him on Sunday. Oh have to tell you this. 1 1/2 year into the relationship we decided just to be friends, never had sex again but still hung out like we always did. I think I would like to keep the friendship but concerned that I should move on that it will keep me stuck. Please advise. I have to say this. I felt blessed reading your article, when the student is ready the teacher will come. I was ready.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/#comment-907940 Sun, 06 Aug 2017 07:13:12 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=973#comment-907940 In reply to Janette Alvarez.

Hi Janette,

it’s my pleasure 🙂

Wishing you many blessings and incredible liberation.

Mel xo

]]> By: Janette Alvarez https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/#comment-907911 Sun, 06 Aug 2017 05:50:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=973#comment-907911 Thank you for this article. It really makes so much sense and put things in a very helpful perspective. I was feeling so low today because yesterday I got divorced papers from my ex. I think he us a narcissists but I didn’t put it all together until after he left me and froze me out. I haven’t even finished reading the article yet and so excited to finish it and all your other writings. Your words, your knowledge is heavenly sent I believe.

Thank you!!!

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]]> By: Marlien https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/#comment-720911 Tue, 08 Nov 2016 03:01:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=973#comment-720911 In reply to Jane.

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]]> By: Sarah https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-abuse-is-the-greatest-opportunity-to-create-the-new-you/#comment-38637 Mon, 04 Mar 2013 17:25:33 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=973#comment-38637 Hi,
I have only just had the penny drop. I have been in no contact for 3 weeks yet he is still emailing me saying I never loved him. I developed stomach cancer while we were together and the abuse got worse during my chemotherapy. I am still fearful of what he may threaten next. He carried out one threat, I guess I just have to sit and wait and find inner strength just hope my cancer disapears now he’s gone. x

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