Comments on: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery – The Stockdale Paradox

By: Marina

Marina — Thu, 27 Apr 2023 22:55:51 +0000

Hi Mel 😊,

Thank you 🙏🥰!

Beautiful 🥰! I’m so happy for you! 🤗
It seems like a lot of work and I believe you feel prouve of you for how far you’ve come with this commitment.
Bravo 👏🏻!

I love as well the workshops and all the people in there 🥰🙌🏼 We’re such a great team!! 🙌🏼☺️
I’ll join you next Tuesday as I was called to continue doing shifts tonight and healing after profound yoga 🧘🏼‍♀️ session earlier today so I have to do what feels right.
Say hello to everyone from me 🥰🤗

By: Marina

Marina — Thu, 27 Apr 2023 22:54:24 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Hi Mel 😊,

Thank you 🙏🥰!

Beautiful 🥰! I’m so happy for you! 🤗
It seems like a lot of work and I believe you feel prouve of you for how far you’ve come with this commitment.
Bravo 👏🏻!

Say hello to everyone from me 🥰🤗

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 27 Apr 2023 08:04:14 +0000

In reply to Marina.

Hi Marina,

please know how welcome you are.

Thank you Marina, I has taken much energy and commitment up here in Cape Trib, and still does but it is so worth it!

I 100% know this all came about because of letting go and allowing Source in. I could not have planned this place better! I love that you are feeling the incredible relief and expansion of letting go of the Old Self.

Im looking forward to catching up with you in Bootcamp tomorrow. I love this group, our sessions are already amazing!

So Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Marina

Marina — Mon, 24 Apr 2023 07:31:20 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Hi Mel 🤗,

Thank you very much for you’re loving and supporting reply! I learned to be my own source of self of approval and validation but it feels really good to receive it from you. Thank you 🥰🙏💗😇!

I’ve just googled your Cape Tribulation training and I stumble upon your blog post where you and your partner made this sustainable paradise of your home ✨🦚🏆🍀! What a luck and blessing!! So proud of you Mel 💝🙌🏼😌!! It’s incredible what a potential is hiding below all these traumas and you’re truly inspiration and example to everyone to keep digging and releasing all this BS so we can live our true selfs and highest timeline 🦚🏆😇🙏🥇!!

It would be my pleasure to join your training 😌. I’ve always wanted to visit Australia and was been calling to go there, even though wild life there a bit scares me 😅 but that will just help me even more to connect to divine and have ultime trust in God and that everything will be alright 😇✨🦚.

I’m now doing dating bootcamp and still NARP in parallel and I know there’s still a lots of healing to be done but boy oh boy with every one of the shifts I can see myself transforming into my beautiful true self and I’m super excited and happy to see what’s more to come 💓🍀🤗🥳🥰😇 cannot even wait 😄 so impatient at times hehe 😜 I’m even doing around 6+ hours per day shifts besides two jobs 😄 that’s how committed I am to my healing ❤️‍🩹😄 nothing is stopping me anymore, I’m full force going to the greatness 😄😎😇🙌🏼🙏🦚✨🥇🏆🥰🍀💕🥳🙌🏼.

See you soon in the bootcamp and cannot wait for your new blog post 🙌🏼 They are such a nuggets of wisdom and knowledge!! Thank you very much 💕😘

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 22 Apr 2023 22:32:25 +0000

In reply to KAREN.

Hi Karen,

everything you wrote is so true.

Please know how welcome you are and Im pleased that this helped.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: KAREN

KAREN — Sat, 22 Apr 2023 21:23:44 +0000

The biggest take away for me was: “There is evil in the world – narcissistic and even psychopathic people. We know this by seeing their actions, no matter what we would like to believe about them. Facing reality means facing facts, listening to ourselves, critically thinking, being alert, and protecting and empowering ourselves.” By seeing their actions no matter what we would like to think really hits home since it clarfies what I need to believe. The love bombing confuses our brains so much compared to what they do to us during the discard, which is what we need to keep in mind. There is no way a person who loves us could be so hateful or full of contempt and that is what we need to remember to move on. That is facing reality. Keeping that in mind will help us take the steps needed to move on and stop the cognitive disonance that is so destructive to our mental health. It doesn’t really matter why they did it but that they did do the mean thing that hurt us so deeply without even caring that they hurt us. Thank you for putting it so succintly. I have to accept the reality of the situation and plan for the future instead of hoping he’ll come around and realize the error of his ways! It’s just going to be very hard after my reputation has been trashed but I’ll do my best to move beyond this. Thank you!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 17 Apr 2023 10:21:50 +0000

In reply to Doug.

Hi Doug,

So great you are feeling the balance of realism with empowerment!

And that you get “this” on a deep level.

Come along Doug to DBC- it’s been great for guys in the last group.

It’s Tuesdays and Thursdays for the USA and if you can’t make a session live – it’s no problem.

Thank you for your lovely words Doug and Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Doug

Doug — Fri, 14 Apr 2023 13:38:14 +0000

Thank You, Melanie!

As Always, and especially the last few articles, this is very timely and so needed. I am relating now to this balancing of pragmatism and optimism to get out of a tough situation as meaning that there is a right way and a wrong way to connect with outside help and support, or even connect in relationship. To seek the peace and fulfillment of communing in a way that lets you be heard, believed, valued or accepted may just draw in more persecution, parasitic domination or reflect back more of what you are hoping to escape. If we reform that pattern of going outward and go inward instead, to surgically remove that bad feeling, with surgical-like caring focus and skill, (NARP) we can connect healthily and thrive. The challenges that brought us this opportunity to graduate to self-empowerment can then be seen as having divine purpose.
I wonder what days and times the twice-a-week relationship healing bootcamp thing is happening?
So so grateful for your light in this world, Melanie!

Doug

By: Always reflecting

Always reflecting — Thu, 13 Apr 2023 13:59:55 +0000

Hello Melanie,
Thank you for posting this video. A lot of people in my home country, which was occupied during WWII, died or survived in concentration camps, and their stories are everywhere in our history and literature. I’m omitting the names since this is an open blog. So this feels personal in a sense. Yes, some intentionally abuse their power over ordinary people. I also look around, read the world news and realize that the people who suffer due to the abuse do not deserve it and neither do we who are following your blog. From this perspective, like we’re a lot who are in this together on one level or another, worldwide, it becomes clearer what it means to face reality. And the end of your usual greeting “because there’s nothing else to do”, makes sense on a deeper level.