I am right with you in this, mine is 20 years. He didn’t get physical but over the years he had thrown things, jumped up at me etc to make me think he would, but all rhe other stuff he has done. Telling people I’ve done things I didn’t do, lying and making himself look good. He was doing good deeds to make himself look so go in public, but yet in private he was a jerk. my young son he always called names, i have a post he did calling my son a name. I told him to stop, my son is good and his bio son isn’t a good kid, he lies, steals, and does drugs, but mine went a different way joined the military and is doing good and helping me. While his own bio son is still living at home with mom, got busted for drugs last year, is 28 yrs old, still dont have a regular job. He is doing things some of my friends what I do have they know me and how I am and yet he is trying to provoke me so I go to jail etc i dont go out unless someone is with me cant trust him at all. Less than a cou ple weeks its over, and i will be moving over 10 hours away from my current location to get away from him.

My younger sister actually sent me information when I couldn’t figure out what was happening after 21 years and all the abuse: verbal, emotional, spiritual and eventually physical. She watched me become a shell of myself over 21 years. Thank you for your insight. His tactics had names! Gaslighting, all the lies, making me feel like I had disrespected boundaries…lol…Thank you, turning a corner but still lots of work to do.

I was married to a narcissist for 11 years (and believe me, he said all those 10 things and more). Divorced, suffered, grieved, and thought I healed myself. But here I go again!
I am in the same boat, Jean, but I think I lucked out before it went too far. I did a lot for him just because I loved him and wanted to do it not expecting anything in return. We had all the “love” words you can imagine, plans to move in, meeting his family and friends, and (that’s the worst part) introducing my children who are completely in love with him. One day we are discussing going on vacation in a few weeks, and in two days he stormed out of the house with an excuse that I get offended easily (but he said we are not breaking up, he is just going to cool off). Now no phone calls, no text messages, not even a word that we are breaking up but he is meeting other girls now. What happened? And how to explain to the kids that it’s not me (I didn’t even fight with him that night, just asked not to leave). Their narcissistic father already told them that I am a screw up and I never will be in a relationship because of who I am. Is it me who did something wrong or is it him who is a narcissist? I still can’t figure it out…

Hi Jean,

I am so sorry you are going through this and feeling this pain.

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I hope this helps

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💛