It is so inspiring to read about everyones challenges and to know we are not alone. I have spent many years now working on clearing patterns and have managed to encouorage my Mum to do a bit of adjusting too. I guess the old joke is “when will it end :)’ I will be4 years out of my marriage at the end of Aug 2012 ans still feel like I have not moved at all sometimes but my daughter who is now about to turn 20 in June encourages me and tells me how much faster I pull myself back together when I fall in a heap. The most amazing things is how sure my daughter and son (17yo) are about moving on. They also clear a lot of patterns as they were rejected by not only their Dad but their grandparents on his side as well. We then tried to move to be near my sister and her family in another state only to have the same things happen when we wanted to make our own choices. So I guess the pattern is usually in our family first not just the partners family. I struggle with one moment feeling liberated and empowered and then suddenly I question what I have done and put energy into how I can build back these relationships. I recently tuned 50 and my daughter arranged a surprise party for me and they were all lovely people with no dramas and it was a great evening. My daughter always tells me that I spend too much time thinking of those who do not love me than the many who do. my kids call me an inspiration but they have truely been an inspiration to me. They are so clear on what is and is not acceptable – yet I can still worry that I have caused them harm by leaving the marriage. But is getting better and better day by day. Love to you all love KJ

I can totally relate to what you write here Melanie, since I have lived my so far 39 year long life with one foot in the old days and one foot in todays world. My parents and me and my sister are two generations that are doing a huge shift and we all have faced a lot of great challenges, a lot of trauma. Some of those traumas are ones that have been heired through generations, and that is the relational ones, that both me and my sister are working sorting out to break free and be able to be ourselves instead of trapped in the limits of DNA, mind programming from our childhoods and so on. There are many factors.

I developed a complex posttraumatic stress syndrom while breaking physically out of these patterns, and I have to this moment believed that it was from my childhood AND my 6 years within an abusive relationship, but now it becomes clear that it is from my whole line of ancestors that I am doing this. No wonder why it makes my world shake in its fundaments, and I am struggling with a lot of stress and fears while making the line of tries and failings that is required to learn new patterns that is functional fo what I now have become (much more liberated). And no; I am NOT settling for anything less than the best. Why procrastinate it, and leave it to eventual future children of mine to struggle with? ;o) How we choose to live our lives does not only affect ourselves, but also the DNA we plant in the future through breeding having children. The expression “personal responsibility” gets new dimensions with this insight. Wow. So that is some of the meaning with what is written in the Bible, and the seemingly endless focusing in the human breeding lines through time and living rules. It is certainly a lot of wisdom to find, and I love the way the whole world is about to unite in some pretty world changing wisdom. All the best for everyone in it! 🙂

Thank you Melanie for this wonderful post! Now I shall read the comments, I bet there are many grains of gold there, so thank you to all of my commenting fellows as well! 🙂

absolutely may all of our sisters one day be free, and have the rights to be safe and empowered.

Thank you my love for your powerful post of truth. I believe that all of us are connected, and we can do our bit by vibrationally seeing, feeling and knowing that all of us as women can and will heal, and that we can do our bit to become a conscious, safe, empowered woman who feels and knows her rights.

By doing so we assist the rise of the consciousness of our sisters of whom we are all a part of.

Its very important that if we wish to passionately make a difference, get involved in ‘pro’ groups – groups that focus on assisting women to be free and know that they have rights…

It’s very important to be ‘aware’ of what needs reform, and then focus our energy on being a part of that reform…

Just like narcissists, lets take our focus off pushing against narcissists and systems that brutalise women, as it only feed them, and lets put our energy firmly on the ways, movements and energy to create empowerment within the hearts and souls of victims

This vibrationally is the true and powerful solution.

Everyone reading this post, don’t vibrate into the pain, despair and horror of what happens to these women, becuase we only help manifest them staying there.

Send them your feelings of empowerment, glory, healing and raised consciousness and freedom.

And if you feel inspired to do something, keep that passion alive in you, and you will know what to do, and be drawn to joining or creating causes that DO make a difference.

THEN we start creating POWERFULLY more of that…..

Bless you Val, and thank you for co-creating healing to our sisters…..xxx

that is so wonderful that you are honouring yourself, staying aligned with deservedness, and not settling by giving in to ‘scarcity’ beliefs’. The wonderful truth is that when you state a ‘no’, life then rearranges itself, and becomes more clear on your intentions and starts delivering a higher vibration of possibles in order to match your ‘yes’. There is never ‘loss’ just more expansion of you as the Creator of your reality. Wonderful stuff! xx

it is wonderful that powerful realisations have set you free, and you have become self-aware in regard to breaking free from the old patterns. Keep up the great work, and only great things can come! I am glad my material has helped be a part of that Bless x

Lovely to hear from you! I am so happy for you – and now you are creating a platform of solidness that you can make a great relationship choice from! Kudos to you lovely lady. The journey has been so worth you to getting to this empowered point 🙂 xxx

yes definetely we can reprogram our DNA. When we change our beleif systems we cange our entire ‘being’.That is what is so wonderful about healing ourselves, nothing has to stay ‘as it is’. Yes totally agree it is very importnat to be content, whole and then ‘add more to that’ if it is our desire to have a healthy relationship, but we must become healthy within us first – we only ever attract, allow and sustain ‘where we are at’. And ‘where we are at’ is also our unconscious beleifs – because they are the most powerful drivers within us.

Our inner identity recreates itself as our outer reality to the letter – and often we may not be conscious about what is really going on at that deeper level, until th eouter reality shows up and smacks us in the face!

This is why I love the deeper energetic work that does make the changes at the deep inner self identity level! xx