Hi, Heart Fully Grateful,

(Love your name!)

Thank you for your gorgeous uplifting post and so happy that this hit the spot for you!

Lots of love and blessings!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Pietta,

thank you for your support!

Im thrilled this resonated with you and has helped.

Much love back to you!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Valerie,

you are very welcome!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

There are big breakthroughs with module 2 happening on this. It was a neglected module because it didn’t make sense, logically, to worry about the narc as being a source of fulfillment, approval and survival since her toxicity is so crystal clear and the desire to avoid her is so strong. Module 2, is so very helpful for addiction but also, or more specifically on how it helped, is that it helped to change my need to explain and justify my choices to others. That was about me needing understanding and approval from others for my own boundaries.

Addiction, for me, is a lack of focus and motivation to stay on track with healthy goals. It feels connected to the paralyzing fear of putting strategic energy (careful explaining) into confrontation to protect myself and my young daughter because of the horrible outcomes of the past where explaining, providing clarity and truth, just backfired repeatedly.

I have observed that truth and clear facts threaten those who rely on the entitlement to lie to proclaim power over others and they seem to unite in that cause when they are exposed. I am realizing that being clear with the facts and the truth can draw in more abuse because I desperately needed truth to protect me. Also I noticed I carry judgement and disdain for liars, those who are blindly bias and even fanatical delusional extremist. I am afraid of the power they have over my life and that fear manifest as anger, feeling of injustice.

I am gaining lots of strong solid clarity inside about shifting away from needing to explain and trusting in myself and true source more instead. I feel less angry towards deceivers and feel sorry for their predicament and less of a need to explain, correct and prescribe to those who have problems that are not mine.

I am, however, as usual, in the thick of it, and have several court hearings looming where I am not sure what to do. Also, there are big changes caused by me standing my ground. The people I have depended on have suddenly left. That actually feels good. It just happened cleanly and quickly, without a lot of verbosity and conflict, just me expressing boundary. A person with shining integrity quickly showed up and I am kind of excited about the changes.

Does any other specific advice come to mind that might help keep me on track with overcoming that tension related to hiding in unhealthy patterns to avoid confrontation?

So very grateful for you, my guiding star, and your whole team.

Thanks as always! 💕🎶💕

I was really impressed with the content of this article and how a particular addiction that I have had and still do have needs to be addressed!

Since I was discarded I have spent too much time in the evenings on either Amazon or eBay, mostly browsing, but sometimes buying things that I thought would make me feel better about myself or make me happy!

Guess what? It didn’t help….

After listening to you and reading the article this “endeavor” was/ is simply illusory and quite frankly damaging.

I was spending money that I shouldn’t have because I don’t have a lot of money and I was buying things that were completely unnecessary.

I would order things and then in a few days items would arrive in the mail and I would open them up with excitement!

And then, so many times, I would ask myself “what the hell are you doing buying these things that you do absolutely not need”!

For instance, how many different types of sprouting seeds do I really need to make sprouts or how much incense do I really need, etc., etc.,
It became a cycle….

When I heard you talk about addictions I saw very clearly that this activity of mine was certainly addictive and completely unhealthy.

It didn’t make me feel any better and when the novelty of something new and shiny wore off I still had the same issues to deal with that temporally were nonexistent hiding somewhere in the illusory life I was creating in those moments….

I’m very glad that I got to listen to you and read this article today because now I see clearly that this is a major issue that I need to shift out of me or at least manage it with a semblance of balance.

The contents of your articles, continue to amaze me! Who’d think that addiction can be such a serious problem for people who are trying to manage trauma bond and narcissistic abuse?

Well, it’s true and now I have another thing, another challenge and another issue to work on and hopefully shift out of my life for once and for good…

Thank you so much for continuing to expose to this planet earth your wisdom, your life experience that you so graciously share with us and everything else, Melanie
I needed some inspiration today and this article inspired me!
Thank you so much!
Sending love and gratitude, as always, Melanie!
❤️🦋❤️