Comments on: Reclaim Your Radiance and Confidence After Abuse https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 05 Nov 2024 14:08:24 +0000 hourly 1 By: D https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1283537 Wed, 25 Oct 2023 06:12:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1283537 Unfortunately, the two narcissist in my life, one has tried to flip the script playing the victim etc, and the other when I didn’t respond to texts started wondering if she’d made me angry and apologetic in the texts. When I countered with a text off the subject she sent me a pic of her new car and started down the path of her wealth over mine. I told her I had to go and to enjoy. The one who plays the victim I acquired an app blocker that blocks fb, instagram and Pinterest because she posts things being married to our son and having cut him out of our lives completely, makes it about herself and her family. If we try and make contact she complains about any and everything and is a one upper, tit for tat. We haven’t seen our son since 2016.
Regardless of this, we have moved on. When it comes to adorning myself I indulge in doing home facials, there’s nothing like rubbing organic coconut oil and soaking in a bath with lavender essential oils. I also do the coconut oil on the ends of my hair before shampooing and after the bath use coconut oil on my elbows and other rough areas like heels etc. Have you all tried “growing young Gracefully?” Look it up! The oils she blends for face and body smell heavenly. And she also does yoga for those who have suffered loss. I once asked her about a beauty routine for older women and the advice she gave was so simple I stick to it today! Organic coconut oil, sunscreen, a little flush of color on cheeks and lips, and eyeliner or mascara. I’ve reverted from perfumes to essential oils making body sprays. After this, who cares what the narcissist is up to haha!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1282948 Sun, 13 Aug 2023 05:25:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1282948 In reply to joey.

Hi Joey,

that’s really beautiful!

So gorgeous!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: joey https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1282662 Fri, 04 Aug 2023 11:43:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1282662 I forgot to mention that one of the salons I love in this country was set up for the benefit of trauma survivors – to help to build confidence in themselves again!

]]> By: joey https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1282661 Fri, 04 Aug 2023 11:41:02 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1282661 Sounds like fun. I started to dress as my authentic self once again this year! With the fabrics, textures and colours I love! I have some sensory issues with ASD so I decided to honour my unique needs and to not put pressure on myself to wear fabrics which make me feel overstimulated or anxious (a win for a trauma survivor as well as a nureo diverse person who has had a lot of internalised albeism).

I would love to learn more about makeup, particularly organic options… recently I achieved my goal of eating three meals a day as I kept forgetting to eat! Now I am setting my focus to a low inflammation – 3 meals a day while also allowing my body to ENJOY the food I eat and enjoy the benefits from the changes.

I also used to love and admire and compliment people’s style and authentic expression… I met a man today with amazing hair and he looked very much himself, happy and accepting… so it is fun that I am starting to notice authentic people once again through my own journey through my love of personal/ individual style.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1280905 Sun, 28 May 2023 05:19:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1280905 In reply to Ameena.

Hi Ameena,

it’s going to be wonderful having you in QM with us all!

Oh can’t wait to gorgeous you up!!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Peter https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1280887 Fri, 26 May 2023 14:28:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1280887 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Dear Melanie!
Thank you so much, Melanie, for your continuing support, to me and so many others, as we all go through our journeys here on this earth!
It’s quite an experience, isn’t it?
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and guidance (NARP) and doing so much to help us find our WAY! 🌟
Much love! πŸ’ž
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]]> By: Ameena https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1280876 Fri, 26 May 2023 05:55:06 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1280876 Yes! I would love to sign up for quantum makeover and I promise myself after typing this message I shall. It is a present for myself as all of Mel’s courses are. After 30 years in a narcissistic marriage I gained a huge amount of weight (comfort eating). Using NARP helped the weight to drop off nice and slowly without effort along with exercising. Next step a new wardrobe is needed 🀣 as most of my clothes almost fall off my body! As a teenager I loved makeup and hair care, yet during my marriage I felt – not allowed to take care of myself as it is selfish to do so 🧐 must focus on him and the children only! So happy those days are over. ❀️

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1280862 Thu, 25 May 2023 08:15:28 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1280862 In reply to Peter.

Hi Peter,

that is fantastic that you had that inner solidness and calm!

Being “triggerless” is vital when having to deal against narcissistic tactics, and it is all of NARP that helps that so much http://www.melanietoniaevans.com – also the NARP goal setting Module of “I am free of the internal triggers that once derailed me” is SOOOO powerful!”

(I’m using this now in a situation in my life!)

Much Love

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Laurie Swanson https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/reclaim-your-radiance-and-confidence-after-abuse/#comment-1280853 Wed, 24 May 2023 18:46:30 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13376#comment-1280853 My sister I think has the house wired for sound maybe even the phone bugged so she is listening to my calls. I feel like I am in prison of Cathy’s and Paul’s hell

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