Comments on: Setting Goals and Aligning With What You Want Next Year

By: becca

becca — Sun, 04 Jan 2015 16:17:41 +0000

I want to add my voice to the New Year posts because last year at this time I could never have guessed how my year would turn around, and turn into something I absolutely LOVE living in! It’s two years ago mid-January that I found Melanie’s site (amongst a zillion others, it seemed the most authentic to me, and the money back promise with the QFH course made it the real-est). Anyway, i started the NARP program and at the time, it was three months since I’d managed to extricate myself and my son away from a 24 year relationship with a N. Everyone here knows how dangerous and depleting that can be, so I’m not going to go into that part.

I feel such huge gratitude to Melanie, the NARP program (which I was happy to pay for!) and the people here for saving my life, and for orienting me towards something so much greater than safety and survival. It’s like you work the program and accumulate a different sort of focus and energy. At times it feels like you’re spinning your wheels and it’ll never get better. But what alternative is there? By the time we get to this site, no one wants to go back to the pain and cycles of abuse. The last thing in my marriage (infidelity) , was the Last Thing. (for more invaluable help on this particular subject visit chumplady.com)

What I want to tell any newcomers here, is that if you work the program you will find that it IS cumulative! At a certain point, all of the new stuff you learn here kind of builds up until it tips over and flows out, and everything starts to change in amazing ways. Thank you so much Melanie! You shine a light in all the dark corners.

I’m also prompted to write because someone in the comments said that she couldn’t grab hold of the NARP or QFH program because of the muscle testing. I have the earlier version of NARP, with a stream of conscious type introduction to each section by Melanie. I also have the second version with the muscle testing. For me, the first version is better, because of Melanie’s prompts and thoughts, which contain vast amounts of insight, and so much so that you can’t catch them all in one, and why repeating the modules is like opening out origami, insights unfold the more often you do the modules.

So I just want to say that maybe- Melanie- maybe, you ought to have both versions available. I like the ‘extended play’ of the first version. Always by level three, I find myself yawning and relaxing into a new state of mind.

OK, that’s enough from me. My goal this year is to move beyond lingering regrets and self-judgement, and live inside and allow myself to truly feel the outpouring of grace that I have been showered with this past year. Happy New Year to all newcomers!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 01 Jan 2015 22:46:01 +0000

Melanie, I am currently on what I call a silent weekend away from everybody and everything, and I listened to your MP3 on “Tips for Quantum Freedom Healing” again. I now REALIZE why I didn’t get through or to the program last year. All the answers are right there in the MP3…

Thank you

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 28 Dec 2014 06:07:43 +0000

I have a confession to make. I failed to complete or even get past Module one the whole year long. I kept starting over because I wasn’t sure of the muscle test. I felted that the muscle test was something that needed to be performed correctly and order to work the program correctly. After a few attempts I stop trying and the next thing you know it’s December all over again. I have stayed in touch by listening to the radio shows.

My intentions for the coming year are to:

work toward overcoming procrastination
work through NARP modules
do those things that are best for me, whether I feel like it or not
practice positive thoughts and speech
work toward improving my financial picture
start a physical fitness program
change my eating habits
change my environment -divorce

By: Francine

Francine — Mon, 22 Dec 2014 18:56:25 +0000

I am thankful to have found this site again. I know now that I have been involved in the forever vicious cycyle of the Narcisst. Not only have i given up so many things. I now gave up my home, and my car to move in with the man i loved to only discover it to be worse.
Thankfully I was able to get out, but it is recent and again I am dealing with the aftermaths. I am at my parents. I am a 33 year old woman who had everyrthing on her own. And justg like that i gave him my all and just like that i am here. . I was finally able to get a few selected items off the porch he left for me. To now once again get his randome 3:30 a.m texts how he is so hurt that i was his everything and he was my nothing.

I went as far as getting property on me. I know now what i need to do and i will never go back although it is so hard.

Any suggestions. And any suggestions on links for conditioning?
Any suggestions on links to conditioning, manipulation and

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 22 Dec 2014 05:10:55 +0000

In reply to Barbara Brandt.

Hi Barbara,

you are so welcome, and I am so pleased my material has been able to help you.

Your goals are all wonderful and empowering ones – as well as generating True Self energy with others and Life. Only great things can come from that 🙂

I love that you are excited about generating your life!

Best wishes with your goals and love to you and your family at Christmas.

Mel xo

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 22 Dec 2014 05:07:56 +0000

In reply to Vivienne.

Hi Vivienne,

that time is terrible, and it certainly does feel like a black ink and anxiety has permeated your entire being.

Vivienne that is wonderful that you wish to heal and transform. Have you considered NARP? It contains the processes that help shift you in ways that are much more effective than “time” alone.

In fact just “time” takes a huge amount of time with N-abuse. Working on ourselves to up-level is a much more direct way to heal. We don’t have to remain battling the suffering.

Wishing you hugs and strength this Christmas.

Mel xo

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 22 Dec 2014 05:03:12 +0000

In reply to Candy Starr.

Hi Candy,

it is very true that the old us needs to dissolve in order to anchor in our True Self.

When we work at the subconscious level with powerful DNA shifting tools we can midwife the personal transformation much faster and more powerfully than with just “mind power”. It doesn’t need to take a lifetime.

It is very, very true that our greatest teachers come as “narcs” – absolutely.

Bless and wishing you a happy and safe Christmas.

Mel xo

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 22 Dec 2014 04:59:58 +0000

In reply to Jan.

Hi Jan,

your farm is just gorgeous! I would love to come visit one day – I adore animals and nature.

You certainly have carved out an incredible part of paradise – just magnificent!

Merry Christmas Jan, and wishing you a wonderful 2015.

Mel xo

By: Barbara Brandt

Barbara Brandt — Mon, 22 Dec 2014 03:05:19 +0000

Melanie,
I am so very grateful for having found your wonderful. I discovered your website 2+ years ago, 3 months after leaving a 20 year marriage to a most charming narc, and it quite possibly saved my life. You have been like an angel to me, and I don’t even believe in angels, but I can’t think of any better word to use to describe what you have done for me. I anxiously await your blog posts every month and without fail, every month you seem to hit on exactly what I’m struggling with at the time. It hardly seems sufficient, but thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Thanks to what you have taught me, I have goals for 2015 that I am very excited about. Here are just a handful:

1. replace any remaining anger and contempt I feel for my ex with compassion, or at the very least, ambivalence and disregard.
2. be authentic in all my relationships and allow relationships that don’t feel “right” to fade away
3. work out regularly/eat more healthy
4. turn the fear I feel about my financial security (I’m 55 without sufficient funds for retirement) into a source of strength and courage to grow my publishing company into a solid business
5. replace any judgements I make about people with compassion and be a source of love and hope to those who struggle with connecting to themselves
6. get comfortable speaking in public, and who knows, maybe even be good at it (talk about dreaming big!)
7. pay forward everything I have gotten from this website