Comments on: The #1 Reason You Can’t Move On From The Narcissist https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 22 May 2022 09:33:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: MindingMyself https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269697 Sun, 22 May 2022 09:33:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269697 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Aaw, thanks Mel πŸ’–

]]> By: MindingMyself https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269696 Sun, 22 May 2022 09:32:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269696 In reply to Fay.

Aaw, thanks Fay for your lovely comments! Wishing you a beautiful healing journey ❀️

]]> By: Clara https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269597 Fri, 20 May 2022 04:17:54 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269597 Thanks Mel……
I just discovered your blog some hours ago. I’m on my healing journey too.
I discovered early in my marriage that I was with a narc- husband and I made the difficult mistake of listening to others advising me to stay and work on my marriage. I did this hoping it would get better, but as we all know……it only gets worse. I developed survival techniques of being indifferent to his emotional tortures and energy sapping behaviours towards me. I stopped giving in to his numerous whims and arguments. This made him become more hostile, he new his cover was blown and so started planning my discard…..note that I wasn’t even aware of the “discard” stage. He kept saying things like “his mind is no longer in the marriage” and kept threatening to leave or send me away.
I stayed back because I had to plan on how to leave with my kids and how to cater for my kids, because he didn’t allow me work and wouldn’t allow me leave with them.
But I just knew I had to leave if not for my own good, for my children’s.
Things got so bad that my life was threatened and I had to leave with 2 of my children for safety.
We’re currently in court in a custody battle for my 2 remaining kids.
I keep beating myself up for not leaving earlier with my first 2 kids. I was manipulated by him to have 4kids with the hope he’ll allow me work or do business after I had them. It was so disheartening realising he only wanted children from me. 6 years of marriage with him was the worst 6 years of my life, the emotional highs and lows, the mind games, devaluation, I really lost myself, was literally dead. My kids were the closest connection I had with life.
I’m healing now and I’m very hopeful that I’ll be granted custody for my 2 kids that are with him. No one deserves to go through what I went through, let alone 2 minors. He is spreading lies about me trying to dissuade family and friends from helping me.

I’m new here and have not started any of the healing programs, I’ll start soon as it will help me with clarity for my book.
This became longer than I expected .

Thanks Mel…….

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269559 Fri, 20 May 2022 02:38:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269559 In reply to Peggyb.

Hi PeggyB,

you are very welcome Daer Lady!

I hope they and you enjoy a beautiful wedding!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269558 Fri, 20 May 2022 02:37:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269558 In reply to MindingMyself.

Hi Minding Myself,

I love your orientation and spirit! (And name!)

Please know how welcome you are!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269557 Fri, 20 May 2022 02:36:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269557 In reply to Lou.

Hi Lou,

what you have experienced is so painful.

Many of us went through these terrible feelings when replaced.

You can overcome this by healing with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

This is how I and others achieved this.

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269555 Fri, 20 May 2022 02:34:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269555 In reply to Molly.

Hi Molly,

I’m so happy for you!

You have come home! So powerful and beautiful!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Fay https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269549 Fri, 20 May 2022 02:21:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269549 In reply to Annie B.

Annie B
Ripper !! Comment ! So true…Have to be mindful of the ” Evil” forces

Better get….Melanie may have to smack me xx😘

]]> By: Fay https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-1-reason-you-cant-move-on-from-the-narcissist/#comment-1269537 Fri, 20 May 2022 02:10:02 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11320#comment-1269537 In reply to Peter.

Hey! Peter that is so kind and sweet of you….Thank you..

Wish i was a bit smarter with the mess below! Oh! Just have to laughπŸ˜‰πŸ˜€
Did not expect 2 to come one after the other.

You would not make these silly errors !! πŸ™‹

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