Comments on: The 5 Stages Of Forgiveness https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 13 Feb 2021 21:18:40 +0000 hourly 1 By: William https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-1248271 Sat, 13 Feb 2021 21:18:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-1248271 Excellent 👌 🌍❗

]]> By: Kola Jojo https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-1244660 Wed, 04 Nov 2020 15:04:33 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-1244660 That’s right! What’s to forgive?? I’m not here to play God! Besides, holding grudges is such a waste of our precious energies.

]]> By: María https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-1210357 Sat, 05 Oct 2019 16:45:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-1210357 I arrive some years later to this post, but gosh, hasn’t this helped me already just because of reading it! I can’t wait to start practicing all these advices and read all the other posts. Thanks so much for sharing this knowledge. So good to feel accompanied by someone with similar experiences.
I am still in a relationship with a person I believe has some narcissist traits and trying to understand how to forgive an episode of cheating that he defined as “forced situation by the other person”, like it happened to him but he didn’t want it… He’s very aware of his narcissistic traits although the can’t openly admit it yet, but he’s supposed to be working on it. Can’t really tell how much I believe of what he tells me after all what I read on narcissism but now the “plan” and what I would like to get advice on is: I’ll try to get over my inner traumas and reach my inner truth while staying in this relationship to see if he really does an effort on his side too. Does this sound unreasonable? Am I still in the phase of not accepting that this person needs to go out of my life? Am I dreaming of not having a 100% narcissist with me but a mild case so that we both can make it work with some effort?
Thanks so much for all the information!

]]> By: Amanda https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-1208589 Thu, 26 Sep 2019 09:08:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-1208589 I tend to forgive to easily and would always end up back with my ex because of it. But I know now the only true way to forgive is to get that toxic energy out of my body so I dont hold onto resentments around anybody. The way I do that is releasing my anger thru narp I believe it is the only way to reach true forgiveness take the feeling out the head stops going round and round as to why did this happen when I do this I get clarity and then move on

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-1119808 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 02:47:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-1119808 In reply to Evolving.

Hi Evolving,

I am so glad you enjoyed it and that you are N-free. Well done!

I love that you resonate deeply with these truths – they are so soothing and freeing.

Evolving you are so evolved for your age … such an inspiration.

Absolutely I will sweetheart and you keep up being a generator of True Life too.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Evolving https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-1119051 Wed, 19 Dec 2018 00:47:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-1119051 Hi Lovely Mel ❤

I absolutely love this article.

I am 18 days Narc Free after being brutally discared, and I don’t even have to implement No Contact, because he (Narc) is executing it perfectly lol!

I met him at the age of 24, and 6 months later (at the age of 25), I discovered that he is suffering from NPD. However, even at the 6-month mark of our relationship I was hooked (engaged to him). It is no surprise that I kept going back after each discard and hoover only to have the final discard thrusted on me at age 28.

I am honestly so grateful that he discarded me, because I would have never left. That’s how disconnected I was (and still am) from my true-self (zero self-love and zero self-partering).

Your article on forgivness is absolutely beautiful and eye-opening. There is such a relief in knowing that I cannot control anything that is not ME, and there is such a relief in knowing that I can let go of people and situations that don’t serve me in healthy ways without feeling like a victim. All-in-all, not feeling like a victim is one of the biggest things that can generate true joy, because it means finally coming to the realization that the world owes us nothing, and to have that midset is liberating, because it truly means that we do not ever assign anyone or anything with so much power as to decide whether we will be happy today or not. It’s really all about taking our power back and realizing that we are a source of our own needs and GOSH it feels liberating.

So, thank you for this article on forgivness, because it makes so much sense now- forgivness is not about “giving power away”, it’s actually about taking our power back; power that we didn’t even know existed.

Love you so much, Mel. Keep fighting the good fight, beautiful!
🌸❤

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-1060693 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 02:16:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-1060693 In reply to Muriel JOSSELIN.

Hi Muriel,

You are so welcome and I am so pleased this resonates with you!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Muriel JOSSELIN https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-1060609 Tue, 12 Jun 2018 18:59:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-1060609 It is so powerful. It just explains exactly what I have been going through, and no psychologist was ever able to get my position: thanking, and wishing them to evolve too!!!
Such a relief, such a revelation
Thank you

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-5-stages-of-forgiveness/#comment-950098 Mon, 13 Nov 2017 08:43:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4524#comment-950098 In reply to Niki.

Hi Niki,

I am so happy for you that you are feeling empowered – and how wonderful you are ready to let it all go.

That’s the way … so much 🙂

Many blessings to you too Niki.

Mel xo

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