Comments on: The Difference Between Authentic and Malignant Confidence https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 03 May 2022 03:15:40 +0000 hourly 1 By: Pluot@yahoo.com https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-1268150 Tue, 03 May 2022 03:15:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-1268150 Lol they have no idea how normal, sincere and basic I can be. 💛

]]> By: Esther https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-648334 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 23:35:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-648334 In reply to Sarah.

Wow, Sarah, everything you said could be my own words about my own experience. Anyone and everyone not in a relationship with him would say he is a gentle sweet person who is a great dad to his kids. I have never felt such a strong soulmate attraction and a year after the breakup I am still finding it hard to think or say anything that calls him out on his manipulative narcissistic behavior with me, even though, as you so aptly say, he never actually loved me. Everything was about using me to feed his damaged self. So helpful to not feel alone. Thank you!

]]> By: Hazel Kat https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-34753 Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:55:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-34753 Eureka! I have been in and out of a six year attempt to save a sociopathic APD narcisist from himself… I lost the ability to function, am in the no contact phase after havin my life and family threatened and being told: “how does it feel to know everything you did means nothing?” He was incarcerated for armed robbery for most of this time, but has been living in my head. His parents are the same and his whole family is psychologically maladjusted. I have been in the fog for long. Your articles are confirmation I need help. Many thanks for your healing words you are truly an angel force 🙂 I miss feeling owned and the thought I found my soulmate,and the way I felt when in the 1st phase each tim, but not – the extreme depression and loss of emotion, even towards my children was frightening. I opted out of his life but he stalked me, my life has been in chaos and it took 2 weeks of no contact now for me to see how he manipulated my emotions, I lost my 8 year job and my mind. Thank you for your outreach I am not feeling so alone and hope to heal from being in love with something that did not exist. I am now focusing on building a relationship and healing my children, one 13 year old started ‘cutting herself; said I don’t notice her, so now I refocus on people who genuinely need help not psychic vampires. We were quite telepathic and that was a problem. I now cut the astral cord again and will do this everytime to avoid emotional suicide.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-16302 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:36:12 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-16302 In reply to Ark.

Hi Ark,

it is so great that you have recognised the dynamic and got out…

Very true, that she is not your responsibility and the true solution for you is to focus your energy on you and your life.

Great job!

Mel xo

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-16301 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:33:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-16301 In reply to Gaynor.

Hi Gaynor,

you are more than welcome and I am so glad the information is helping!

Yes, even if the narc is family it is so important to honour self and have effective boundaries and even proceed to no contact if necessary.

Mel xo

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-16300 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:33:08 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-16300 In reply to Felicia.

Hi Felicia,

lovely amendment!

Beautiful

Mel xo

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-16299 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:27:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-16299 In reply to Patricio.

Hi Patricia,

I’m not surprised you can relate to Maria’s post which I’m sure all of us can!

It’s great that you are working your way through your healing and ‘coming home to self’ because that is what this journey is all about!

Hooray!

Mel xo

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-16298 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:26:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-16298 In reply to Kim.

Hi Kim,

it’s so true that when the narc is full of supply that you could not have a more delightful person! This unfortunately is the ‘default’ we can keep remembering until we do get clear that the baseline of any relationship is ‘what is this person capable of doing’….

Keep up the great realisations!

Mel xo

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-difference-between-authentic-and-malignant-confidence/#comment-16297 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:25:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=907#comment-16297 In reply to Maria.

Hi Maria,

a very powerful post which outlines so many of the dynamics of narcissistic abuse with pinpoint accuracy.

Yours has been a wonderful share which will assist many people.

Fabulous that you are not getting sucked into the drama anymore, and can see it for what it is.

Brilliant that you are working on moving forward!

Great job!

Mel xo

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