Jack, I cannot comment on Australian law (and I am not an attorney), but I recently discovered that the state of California (and Hawaii in the USA, too) are two states (out of fifty!) where just in the last couple/few years, certain domestic violence laws have been updated so that “coercive control” (exactly the sorts of behaviors that ARE narc abuse) have become included in that ugly, illegal, shockingly-common crime. I actually mentioned this to some family trust attorneys who represent my sister (narc!) trustee after my mom died (and sister is using her position as a drubbing stick to be an evil narc) and I think mentioning that I know how to use the law (even brand-new ones) to my advantage could land her in probate court if she doesn’t shape up her behavior. And I think it worked — the attorneys actually “reined her in” a bit!

So while I’m only mentioning that this “rolls the boulder up the hill only a little way,” I do believe humanity is making (slow, certainly…steady, I hope so) progress on the courts recognizing these old, old patterns of nasty human behavior. And in the direction of “a little bit better.” We have a long way to go, but I’m glad to see some light shining a bit brighter.

It may or may not be true, but I honestly believe that because people like us talk about such things (and burn a bit brighter ourselves) right here just like this, we ARE making a difference.

Thank you, Corinne, for your encouraging words. They meant so much to me as I am in the process of leaving a narcissistic marriage of 43 years. It is true that it’s harder the longer you’ve been brainwashed and belittled, and takes more time to build yourself back up in order to leave.

The good news is that the process is giving me the greatest personal growth of my life, every little bit of which is dulling the “daily knife edge of trauma,” as you so aptly put it, that the narc tries to inflict. I look forward to the feelings of safety and happiness that you have achieved when I’m out for good, but also encourage others in our same boat to heal the fear and trauma bonds in order to take one step after another toward your new life. Even this difficult journey that brings me to my knees at times is so worth it when I can feel the reclaiming of my soul and rights.

We’re all in this together, transforming ourselves and our planet into something beautiful and extraordinary,
Dawn

Hi Jack,

please know the courts are biased toward the abuser. It’s NOT a gender issue. I can assure you there are many women terrorised by narcissists in Australia who have lost custody and property to male n’s. I have friends who have suffered from this. Children even being sent straight into the arms of perpetrators. More than you could imagine. A narcissistic system equals aligning with perpetrators. Its the same throughout most Western countries right now,

Big hugs and healing to you Jack.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Devorah,

please feel our hugs and love for you too.

Are you in the NARP Member’s Forum for support when needed? http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

We are here for you!

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Big hugs and love to you Jennie,

we are all sending you strength, clarity and Thriver blessings.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

You are very welcome Eva!

Much love and Easter blessings!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Jacqueline,

Im not so sure Huff Post or Times want to focus on this – the ideologies of the day are the exact opposite!

WE are the change now at the grass root level – not the system.

I’m so pleased this helped and sending you love and blessings this Easter time!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Corrine,

Big congratulations on having so much courage and for breaking through.

Thank you Corrine for being such an inspiration to others!

Sending you continued love and blessings and I’m so grateful to have you in our wonderful community

Mel 🙏💞🦋