Comments on: The Key To Healing Toxic Shame https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Wed, 26 Jul 2023 06:39:12 +0000 hourly 1 By: Anne Martin https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1276715 Thu, 08 Dec 2022 18:06:17 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1276715 It’s hard or impossible to know whether an abuser is a narcissist or has some other issue(s). NPD can only be accurately diagnosed by a professional, and most abusers aren’t interested in getting help. l think a lot of people these days are labeling their abusers as narcs whether it’s accurate or not.
l have been repeatedly abused by many people throughout my life, back to my earliest memories (I am now 70). l have complex PTSD, depression, mood swings, various physical manifestations, all on top of autism which l only learned about in the last 10 years. lt’s complicated and difficult to sort out. lt’s all l can do to work on my own self care without trying to diagnose other people.
Your techniques are useful no matter the reasons for the abuse. l have benefitted a lot from them, in conjunction with other therapeutic protocols.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1274892 Wed, 12 Oct 2022 04:57:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1274892 In reply to Kate.

Hi Kate,

well done for doing this deep and courageous work!

Yes, absolutely this can be the case when releasing deep toxic wounds.

You can do a shift “I am targeting the traum in my body generating this feeling (wahtever it is)” (use Module 1 or the SH and R) and clear that – then you will not have these effects.

For all the coaching that you need (free with Gold NARP) go into the NARP Member’s Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member – and if you have any problem connecting please write in to support@melanietoniaevans.com and one of our lovely staff will help!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Kate https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1274865 Tue, 11 Oct 2022 19:51:01 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1274865 Thank you for your teaching. I have been working on shifting in Module 9 lately, and I feel like this article closely relates to that module 9 work. The Module 9 has been the deepest NARP healing work I have done so far…. It really is based in a very primal childhood wound of feeling unworthy of love and joy. As I push through this difficult module 9 work, because I know it will bring me to a better place, I find myself physically sick, nauseous, feeling some insomniac anxiety that I haven’t felt in a while…. Do you find people often have this experience when working with module 9? It’s as if the deep psychic wounds are coming to the surface to be exorcised, and on the way out they are making me ill. Please tell me if this is normal or not.

]]> By: Iñigo https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1272193 Sun, 14 Aug 2022 08:55:30 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1272193 Unvaluable information!!! Thank you Melanie.

]]> By: Robert Osher https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1271859 Tue, 09 Aug 2022 17:14:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1271859 I’m a 44 year old golden child of two narcissistic parents.
Long story short, I had a breakdown 5 months ago I now feel things I never have before, empathy exceptance of myself and others.
I absolutely love your videos and the work you do.

I’m self healing as gaslighting was the first language I learned from both parents..

I have gone no contact with my father and my mother is dead thank goodness as she beat the heck out of me and my siblings..

I feel as if I can breathe properly now and I’m in the process of re parenting myself.

I am an ex Covert narcissist and now I know that I was so totally wrong with my actions and words.
My whole life wad a lie as I didn’t know who I was.
I’m wanting to get help with the toxic shame, I’m more excepting and listen to myself and others so much more and genuinely feel happier.
Your a genius and watch your videos a lot god 🙌 bless

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1270781 Tue, 05 Jul 2022 07:20:27 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1270781 In reply to Karena (not same Karena who commented to Tabi above).

Hi Karena,

I’m so thrilled that you have had this realisation!

It will change everything for you.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Karena (not same Karena who commented to Tabi above) https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1270741 Sun, 03 Jul 2022 13:56:05 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1270741 Dear Melanie
Thank you for this clarification and explanation about Shame. Having read through this post twice, I am now concluding that this is the exact stuck-point that is preventing me from moving forward in my healing. I didn’t get the depth of Module 3 when I did it – it just didn’t resonate with me… evidence of the denial of how deep my Shame is! But I completely missed working with the eBook that accompanies that Module!! So I am now much better equipped to tackle this issue properly, for the first time. Can’t wait to be free of this deep-seated shame that has plagued me all of my adult life. To Freedom, Yay!!!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1270493 Thu, 23 Jun 2022 02:44:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1270493 In reply to Gretchen.

Yaya Gretchen!

I love that you are going to join in on our incredible private NARP Forum!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Gretchen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-key-to-healing-toxic-shame/#comment-1270483 Thu, 23 Jun 2022 00:54:21 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11485#comment-1270483 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Thank you so much. Melanie. I could sure benefit from coaching. Other than the gold member videos and lessons, which have been extremely essential to getting healthy, and your ongoing education, I’ve not come into the Thriver community. Yes! I’m ready!! Thank you again!! I can’t wait!!

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