I have seen the broken scared inner child of a narcissist and it made me fall in love and I got sucked in to their lies and dece ption It’s real.

Hi LC,

Oh gosh, I totally understand your frustration! So many of us have been through this.

Please know that yes they do.

I want to grant you one of my resources that may help you understand how you can break through to this place.

https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/1-reason-why-the-narcissist-wont-leave-you-alone/

Much love to you and please know that you can get there

Mel 🙏💕💚

Will they ever stop? I’ve been trying to “gray rock” a female friend for a year. I do not think she will change and I don’t want her to change..i just want her to leave me alone. I have self isolated from mutual friends as it provoked rage. Now she is pursuing my own friends, ones she has never shown interest in, and her charm is working on them. Her daughter is exactly the same with my daughter. They found a better supply, discarded us, and are now having fun playing “victim” to pretty much everyone. I have one or two people in my life that see through her, but sometimes I feel like she’s taken everything and I am not sure how much longer I can hold on.

Hi
Just came across your work and on day three
You know I thought my problem was a I was anxious and b my husband is from another culture ie Egyptian
I have tried to leave him 4 maybe 5 times because of controlling behaviour I have lost friends and family
I married him after the death of my husband who I had been together with for 30 yrs
I think it has been my fault and you know I see the signs clearly now
The hardest thing is he is younger than me but initially appeared mature now I understand the feelings I have in that I see his vulnerability but it’s covered so well
He was a special forces guy
I will complete the course and as soon as a flight is available try again to rebuild what seems like everything
But I had to write this to say seeing your words in understandable format is keeping me focused
The only problem is I feel I am being dishonest

Please reconsider calling yourself a loser. You are a person who has been victimized. One of the aims of the narcissist is to erode the self-confidence of the person he is with. Forgive yourself for going back to him but move on and work on yourself. Others write about trauma bonding and chemical addictions in the brain from being with a narcissist. Consider the loving approach of forgiving yourself so you can leave and stay away. Reclaim your boundaries and your strengths and get yourself back together and you will be able to stay away. Learn all that you can about narcissists from Mel, Quora and the Surviving Narcissism network on YouTube and that will help you feel stronger.