Comments on: The Most Effective Way To Heal Your Emotional Wounds https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 02 Jan 2018 00:14:56 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-984908 Tue, 02 Jan 2018 00:14:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-984908 In reply to Heather.

Hi Heather,

That is so great that you have been out a year and that you are feeling good.

Definetley I would still recommend NARP for any N-triggers, but absolutely you could move on to Empowered Self https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/services/empoweredself-course.html for expansion and breakthrough into your dreams – and / or TFFOW Program if you feel there is still reprogramming of your childhood and generational traumas to go. https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/services/transforming-family-of-origin-wounds-course.htm

The truth is the Programs are interchangable – just trust yourself!

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

]]> By: Heather https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-984799 Sun, 31 Dec 2017 11:46:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-984799 Hey Melanie. I am deff looking for a program to help me get out all the wounds buried inside me. MY question is though I have been out of my narc relationship for over a year now and feel very good about where I am however I still have inner wounds I know I need to heal, though not as many related to that relationship. Many of them were present long before him. Would you still recommend your NARP program or would one of your other programs be better for me? I get some issues were made worse by him but I think some parts of your NARP program may not be applicable to me anymore so far out of the relationship? Iā€™d love to experiment with the quantum healing but not sure which program is right for me?

]]> By: Steve Coffey https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-712153 Sat, 22 Oct 2016 17:18:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-712153 Anyone doing this work in the Toronto Canada area?

]]> By: Susan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-353311 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 08:49:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-353311 Melanie, I have just read your article and I just want to make this comment. If before the age of 9 years old we learn that ‘love is abuse’ and pain is internalised, should you be brought up in that environment, are you then saying that the NC has become that way and he is a damaged soul? When I discovered that this was possibly the reason for the decades of abuse I received, long after we divorced and I moved on, I felt the pain in his life. With everything I have been reading on your site, I feel you will probably tell me that I am trying to be logical and analytical and that will not solve my emotional and mental pain. I also feel that someone can BECOME a narcissist during their lifetime, as my husband was a wonderful caring man for 12 years, until my mother disapproved of him and put him down and in employment he had an injury which he denied he did in his employ and we had to take him to Court to claim his compensation. During those two years, he and I had nervous breakdowns, I recovered, but he never did and over the years it ‘appeared’ that the abuse of me (all and every narcissistic trait) escalated to rage and tears, throwing things, blame game, silent treatment, embarrassing me in company etc. I wonder whether it is only in childhood that narcissism occurs or is it possible that it can happen later as a protection of ‘self’.

]]> By: Kathleen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-258683 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 13:48:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-258683 I read with interest and totally agree. It also took me 2 years after separation (5 years of marriage before that). It also illustrates how different the logical mind is from our emotions when I tell you my daughter simply stated ‘if you have anything more to do with him, don’t see me again.’ It was like torture, hiding meetings etc. My logical mind told me I should be ashamed of myself know he was lying to me constantly, cheating on me all the time but I still went back for more. He took my 60 years of life savings but the worst was my heart. Now I just think – well he was a fake anyway, so I’m just angry he wasted 7 valuable years of my life. Feeling good now and looking forward by the way!

]]> By: Kay https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-53181 Thu, 06 Jun 2013 08:02:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-53181 hello Mel, thanks you so much for the information you send out about recovering from a relationship with a narcissist. This is an especially helpful section as I have been going over and over the reasons etc, trying to understand his actions– and of course i can now see that this has just compounded my attraction and connection to him. I see more clearly the work I still have to do about my personal boundaries. I am looking forward to this work, and it no longer seems so scary! With many thanks, Kay.

]]> By: Nadine https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-47388 Sun, 05 May 2013 22:08:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-47388 I go really well doing no contact for the first two weeks then I find it soooooo incredibly hard.. I pine for him and our dream that logically I NOW KNOW just will never be.

]]> By: No more self denial https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-47170 Sat, 04 May 2013 14:19:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-47170 Oh yes, I love this article!!

And I can add something that I have spent a year now figuring out, and that is how important it is to know and recognise the difference between thoughts and emotions, when I want to be effective and succeed with Quanta Healing and in general healing from the abuse. šŸ™‚
Now: Over to another session from the NARP! Absolutely, I recommend it for everyone as it helps me get through all the stuff in a speed that seem to be unbelievable for my conventional therapist! šŸ™‚

]]> By: Eva https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-most-effective-way-to-heal-your-emotional-wounds/#comment-46471 Mon, 29 Apr 2013 19:29:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1518#comment-46471 Hello Mel,
I am doing NARP program one month .I was doing lots of work on myself before, I am therapist myelf this program, I finished school oh healing by program of Barbara Brenan and JUng…This work with subconsciousness is not new for me but I see the difference that this is faster way. I am grateful that I found you and thank you.On the modul 6 conserning the need to take responsibility for the narcist i felt that it was a lot of charge and today I worked with this and I took me to the previous lives where i was mother to my narcist ex, I protected from the village people who wanted to do him harm (he was guilty but I understood with mothers love), and another life when he died like a baby, a saw funeral and felt big sorrow, and the same spirit of my ex inside. Is it possible that I had that expiriance so deep? I was really moved with this because it was feeling that I have a son, I knew how it is like ( I dont have children yet).He was younger in this life for 10 years.I wanted to share this experience.Hug from Croatia.

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