Comments on: The Narcissist And The Fear Of Not Knowing The Outcome https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Wed, 24 Mar 2021 10:55:40 +0000 hourly 1 By: Khfv https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1250087 Wed, 24 Mar 2021 10:55:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1250087 What’s the title of the episode where you mention the narc claiming they are just trying to help you, yet are not because help doesn’t destroy your life.

]]> By: Relieved https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1250082 Wed, 24 Mar 2021 09:01:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1250082 I say to that, “That’s on you.”

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1239612 Thu, 16 Jul 2020 07:24:10 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1239612 In reply to Fabiana Alves.

Hi Fabiana,

To me, the lack of your fear is not really the problem. I really believe the lack of boundaries is what enables him to keep doing this.

His situation with his children is not your responsibility, the looking after your boundaries and well-being is your responsibility.

Absolutely I would report him and put an end to it.

I hope this makes sense to you.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Fabiana Alves https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1239584 Wed, 15 Jul 2020 20:44:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1239584 In reply to V. Sahana.

And Mel I wanted to ask you, my friends have been affraid for me as my ex has broken into my home many times (while we were broken up, day and night while I was sleeping) no reasonable answers given when I asked what was the purpose. I do not fear him nor I can’t see how or why he would do something to harm me. So I ask you, what does my lack of fear means? Is this a good or bad thing?
He has 3 kids and I wouldn’t report him bc I know he would get in trouble with the law. He knows me, maybe that’s why he did that.

]]> By: Fabiana Alves https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1239582 Wed, 15 Jul 2020 20:22:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1239582 In reply to Katherine S. de Barrueta.

I can’t remember how many times I’ve been back and forth in the relationship. We are on, what I like to say “my last break up”, but I have found myself in the sad situation of accepting him back and believing in his deceitful “truth” every time. I can’t take no more and so I’m back to the videos hoping to regain my strength and achieve a healthy state of mind. I had stopped watching the videos when my mind became confused between the contents of it and and my ex’s deceiving and manipulating words. From all the videos I have watched my ex fits all the narcisits profiles, no questions asked. And I know I am the only one to end this pattern that has damaging my emotional, mental and physical state. I have gained 16lbs and have never been in something like this before; and so, how a woman like me has fallen into the works of a man like that – I asked myself- it is so disturbing and damaging. This has been my one experience of such unhealthy relationship and my need to understand what this was lead me to you Mel. Your work is so important, so valuable and educational that I can thank you enough for making available to us. I pray to God that this time I am able to break this sick cycle I’ve been part of for almost 3 years😢.

]]> By: A brand new me https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1237856 Sat, 23 May 2020 17:25:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1237856 I totally get it! Despite sitting in the rubble with the ringing of the bomb in my ears and further very real threats all around me and very much ahead of me I actually feel excited about the journey! I have have suffered for 50 years at the hands of an ‘off the scale’ narcisstic mother and until 3 weeks ago a ten times worse covert malignant narcisitic sister but now with the full realisation comes, for the first time in my life, the possibility of freedom and I’m going to run towards it with every fibre of my ‘being’. Thank you so much Melanie. You are literally an angel unlocking the cages of so many beautiful birds who, up until now have never experienced the power and the freedom and total joy of taking to their own wings! I don’t know how long i’ve got left in this world but I am so looking forward to spending the rest of my life effortlessly gliding high on those thermal currents. I know my next few moths might more closely resemble a little chick falling from its nest but I know I’ll get there. Wish me luck!!! I so wish the very best of the same to all those gaining strength from your fantastic work. xxxxxx

]]> By: Terri https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1237544 Thu, 14 May 2020 12:05:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1237544 I get it.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1237481 Wed, 13 May 2020 01:50:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1237481 In reply to MaryAnn.

Hi MaryAnn,

are you a Gold NARP Member? My highest suggestion to you is to come into the NARP Members Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member so that we can help support you and guide you as to how to get through to the next stage of your healing breakthroughs.

If you are not as yet a Gold Member then you can email support@melanietoniaevans.com and one of my wonderful ladies will be able to hook you up!

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-the-fear-of-not-knowing-the-outcome/#comment-1237480 Wed, 13 May 2020 01:47:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8164#comment-1237480 In reply to Readi Dusseau.

Hi Readi,

I’m so sorry that you are going through this.

Please know that what you are feeling and experiencing is the mindbending addiction of narcissistic abuse. Staying connected when we know that it is virtually destroying us.

I’d love you to come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar To learn the deeper truths about what is going on, and how you can get clarity and relief and heal from this.

I hope that this helps, and sending you love and strength at this time

Mel 🙏💕💚

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