This is very unfortunate. A narcissistic person will always make u seem as if u crazy to hide the brutal truth. I’m going thru withdrawal from my abuser but know I need to stay away, but be happy that u didn’t marry them like I married mine. Leave now! Easier said then done right? It’s only causing more damage in the long run.

YES, I finally got to the point where I was like, “This isn’t my life!”. It never WAS, it’s like the best illusion ever when you experienced the sensation of being in it until you get vertigo then the illusory pleasure is actually real life pain and even torture. My addressing the truth that this person felt good seeing my real tears, even purposely triggering them to gain that pleasure. I withdrew and withdrew and withdrew from him while he THOUGHT he was In the pole position; I used him to get over him WHILE I was WITH him. Then when I truly started not to give two flying f***ks, body getting right from squats, bringing in the empty bags from Steak N Shake, Burger King, wherever I caught the notion to eat on my way home from work, putting dude on straight NOISE CANCELLATION then came the PHYSICAL fights, which I’ll go for a row. He retreats FAST when you brandish a jitsu knife with intentions to slice his pretty little face; considering that’s his ONLY asset. Needless, IDK why I’m even upset over the exit; I need to be praising myself for keeping my sanity and my goodness intact. As for HIM, he’s actually looking weathered and roughed. He’s a damn shame excuse in the way of my self forgiveness. I’m SOLID, he’s evaporation.

Thank you for this post. I so relate.

I have a father who is narcissistic and I think my mom is also I dont see my dad at all cut all Costa t with him. My dad to ridiculed me as a teenager when I didnt pass exams at school. And my mom tries to bring me down at times sometimes shes okay other times not. So I can so relate to your story dragonfly. I hope you are happy now and in a much better place. ❤

Hi Lizz,

it truly is great that you have been able to realise what is going on and let go so quickly.

I really commend you, and for all of us, the awakening is our own healing and boundaries.

You are doing a really great job with your awareness.

Thank you for your care and consideration to all

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

I am so glad to have read this article and the comments. I just came out of a 4 month relationship with a narcissist and am coming to terms that he didn’t love me but was just looking for his next source. My counselor told me that he is a high functioning narcissist. He has a high paying job, a nice house, and he seems to dote on his son, with whom he shares custody with his ex. I was love bombed and overwhelmed by his attention and he told me that we were soulmates, talked of marriage and moving in with him. I observed that he has no friends, has a lot of angry energy, is paranoid, sometimes lashed out at me and then was all sweet a second later, was beginning to control and criticize me, called his ex-wife crazy, and all of his numerous ex-girlfriends crazy. Of course, I wasn’t crazy, according to him. All red flags that I didn’t catch because I was so in love.

All seemed well until 2 weeks ago when he began the silent treatment. I knew something was very wrong. Text after text went unanswered until I finally pushed to end it. And then I got the “am sending you your things back” text. I’m relieved as this didn’t go any further than 4 months. Knowing that he never loved me is the most painful part of this situation but I am working with a counselor who is helping me tremendously. She told me to be grateful that his toxicity didn’t infect me further as she recognized that he was swiftly trying to isolate me from my friends and family. She also pointed out that he “warned” me about this relationship as none before had lasted more than 3-4 months. Of course, he said that I was the “one” and he never wanted to be with anyone else but me. A script that he must use with each victim.

I know that I will recover and be able to move on from him. At this point, I’m disgusted that predators like him walk the earth.

I am really sad to read the comments from people in relationships for years with narcissists. Thank you all for sharing your experiences.