Comments on: The Narcissist’s Christmas Tantrums – How To Keep The Peace During The Holidays https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Wed, 29 Dec 2021 20:14:18 +0000 hourly 1 By: Karen Willders https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1261396 Wed, 29 Dec 2021 20:14:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1261396 In reply to Rev. Dr. Helen-Bolden Rogers.

You’ll get through. Think of the peace and fun coming your way. I’m a mature lady in my late 60s. My journey is hard but you just keep going. Cry it out and keep going. The pain gets less it is hard. You are brave to do this.

]]> By: Inge https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1261325 Tue, 28 Dec 2021 00:40:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1261325 Thank You for your post. I did not know x-mas is a thing for narcists. I was Married for 27 years with one And x-mas was always fulled with struggles, criticism. Tension And discussions.
Before my marriage it was also the worst time of the year by the drinking problem of my father (also narcist).
Over more than a year I finally left my ex. These last two christmasses were Nice And relaxt. The first one i cried a lot when I realised it was the first x-mas in 49 years there was No quarral or stress.
I thought it was a coincidens, but it is a actual thing. Thank You for noticing And I’m so glad I Made the right decision. Happy newyear!

]]> By: Mary https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1261158 Sat, 25 Dec 2021 05:49:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1261158 I have an interesting situation. Left the narcissist crazy man, 4 months ago, after 4 years together. Staying with family now in another state. This man went thru throat cancer and I cared for him. That was tough. NOW, 3 years later, he has lung and stomach cancer and is in the early stages of treatment development. He is holding on and desparate for help. I don’t know what to do. I’m 58, looking good and healthy. He is 60 and a mess. Somehow I feel terrible about returning to help. Did I just answer my own concerns? Bad position to deal with. Christmas has left me quiet around my loved ones., as I contemplate quiety. So am I allowing the narcissist to get under my skin for the need of cancer care. What do you think? The cancer arrived after my departure. No guilt. Just fear.

]]> By: Michele L Petrulsky https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1261012 Tue, 21 Dec 2021 15:21:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1261012 In reply to Martinaharsch.

To Martinaharsch. I feel your pain. You are on the right track even if it doesn’t feel that way now. HANG IN THERE! TOMORROW IS ALWAYS A NEW DAY!I Melanie Tonya Evan’s will walk with you and guide you and help you to know that you are not alone. I’m a 15 year survivor. Yes. It takes time. You have given 7 years of your good heart to someone who discarded you. Pity his new target. I surely pity my ex- husband’s woman even after she physically assaulted me. She thinks she’s won a prize. But we who have survived narcissistic abuse know better. After all, we too were once love bombed. Now say OUT LOUD!! I’m taking my life back!! I deserve better than him!! My life is MINE now!! I’m happy for my daughter and I will call her often and let her know that in time I will move forward because I have given that man more than he deserved. My life is MINE now. I will not allow this man to take away my joy or my daughter’s joy of life any longer. I am a good person. My life and my ❤ heart is healing as I sit here. Yes!!! My delicate heart and soul will come out stronger and I will be wiser for all the suffering he put me through but I WILL NOT GIVE HIM MY POWER!!! From today forward, I will keep a note on my mirror to remind me that my life and my heart are mine and GOD gave them TO ME not that soul sucker!!! I’m allowed my feelings of course because I am human but..I WILL NOT ALLOW HIM TO MAKE ME FEEL SICKENED ANY LONGER. I will not only survive but be an example to my daughter so she can be an example to her future children. Mama bears have to show the young ones how to cope to the best of our ability. TOMORROW IS ALWAYS A NEW DAY!!! 🙏 AMEN. Peace and love to all. YOU ARE NEVER REALLY ALONE ON CHRISTMAS. OUR LORD AND SAVIOR IS WITH US ALWAYS.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1260985 Tue, 21 Dec 2021 06:11:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1260985 In reply to Karen.

Wow Karen,

you really have lived through it all!

So happy for you and your children that this is no longer the ongoing drama.

Please know how welcome you are and sending you blessings and Thriving!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1260983 Tue, 21 Dec 2021 06:09:16 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1260983 In reply to Clarissa.

Hi Clarissa,

I am so happy I have been able to help you both …

Oh gosh you both deserve so much better!

Sending you love, healing and blessings

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1260982 Tue, 21 Dec 2021 06:07:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1260982 In reply to Fay.

I agree with you Fay,

the authenticity is stunning!

Our community is beyond inspirational!

Thank you for your beautiful contribution as always Fay – you are very appreciated!

So much love to you and yours

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1260980 Tue, 21 Dec 2021 06:05:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1260980 In reply to Patience Kukundakwe.

Hi Patience,

thank you for your kind words.

Power to you!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissists-christmas-tantrums-how-to-keep-the-peace-during-the-holidays/#comment-1260979 Tue, 21 Dec 2021 06:04:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=10404#comment-1260979 In reply to kelly.

Hi Kelly,

you are a true inspiration to so many!

You are the epitome of narc-proof Christmasing!

Love and blessings to you Dear Lady

Mel 🙏💞🦋

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