Comments on: The Ultimate Insult To A Narcissist https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Thu, 17 Aug 2023 03:00:56 +0000 hourly 1 By: Shannon https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1282998 Thu, 17 Aug 2023 03:00:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1282998 In reply to Norma Ryan.

I was also married for 21 years. It got so bad the last 5 years and he kept telling me it was me that was the problem. That I had mental issues. After a while you do start believing maybe it was me. But I woke up and realized he had some really big issues! I am a people pleaser. I tried everything. Then the no talking to me when on for months. He always wanted to start an argument. This story I read was like it was living my last life! The rude emails, threatening myself and my children. I am in the process of getting a divorce. Telling me to give lots of money threatening my children for money. It has been a nightmare for sure. Trying to turn my friends away from my friendship of 50 years by telling lies. So hurtful but I am getting my life together. He drained all the money from the bank accounts and left me with all of the bills to pay. I live on Social Security but am working two jobs to make ends meet! But he will be out of my life soon. Praise God for loving me.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1281911 Fri, 07 Jul 2023 02:08:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1281911 In reply to Donna.

Hi Donna,

please know we are all sending you love and strength.

You have got this and we have got you!

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Donna https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1281895 Fri, 07 Jul 2023 00:14:35 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1281895 I am embarrassed to say that I have lost 40 years. I am a smart, capable woman and I should have figured this out so many years ago. There were personality cracks when we dated and I did break up with him several times. He kept coming back further trying to hide the cracks. We are formally separated and the house is up for sale. I live downstairs and he lives upstairs. He comes downstairs every hour on the hour to agitate me. I pretend that I don’t hear or notice him. I am grateful for the words shared by everyone. They help tremendously. I am navigating this time better and can’t wait to fly out of here the moment we close on this house. So grateful. Thanks so much.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1276146 Thu, 17 Nov 2022 09:40:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1276146 In reply to valencia.

Hi Valencia,

if you google mu name plus the term “narcissistic children” you will find my resources which go into detail about what you can do.

Much Love to ypu

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: valencia https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1276116 Wed, 16 Nov 2022 13:57:02 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1276116 Thanks for this article. I’m a parent dealing with a 14 year old son who is a narcissist. I need help trying to find treatment or therapy to help him before he becomes and adult. Not sure if a narcissist can be changed, however, I’m desperate trying to seek help for him.

Any suggestions? thanks

]]> By: Lillianna https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1275334 Thu, 20 Oct 2022 01:23:27 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1275334 Thanks this helped a lot. I am 13 years old and am dealing with a custody case between my dad + step mom and my mom. She is a narcissist and has a personality disorder we believe. She is also a felon and has stole much money and other crimes. I am now having to have a shared parenting schedule with her and we are trying to get out of it but its tough. Thanks for giving me ideas on how to deal with her until then though. It means a lot to be able to stand up for myself after in my earlier years(11ish and below) taking the mental abuse she threw at me. She is/was also a drug addict.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1272294 Tue, 16 Aug 2022 02:18:01 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1272294 In reply to Norma Ryan.

Hi Norma,

well done for having the courage to leave – your daughter sounds wonderful.

I’m very happy that my material has helped bring you peace and healing

Much Love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Norma Ryan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1272280 Mon, 15 Aug 2022 22:15:47 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1272280 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Thank you soo much. I can’t believe that every word in that last blog… could have been me talking about my life with my Narcissistic husband…. of fifty years!!
I did eventually leave him with the wonderful help of my daughter.
Although I’ve such bad memories…I’m thinking less of him & how he ruined my life… less now & beginning to enjoy my life.
Thank you soo much for your blogs…I find them soo healing!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-ultimate-insult-to-a-narcissist/#comment-1272243 Mon, 15 Aug 2022 08:07:06 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11814#comment-1272243 In reply to Ruth miranda hall Hall.

Hi Ruth,

I’m pleased that spoke powerfully to you.

It truly was a lightbulb moment for me also when I fully realised it!

Many blessings to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

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