Comments on: This Discovery Put My Recovery Into The Fast Lane https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 07 Aug 2018 05:23:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: Peter https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-948379 Sat, 11 Nov 2017 05:56:42 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-948379 Self partnering is such a huge thing. One of the most seductive aspects of having a relationship for me was to be able to share the wonderful experiences of being alive with someone. The Narcissist picked that up immediately. Even our altrustic components can be high-jacked and re-purposed by a Narc when they are not centered in a place of true self love. I found my fear of abandonment and many other places where I had not been there for myself, because as you said in the video I was not taught them as a child, but had to go and be there with that child that was in pain.

There is a happy ending. As I heal these wounds, I become less and less interesting for the narcissist, and also less and less interested with the narcissist. Things are coming back full circle. I am seeking people who sincerely wish to share with me as I have shared with myself. The masks are only for Mardi Gras and Hallowe’en, the rest of the time they don’t fly, but now atleast I can see that, but more importantly feel it. Did NARP for 18 months…I am sure it stopped me from going nuts….don’t really recognize myself anymore…and NEITHER does the NARC! 🙂

]]> By: Ingrid Fischer https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-892085 Tue, 04 Jul 2017 15:29:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-892085 I am so grateful!, Melanie. I have been studying New Thought Religions etc for a long time, and nothing worked. I even received training in Quantum Modality. I am now grieving also after the death of my second husband.
What did NOT work for me in the Love, Health and Wealth Revolution is the marketing aspect. Before I knew it my iTunes library was filled with more mp 3’s and energy processes than I could afford . Al these “special packages” , –now we are a New Age Consumer market.

What I DEEPLY appreciate is your insight that abuse comes with enormous financial losses, and we also need a support group. You go right to the point. Deep down inside we feel we are “bad” or have been “bad” in past lives. Our religions have been so about being “good” or “bad” so some of pur parents ( mine) threw them out to pare their children such fearful, hell and brim stone religions. But they passed it on anyway. Now the New Age gives relief , except it becomes overwhelming and for the very rich who can go meditate on retreats in expensive retreat centers, and who can afford Holistic MD who cannot not accept insurance. YOU are getting it. Thank you. Hugs, Ingrid

]]> By: Beth https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-886988 Sat, 17 Jun 2017 20:59:11 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-886988 Mel,

Thank you so much for your work! It has been immensely helpful during this incredibly painful time of separating from the narcissist and wondering why I cannot stop wanting him back.

I have a question for you in regards to our “emotional programming”… You say we inherit a good deal of this from our parents before we are even born, and then early life experiences reinforce these genetics and our emotional programming. How is it that I can be one of three siblings, raised by the same parents, in the same household, with many of the same early traumas, and it appears that I am the only of the three children to have been so drastically affected by these experiences and heritage?

Thank you,
Beth

]]> By: Judy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-882115 Mon, 05 Jun 2017 06:00:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-882115 I commend to you on having courage and accomplished hard work…a lifetime of work in progress. My daughter is soon to deliver a beautiful baby boy. Sonograms are great. She has been married to a narc prepatrator (tell tale smirk) for almost 12 years. You don’t jave to look for trouble. Trouble will find you. I suppose that she will eventually divorce him. She has given him all of her money. She is “carrying him.” She has her paycheck deposited into the “joint account” aka his account. I tried to place some sense into her head up until her wedding day. Hopefully the baby will be psychologically okay. I am a worrier. I have had a “no contact” in place on him, his Mother, my sister and her evil family…fueled by envy….My pain is their happiness.

You’ll be in my prayers. May I ask you to pray for us, too?
Thanks !

]]> By: leearna https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-879212 Wed, 31 May 2017 00:19:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-879212 Hi Mel, I have a question that plays on my mind – the narcissistic has MANY good people in his web – how can this be?

]]> By: Murali https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-873304 Mon, 22 May 2017 16:40:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-873304 My Little Story:
*Craved for my mom’s love all my life, but never got it from her,found out that she’s is a Narc, it was tough, but it is what it is.
*Traveled half way around the world found The full blown NARC for me, married her, craved for her love, but didn’t get any real love, same like my mom.
*Attracted many Narc Friends, it took 10 years to get rid of some, still going on, but going excellent.
*One of my NARC friend told me that my wife is a NARC, took me 9 months to believe it, finally i did.
*Found Melanie on Youtube, one video, instant connection, emotional, spiritual and logical satisfaction, instant Decision to start NARP.
*Found out that my weakness are all rooted in my childhood: i was always compared to others and i was called a failure from a very young age, in my entire life i never got a praise or a compliment from my parents, when i was young i remember many things like: My parents saying they should have killed me when my mom was pregnant with me.The thing is i don’t even have anger towards my parents now, they are unconscious and ignorant people.I have love for them but from a distance.
*Realized i need to pick myself high with my full strength and heal myself, decided anything interfering my healing process, without hesitation, renounce it immediately that may be friendships, family, people, situations anything, my healing is my priority.
*So far it is going excellent, nature and birds are big help in my life.
*Suggestion for my lovely fellow NARPER’s: Try practicing Meditation and undivided attention in everything you do, Observe yourself doing whatever you are doing, Please be easy on yourself at the start, you are lovely and unique never forget that.
Thank you Melanie for everything, you rock!!

]]> By: Elaine https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-871936 Sun, 21 May 2017 02:47:21 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-871936 Wow. One I’d your most salient and profound messages to date. Be the change — from the inside out. The energetic shift you describe is so real. I have experienced this and the relief of quantum healing.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-871921 Sun, 21 May 2017 02:26:47 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-871921 In reply to Jude Mendelsohn.

Hi Jude,

awww bless your gorgeous lady!

So much love to you 🙂

Mel xo

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/this-discovery-put-my-recovery-into-the-fast-lane/#comment-871920 Sun, 21 May 2017 02:25:32 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4880#comment-871920 In reply to Karenlynn.

Hi Karenlynn,

My heart goes out to you …

At the beginning it is unfathomable, but I promise you there is a way forward.

It takes deeply understanding how and why this has happened …at the starting point – and I’d love to offer you my free resources to start granting you understanding and relief.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freestarterpackage

Mel xo

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