Comments on: This Works Better Than Grey Rock

By: Nadine A

Nadine A — Tue, 30 Jun 2020 04:07:38 +0000

Hi DIanne,

Sorry to hear that you are living with a nightmare of a spouse. Truth is…. it is never too late to leave. No one deserves such treatment and the sooner you realise the reality that this person who is supposed to a loving caring person is a monster from hell, the better it is for you. Years pass we become used to their crazy behaviour almost numb!! And then one day you wake up to the fact that it is not normal. You’re not alone even though you may feel it, glad you’ve found this network to be able set yourself free. Work towards your independence and reach out to whatever and whoever you can get help from, you will be amazed with the support available. I have been there I know what it is like and now I have 3 children who were also getting the blunt end of the abuse, so I have chosen to go no contact. Its damaging and I still need to heal. But with the help from Melanie it truly is possible.

By: Diane

Diane — Sun, 28 Jun 2020 04:13:29 +0000

In reply to Susan. Omg are we married to the same man? I’m 35 yrs in a horrible abusive marriage with a man who stonewalls & gives me the silent treatment daily. We have separate rooms, we’ve had separate bedrooms for 30 yrs. we have no sexual relationship for 20 or so yrs, his choice. I’m 60 he’s 70. No kids together. It’s the most lonely existence for me. No family around & I’m disabled so can’t work & can’t leave. It’s mind numbing especially with covid. He won’t talk or converse, gives zero support & constantly gives me dirty looks. He many times has said he wished I would die. It’s truly a horror show. I eat alone, watch tv alone, sleep alone, literally live alone but with a hateful presence of a man in the next room which I cannot ignore. He radiates evil. Long story of abuse. I want out but I’m stuck. I’m gonna try to get out when I get social security. Sorry so long but the pain is awful & I’m glad there’s support here & so many women know what I’m going through.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 07:02:49 +0000

In reply to Susan.

Hi Susan,

that is so brave and commendable to honour you and take a stand! That is inspirational!

NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp helps so much with TRUE Gray Rock, and also can be used to shift out any of the trauma that you feel – including loneliness.

NARP brings fullness, power and grace .. as well as possibility.

Meaning the ability to generate what you do want – true, healthy connection.

When you start filling with Source – all things are possible.

I hope that this can help inspire you.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 22 Jun 2020 11:35:19 +0000

I am 74 in a long term marriage, it’s only in recent years I have learned about narcissists and control freaks. For the last 4 months I have been doing grey rock but snapped in the end. Now I see the Thriver grey rock which makes sense and I am going to try. My husband is a silent abuser and lives in another room. So I am very lonely but trying to make the best of each day. Just wondered if you had any thoughts on this ? Thank you.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 22 Jun 2020 11:08:07 +0000

In reply to Steph.

Hi Steph,

You are very welcome and you have expressed this perfectly.

Powerfully and succinctly

Thank you so much for your incredible share.

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Steph

Steph — Sat, 20 Jun 2020 04:58:56 +0000

Mel ~ Yep, you are fully and deeply correct. Basically, there is no way around the Trumpeting Elephant’s in the room, so to speak.
The Abusive Narcissist Predator is in the room and so am I / so are we all…simultaneously… Whether in that room shoulder to shoulder, or in a space which is hundreds of miles away from the Proxy Predators grasp and or, whether we are Grey Rocking or not, the Toxic Trauma is Maliciously Mobile and never sleeps… The saying, ” No matter where you go, there you are.” Unresolved trauma, needs to be resolved !! I surmise that if anyone is still harboring trauma, the Infectious Toxic and Poisonous Powers and Principalities are still physically and spiritually circulating in our bloodstream and through our electrical neural pathways, like microscopic, radioactive magnets. Trauma’s Trumpet Gleefully 24/7 and wreak cellular and spiritual havoc upon any target, until such time, as you so perfectly express and state,” we release it and heal for real on the inside.” Thank you for your truths Melanie and thank you for being here for all of us. Steph

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 20 Jun 2020 00:29:41 +0000

In reply to Lara.

Hi Lara,

FOO means Family of Origin

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 20 Jun 2020 00:24:03 +0000

In reply to Steph.

Hi Steph,

I get what you are saying, and it’s true. Yet, my real point is that if we leave the trauma inside of ourselves and never actually release that, reprogram and heal beyond that, then we still felt traumatised and we still engage in events in our life that keep the trauma going.

Really, to me, healing is not that complicated. It’s either very difficult to heal whilst trying to survive the trauma that is still raging on inside of us, or we release it and heal for real on the inside.

Thank you for sharing your very thoughtful post

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 20 Jun 2020 00:21:24 +0000

In reply to Sarah.

Hi Sarah

you are very welcome!

You are doing great!

Hun, keep it up and urn inwards and do the healing with NARP to keep you on track with your boundaries, values and truth. NARP is a super-tool to help you with this.

Thank you for your beautiful words regarding Tiggy, and he absolutely is here with me.

So much Love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚