Comments on: Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse Story #15 Laurie

By: Pauline

Pauline — Sun, 19 Feb 2017 05:54:43 +0000

Mel
Wow thank you after being in a 39 year relationship the last 2 were after his death . I was a waste land unable to take care of myself on any level . I found the NARP program not even knowing that I had been N abused . I have been doing module 1 for a week and setting boundaries and the self acceptance came to me from the very first time . I have been able to have coffee in a public place which is huge for me so again thank you for showing me that I have a wonderful life loving my true self

By: Raeanne

Raeanne — Thu, 22 May 2014 02:29:22 +0000

Yes it does help. Thank you.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Wed, 21 May 2014 22:41:24 +0000

In reply to Raeanne.

Hi Raeanne,
Yes, there were ups and downs, particularly at the beginning of the NARP program when I started to feel relief and all I wanted to do was spend time releasing. I had to parent and carry on with normal life, and u was impatient to get the work done and feel better. So yes, I remember having a shorter fuse than usual at first, but the more work I did and the more layers I peeled back, the more and more peace I felt, until the pain was a memory I could only remember and not conjure as a feeling.
Same is true with the anger toward the narc. One of the modules has you write a letter to the narc and I remember raging internally that day at all the things I now saw. But once again, releasing meant an end to all of those feelings and I actually send him light and thanks now because my experience with him sparked the major change in my life.
Hoping this helps.

By: Raeanne

Raeanne — Wed, 21 May 2014 17:11:10 +0000

I am wondering Laurie… during your recovery did you find yourself having some good days and some not so good days? Some days I wake up angry until I NARP it out of me. Also, did you find that the smallest things Narc would say upset you? The more I see… the more I feel everything he does is narc-y. They have so many subtle tricks many times cloaked in “nice” when really they are self serving.

By: sharon

sharon — Wed, 21 May 2014 12:49:19 +0000

the series of events how true , way to many things over 34 years! When my ex told me I was lazy and he did very thing but then I took inventory of my life and realized I not a bad person it’s some of the people in my life that are bad for me!

By: Theresa

Theresa — Tue, 20 May 2014 11:05:08 +0000

Hi melanie and all other lovely Narc -free people! I’m amazed At the wonderful insights, revelations, empathy and words of strength and advice that Just seem to’ magically appear on your site, melanie, right as i need them. The universe is so timely! In fact i love the Message that referred to’ bringing that inner love wherever we Are and not having to’ ‘get’ it externally, because i am now sitting by myself in a beautiful busy italian cafe on my own, and i am fine with thisbecause i know that unlike before when i was with narc and similar friends at a dinner out, i had bouts of lonliness anyway. Now i enjoy & am strengthed by my own company as part of healing. Again, I am truly amazed by the uncanny timing of your articles! I think that once the toxic narcs Are out of our life, our intuitve Spirit is free to’ Work With us and helps us , as exemplified by your fabulous site! Love it! Much much gratitude to’ you and everyone else contributing their experiences xoxi

By: Laurie

Laurie — Mon, 19 May 2014 03:13:56 +0000

In reply to Raeanne.

Hi Raeanne,
I’m glad the radio show gave you an aha moment…
Yes, NARCS feed off other people because they don’t have an inner identity of their own. I have heard the term “Psychic Vampires,” used to describe them, which resonates for me. The good news is that as you keep doing the healing work (kudos to you for working so hard!), that you are no longer an attraction point for the narc.
I wish you continued relief and magical changes in your life!

By: Raeanne

Raeanne — Mon, 19 May 2014 02:41:56 +0000

It’s been nearly a month since I started NARP. The relief is tremendous. I do it daily. I still have a lot of clearing out to do and i can see that progress will be made. After listening to this radio program I had an ahha moment. Reason narc places negativity on me is to clear himself. Sort of like muddy shoes on a doormat. As long as you accept negative vibrations narcs continue to give you negative stuff.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 19 May 2014 00:57:02 +0000

In reply to Kathy K.

Hi Kathy,

It is so good that you are realising that there is the need to go within and do the real healing on these wounds.

As soon as we commit and get started, we are on a path towards wellbeing.

It’s not always easy, there are many parts of us we face to release…yet FINALLY we know we are breaking free from the ‘I just can’t do this anymore’.

We are on a direct path to evolving ourselves.

Kathy, I am booked out always now 8 weeks in advance, and soon that gap is going to get longer.

You are welcome to book sessions with me if you don’t mind waiting, however I recommend to all of my clients strongly that they are on NARP, to be working on themselves daily if necessary rather than just having once a week sessions with me.

This combination for those wanting extra support is powerful.

Here is the link to book sessions with me.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/services/quanta-healing.htm

Also on NARP you have the community forum, incredible insight and support from other NARP Members as well as Thrivers.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member/forum

NARP and the support forum can happen immediately for you Kathy, and that’s vital to understand.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/services/narc-abuse-recovery.htm

I hope this helps.

Mel xo