I meant NARP xx

Hi Neringa,
Thankyou for your reply. Thanks for sharing your story with everyone. It truly helps us all. Your right it is never too late. I have been feeling quite negative lately. I feel like I am purging up a lot of stuff to release it which is good. I finally feel I am starting to work on me too now having truly let go of that relationship. So actually I feel I am getting there and I am NARCing regularly and trying to release and heal. I am also finding that once I find myself in situations again there is no need for me to go back into that negative situation because I have been there and healed that bit. It really is a journey.
Thanks again Neringa and I wish you all the very best in the future. This site, Mel and everyone on it is wonderful. Has been so much more helpful to me than any councelling sessions I ever done. Thanks xx

Hi Suzi,

The more you work on healing your own pain, the more you will shift. And the more you will shift, the less of a match the narc will become to your vibration.

Also the more healing and shifting you do on yourself, your children will also be affected as they have that connection to you due to having come out of your womb.

I have heard of people whose children were so sucked in by the narc that they totally against their non-narc parent, only to eventually find their way back to that parent after s/he did the work on themselves and cleared their layers of pain.

With minor children in the picture, it is very hard to go No Contact. But the next best thing is Modified Contact.

And as always, when having to deal with the narc when children are involved, it’s best to have firm and unwavering boundaries in place. After all, if you give a narc an inch, never mind him talking 1 mile; he’s going to take 100 miles.

Definitely continue taking control of your life and letting go of trying to understand the narc. If you have NARP, please work that for accelerated clearing and shifting.

Hi Tasha,

you are welcome, and I thought there could be much more, and that is great that you are sharing it – it certainly does assist me to tune in more…

Absolutely your childhood created conditions where it would have virtually been impossible to become a ‘solid source to yourself.’ With any childhood, where we did not receive the mirroring that we worthy and loveable simply because we exist, which means ‘conditions’ to be worthy and loved (if that was even established) – that then automatically creates co-dependency.

So yes – you (like so many of us) were automatically ‘co-dependent’ on trying to seek your worthiness and your love for yourself outside of yourself.

In regard to ‘letting go of pain’, it is usually later down the track when we receive the real life examples of the same pattern showing up again – OR we still receive large emotional triggers from something outside of ourself, that we KNOW we have in fact no let it go.

If we had it would not have presented again.

‘Letting it go’ is not cognitive – it is deeply vibrational – it is cellular. If it is still stuck as cellular memory in your subconscious (which is the cellular network throughout your entire body) it will keep turning up and coming up in your life.

The addiction agony of your Mum (as well as many other things) was still cellular present – this is what your partner’s addictions are showing you. You declaring you won’t have them in your life makes no difference – if your body (subconscious) still carries these charges – your body WILL have its way in your life – regardless of what you try to think and do.

And this is exactly what has happened.

I agree with you 100% that you need to clean up your inner programs. THEN you will know what is his and what is yours, because you will be ‘observing’ rather than being heavily triggered by demons of the past.

Your saviour truly Tasha is within, you are your own saviour and creator – but you need to free your body of these cellular stored memories and wounds to get your clarity and freedom on these topics.

Approach these at a much deeper energetic level, rather than cognitive, and you will be able to release what you need to.

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

Thank you for your kind words, Jac.

A year ago I did not think that it was going to be possible to escape from Planet Narc.

As poor as his health was, the narc was one of those seriously unhealthy people who just linger. As such, I thought my escape was going to happen when he was finally 6 feet under. And who knew how many more years that was going to be.

But possibilities are always there, even in the most improbable situation. There is always hope.

The best thing anyone of us can do is to work on healing ourselves, because once we heal our pain and shift, that’s when we discover that the keys to unlock those possibilities have always been there within ourselves.

“Planet Narc” — I like that one! 🙂