Comments on: Toxic Shame and Trauma: How Are They Linked? https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 08 Oct 2024 21:17:44 +0000 hourly 1 By: Fiona https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278327 Fri, 03 Feb 2023 17:45:36 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278327 I’m soo feeling the ‘ravine’ comment, thanks Mary Ellen. I feel like I am in it. Like I am pulling the deep dark demons out of me and they don’t want to go, they are clever. I am trying to keep it simple though, with many rounds of “I am the light. I am love in infinite abundance. God is Great.” Recently this statement hits me like i’m lying to myself but i’m still holding on to the Truth of Love and Light by a thread. A lifetime of N abuse and right now I feel like I’m finding the junction of the soul-contracts that made me choose ‘them’ over ‘me for my perceived survival.’ Trying to love this 5 year old as such…instead of hating the person she became. I’m feeling, believing more light than I could yesterday. More capable of loving this part of myself that made a mistake. More capable of loving this part back to wholeness. Hoping and praying that it will work, and that my faith and trust increases to make it easier. Trying to let go of thinking I can ‘fix’ things so everything will be ok. My inner 5 year old was thinking about everyone, not just herself. I really respect that about her. She wanted a healthy team. But now it’s time to let go, and let God sort it all out. And no one can place blame on me for what is broken because it was never my place to ‘fix’ it. It can be that simple. It is much more simple than I dreamed possible. Peace and Love to everyone who is crying out for it. Peace and Love to the ‘it,’ the ‘who’ and to ‘everyone.’ And Peace and Love to the Peace and Love, Peace be upon you.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278323 Fri, 03 Feb 2023 05:08:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278323 In reply to Peter.

Pleasure Peter!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Peter https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278320 Fri, 03 Feb 2023 01:31:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278320 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Dear Melanie!
Thank you so very much for your wonderful detailed answer! 😌
This will be challenging but I’m ready for the challenge! πŸ”₯
Thank you so much, Melanie!
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]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278318 Fri, 03 Feb 2023 00:29:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278318 In reply to Peter.

Hi Peter,

please know how welcome you are!

For any feeling that is awful such as shame – that you wish to target – I would recommend Module 1 – setting the intention “I am targeting the truth in my body generating shame” – or use the same intention with the Source Healing and Resolution Module “I’m resolving my internal shame”, or you could use the Goal Setting Module setting the goal “I am free from Shame to be filled with my Divine Self-loving and Self-accepting Self – and then clear all trauma (really diligently) so that if using module 1 there are no more internal “twangs” on “shame”. Or with SH and R or Goal Setting Module, you can muscle test (or intuit) to a 10/10 result.

As with all internal skirmishes that you are cleaning up Quantumly, keep checking in to see if anything more has arisen and keep cleaning it out until it just doesn’t exist!

I hope that this helps!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278316 Fri, 03 Feb 2023 00:20:35 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278316 In reply to James.

Hi James,

it’s my pleasure.

Thank you for sharing your amazing wisdom James.

It really powerful!

I am eternally grateful we all get to share astounding life truths and inspiration here!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278315 Fri, 03 Feb 2023 00:17:25 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278315 In reply to Lucinda.

Thank you for your kind words Lucinda!

Much Love to you

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278314 Fri, 03 Feb 2023 00:16:42 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278314 In reply to Mary Ellen Sullivan.

Hi Mary Ellen,

It’s time for all of us Dear Lady!

You deserve nothing less.

SO Much Love to you, and I can’t wait to partner with you, in this beautiful journey Back To Self!

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Mary Ellen Sullivan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278313 Thu, 02 Feb 2023 22:37:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278313 Hi Mel,

This may be the “Ravine” I need to jump over – Forgiving myself and acknowledging I am worthy.

Thank you. Looking forward to the upcoming workshops.

Mary Ellen

]]> By: Lucinda https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/toxic-shame-and-trauma-how-are-they-linked/#comment-1278309 Thu, 02 Feb 2023 15:50:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=12683#comment-1278309 Melanie,

You are an amazing person I am so grateful for you and your insight.

LucindaπŸŒΈπŸ’•πŸŒΈ

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