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		By: Hunerjvv		</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[Online relationship communication usually entails one on one chat, participating group chats in chat rooms, and writing on message boards or blogs. Flick through Asian personals profiles, be part of chat rooms, learn blogs written by other singles or write your own. I am all in favour of meeting somebody with an Asian ethnic background or Asian nationality, but I dwell exterior of Asia. With a member base of over 7.5 million, you get essentially the most out of Asian on-line courting by looking out and assembly Asians all over the world. The Magazine articles are published by our members or Asian singles where they share and provide ideas, tales and recommendation based on their very own success stories. Yes, frequent activities and hobbies our members or Asian singles love embrace wine tasting, cooking, karaoke, dancing, going to movies, being outdoors, staying match and sustaining a healthy lifestyle. Chinese FriendFinder supplies online Asian personals services, including online profiles and photographs of single Asian men and single Asian women.

It&#039;s supposed that men take the initiative whereas offering dates and making choices whereas courting a Chinese American lady. Readers are encouraged to conduct their very own analysis and exercise their very own judgment before making any choices based mostly on the data supplied in this text. It integrates actual-identify registration and lists usersâ€™ academic background and financial standing, making it a more traditional choice in the relationship app scene. The net usersâ€™ option allows you to respond immediately (or not get a response). There can be the option to list only the profiles that have pictures uploaded, which helps out quite a bit. Furthermore, you can checklist profiles which are online in the mean time or list profiles of new members. ARE THERE Chinese FriendFinder MEMBERS OR ASIAN SINGLES WHO CLASSIFY THEMSELVES AS FOODIES OR ENJOYS Traveling? Plus, as a premium member, you may take part in group Events organized within your space where you may meet different like minded single Asian women and single Asian males. Without worry of another culture and misunderstanding, they need to get acquainted with males like you. Even if Chinese brides perceive English, having a lover who appreciates their language and culture is a matter of honor. You will really impress a brand new friend should you say a couple of straightforward phrases in his language.

Once you turn into a &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.sbwire.com/press-releases/qpid-network-sites-release-new-chnlovecom-happiness-album-384506.htm&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow ugc&quot;&gt;chnlove review&lt;/a&gt; member, you will get immediate access. Under Smart Date, you can see strategies from Zoosk with profiles that, in response to the â€œopinionâ€ of the system, may suit you. Can I still find someone of Asian descent or Asian ethnicity on Chinese FriendFinder? Many of our members or Asian singles classify themselves as foodies. Find a connection with any of our Asian singles or members in China, Taiwan, Japan, Hong Kong, Korea, India, Thailand, Europe, the United States and Canada. Whether you&#039;re in search of friendship, simply serious about casual Asian dating, or looking for a dedicated relationship or marriage, Chinese FriendFinder is the appropriate place to seek out somebody special. Upon exploring this cultural and progressive nation, you would possibly discover your perfect girl ready at a random nook. They&#039;re looking for their perfect match and soul mate. Just arrange an account by making a profile, upload images and movies, and youâ€™ll be on your method to experiencing Asian dating on-line by assembly somebody new, developing a serious relationship, and discovering your bride or life lengthy soul mate. Online or internet Asian courting is a dating process or method where Asian singles or people talk over the Internet with the objective of creating a personal or romantic relationship.

We&#039;ve members or Asian singles which might be students, successful working professionals, entrepreneurs, retired or volunteers working for a superb cause. We also have members who&#039;re in search of friendship, meeting new individuals or who merely want to build their social community either for private or business. For instance, a single White or Caucasian man assembly and courting an Asian single girl. Meeting new people and having new experiences was never this straightforward earlier than. These platforms open up a complete new world of potentialities, connecting folks across cultures and international locations. Created in 2015, it has received recognition among singles from all around the world. Noteworthy are themes comparable to unrequited love, the significance of loyalty and duty over private needs, and the celebration of spiritual and platonic connections beyond physical attraction. With over 1,000,000 customers and a three-day trial period, I can easily suggest this web site to a wide selection of singles in search of a Chinese date. In this case, you&#039;ll be able to build a actually harmonious relationship primarily based on trust, love, and mutual respect. Chinese FriendFinder makes it easy for you to fulfill new Asian singles, chat and construct a social network with other superb Asian singles. The successful Asian males and Asian ladies on our site are discovering happiness various ways.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Online relationship communication usually entails one on one chat, participating group chats in chat rooms, and writing on message boards or blogs. Flick through Asian personals profiles, be part of chat rooms, learn blogs written by other singles or write your own. I am all in favour of meeting somebody with an Asian ethnic background or Asian nationality, but I dwell exterior of Asia. With a member base of over 7.5 million, you get essentially the most out of Asian on-line courting by looking out and assembly Asians all over the world. The Magazine articles are published by our members or Asian singles where they share and provide ideas, tales and recommendation based on their very own success stories. Yes, frequent activities and hobbies our members or Asian singles love embrace wine tasting, cooking, karaoke, dancing, going to movies, being outdoors, staying match and sustaining a healthy lifestyle. Chinese FriendFinder supplies online Asian personals services, including online profiles and photographs of single Asian men and single Asian women.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s supposed that men take the initiative whereas offering dates and making choices whereas courting a Chinese American lady. Readers are encouraged to conduct their very own analysis and exercise their very own judgment before making any choices based mostly on the data supplied in this text. It integrates actual-identify registration and lists usersâ€™ academic background and financial standing, making it a more traditional choice in the relationship app scene. The net usersâ€™ option allows you to respond immediately (or not get a response). There can be the option to list only the profiles that have pictures uploaded, which helps out quite a bit. Furthermore, you can checklist profiles which are online in the mean time or list profiles of new members. ARE THERE Chinese FriendFinder MEMBERS OR ASIAN SINGLES WHO CLASSIFY THEMSELVES AS FOODIES OR ENJOYS Traveling? Plus, as a premium member, you may take part in group Events organized within your space where you may meet different like minded single Asian women and single Asian males. Without worry of another culture and misunderstanding, they need to get acquainted with males like you. Even if Chinese brides perceive English, having a lover who appreciates their language and culture is a matter of honor. You will really impress a brand new friend should you say a couple of straightforward phrases in his language.</p>
<p>Once you turn into a <a href="http://www.sbwire.com/press-releases/qpid-network-sites-release-new-chnlovecom-happiness-album-384506.htm" rel="nofollow ugc">chnlove review</a> member, you will get immediate access. Under Smart Date, you can see strategies from Zoosk with profiles that, in response to the â€œopinionâ€ of the system, may suit you. Can I still find someone of Asian descent or Asian ethnicity on Chinese FriendFinder? Many of our members or Asian singles classify themselves as foodies. Find a connection with any of our Asian singles or members in China, Taiwan, Japan, Hong Kong, Korea, India, Thailand, Europe, the United States and Canada. Whether you&#8217;re in search of friendship, simply serious about casual Asian dating, or looking for a dedicated relationship or marriage, Chinese FriendFinder is the appropriate place to seek out somebody special. Upon exploring this cultural and progressive nation, you would possibly discover your perfect girl ready at a random nook. They&#8217;re looking for their perfect match and soul mate. Just arrange an account by making a profile, upload images and movies, and youâ€™ll be on your method to experiencing Asian dating on-line by assembly somebody new, developing a serious relationship, and discovering your bride or life lengthy soul mate. Online or internet Asian courting is a dating process or method where Asian singles or people talk over the Internet with the objective of creating a personal or romantic relationship.</p>
<p>We&#8217;ve members or Asian singles which might be students, successful working professionals, entrepreneurs, retired or volunteers working for a superb cause. We also have members who&#8217;re in search of friendship, meeting new individuals or who merely want to build their social community either for private or business. For instance, a single White or Caucasian man assembly and courting an Asian single girl. Meeting new people and having new experiences was never this straightforward earlier than. These platforms open up a complete new world of potentialities, connecting folks across cultures and international locations. Created in 2015, it has received recognition among singles from all around the world. Noteworthy are themes comparable to unrequited love, the significance of loyalty and duty over private needs, and the celebration of spiritual and platonic connections beyond physical attraction. With over 1,000,000 customers and a three-day trial period, I can easily suggest this web site to a wide selection of singles in search of a Chinese date. In this case, you&#8217;ll be able to build a actually harmonious relationship primarily based on trust, love, and mutual respect. Chinese FriendFinder makes it easy for you to fulfill new Asian singles, chat and construct a social network with other superb Asian singles. The successful Asian males and Asian ladies on our site are discovering happiness various ways.</p>
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		By: Sarah		</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jun 2021 16:28:46 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trauma-bonding-is-it-love-or-something-else/#comment-5775&quot;&gt;maureen&lt;/a&gt;.

He sounds like a Dismissive Avoidant]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trauma-bonding-is-it-love-or-something-else/#comment-5775">maureen</a>.</p>
<p>He sounds like a Dismissive Avoidant</p>
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		By: Deb		</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Apr 2021 15:05:42 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Well-said!

I think that we should equally shift responsibility for such an imbalanced relationship. Without a victim, there would be no abuser and vice-versa. The main key to freedom is empowerment, and empowerment entails cutting off the victim-perpetrator mentality. 

The person that consciously decides to stay in an abusive relationship while being miserable and confused is as defective as the narcissist himself and needs the same amount of healing as the narcissist. 

In essence, we&#039;re not talking about an abuser and a victim. Rather, we&#039;re talking about two equally problematic individuals that are simply on opposite spectrums of delusion.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well-said!</p>
<p>I think that we should equally shift responsibility for such an imbalanced relationship. Without a victim, there would be no abuser and vice-versa. The main key to freedom is empowerment, and empowerment entails cutting off the victim-perpetrator mentality. </p>
<p>The person that consciously decides to stay in an abusive relationship while being miserable and confused is as defective as the narcissist himself and needs the same amount of healing as the narcissist. </p>
<p>In essence, we&#8217;re not talking about an abuser and a victim. Rather, we&#8217;re talking about two equally problematic individuals that are simply on opposite spectrums of delusion.</p>
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		By: Jasminelilyrose		</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 16 Feb 2021 09:26:00 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Further insight - my experience is that not only traumatic childhoods make you susceptible to the Personality disordered.  I grew up in a loving, stable family and at 16 felt I could heal the world.  I met my damaged soul mate at the age of 17 he was 4 years older.  I totally fell for his injuries and wanted to make his life better,. He was a victim of perpetual bullying and from a dysfunctional DV household.  He was self harming at the time, which for me was a major red flag . However each time I tried to end things he either overdosed or sat on the edge of a high rise building-not threatening actual dangling.  I didn’t leave - 24 years on and 3 children later, throughout this time I witnessed him turn into a monster affair upon affair neglectful, abusive yet I still felt responsible for his fragility.  Until I witnessed the same use of emotional blackmail with his numerous exploits. 
I would have never survived but much of my marriage was spent escaping him and leading a sound life with my babies - I knew he was damaged goods and no amount of love and stability could suffice his flawed personality formation.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Further insight &#8211; my experience is that not only traumatic childhoods make you susceptible to the Personality disordered.  I grew up in a loving, stable family and at 16 felt I could heal the world.  I met my damaged soul mate at the age of 17 he was 4 years older.  I totally fell for his injuries and wanted to make his life better,. He was a victim of perpetual bullying and from a dysfunctional DV household.  He was self harming at the time, which for me was a major red flag . However each time I tried to end things he either overdosed or sat on the edge of a high rise building-not threatening actual dangling.  I didn’t leave &#8211; 24 years on and 3 children later, throughout this time I witnessed him turn into a monster affair upon affair neglectful, abusive yet I still felt responsible for his fragility.  Until I witnessed the same use of emotional blackmail with his numerous exploits.<br />
I would have never survived but much of my marriage was spent escaping him and leading a sound life with my babies &#8211; I knew he was damaged goods and no amount of love and stability could suffice his flawed personality formation.</p>
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		By: Christine		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Christine]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Jan 2020 06:19:33 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trauma-bonding-is-it-love-or-something-else/#comment-694393&quot;&gt;atera&lt;/a&gt;.

I felt this💔]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trauma-bonding-is-it-love-or-something-else/#comment-694393">atera</a>.</p>
<p>I felt this💔</p>
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		By: Laura		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Laura]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Jun 2019 15:50:17 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[This is enlightening ... it feels amazing to know that there is someone out there that pin pointed EXACTLY how, what, why and when these emotions happened. I seem to attract narcissists even from early on in my teen years. Reading this I now realize I need help in order to be strong again. My last narc was an alcoholic and mixed zanex with it. Never had any money because of it and told lies about me in the end. I knew and say the signs but sadly ... I ignored it. Life lesson learned there. The narc before that ruined my reputation and with this last one .... I feel labeled as totally and completely undateable!!!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is enlightening &#8230; it feels amazing to know that there is someone out there that pin pointed EXACTLY how, what, why and when these emotions happened. I seem to attract narcissists even from early on in my teen years. Reading this I now realize I need help in order to be strong again. My last narc was an alcoholic and mixed zanex with it. Never had any money because of it and told lies about me in the end. I knew and say the signs but sadly &#8230; I ignored it. Life lesson learned there. The narc before that ruined my reputation and with this last one &#8230;. I feel labeled as totally and completely undateable!!!</p>
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		By: Janice Bennett		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Janice Bennett]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2019 20:53:29 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[After searching for quite a while this article seems the closest to what I am experiencing.  I need help.  

I have been searching for the past year to find out what the hell I have gotten myself into.  I have been married to a man who seems very charming and nice, cool and collective.  He is a Christian and talks much about his love for the Lord. However, he does not want to work and care for me, himself, or the home.  He is very lazy, keeps the house untidy and dirty.  He talks a lot, plays a lot, and eats a lot.  He procrastinates a great deal and just wastes my precious time in doing nothing of great importance.  He is very stingy and uses the building of the house as the great excuse why he cannot do more.  The truth is I feel that something is very wrong and that I am been taken for granted.  I feel that I am been manipulated greatly for my money, energy, and other resources. He makes a lot of promises and very rarely fulfill them.  He seems very ambitious and has gradiose dreams for our future, yet this is just a facade and I am left to wonder when will these dreams come to pass or am I the one to work to fulfill them for him?  He bombards me daily with affections which to me is just too much and out of place many times.  I need time alone to process things or to study.  He will respect some of my boundaries, yet at another times he seems not to care and I loose my cool.  I feel like he is wearing me out slowly and I just don&#039;t know what to do and how to go about it.  He bombards me for money for bus fares, to build our home, and for other things.  Yet no matter how I tell him that I cannot meet up to the financial demands as I am the bread winner, he continues to make demands.  When he is not able to be get his way, he somehow coverly takes and uses my personal femine stuffs or other sentimental things given to me.  He never bought me a dress or even take me out for a nice dinner.  I don&#039;t want to loose him, yet I feel I cannot bear seeing myself being used and manipulated to expense of my nerve going frail.  I have spoken to two of my family members and they are truly upset.  I have also went to see a therapist once a few months ago, but because of lack of funding, I am unable to keep up with the appointments.  I have been praying for God to help me out of this situation.  I need to be happy.  Yes, I got myself into this predicament, but I don&#039;t have to pay dearly with my life.  I am simply just tired.  Thank you.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>After searching for quite a while this article seems the closest to what I am experiencing.  I need help.  </p>
<p>I have been searching for the past year to find out what the hell I have gotten myself into.  I have been married to a man who seems very charming and nice, cool and collective.  He is a Christian and talks much about his love for the Lord. However, he does not want to work and care for me, himself, or the home.  He is very lazy, keeps the house untidy and dirty.  He talks a lot, plays a lot, and eats a lot.  He procrastinates a great deal and just wastes my precious time in doing nothing of great importance.  He is very stingy and uses the building of the house as the great excuse why he cannot do more.  The truth is I feel that something is very wrong and that I am been taken for granted.  I feel that I am been manipulated greatly for my money, energy, and other resources. He makes a lot of promises and very rarely fulfill them.  He seems very ambitious and has gradiose dreams for our future, yet this is just a facade and I am left to wonder when will these dreams come to pass or am I the one to work to fulfill them for him?  He bombards me daily with affections which to me is just too much and out of place many times.  I need time alone to process things or to study.  He will respect some of my boundaries, yet at another times he seems not to care and I loose my cool.  I feel like he is wearing me out slowly and I just don&#8217;t know what to do and how to go about it.  He bombards me for money for bus fares, to build our home, and for other things.  Yet no matter how I tell him that I cannot meet up to the financial demands as I am the bread winner, he continues to make demands.  When he is not able to be get his way, he somehow coverly takes and uses my personal femine stuffs or other sentimental things given to me.  He never bought me a dress or even take me out for a nice dinner.  I don&#8217;t want to loose him, yet I feel I cannot bear seeing myself being used and manipulated to expense of my nerve going frail.  I have spoken to two of my family members and they are truly upset.  I have also went to see a therapist once a few months ago, but because of lack of funding, I am unable to keep up with the appointments.  I have been praying for God to help me out of this situation.  I need to be happy.  Yes, I got myself into this predicament, but I don&#8217;t have to pay dearly with my life.  I am simply just tired.  Thank you.</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Aug 2018 22:23:06 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trauma-bonding-is-it-love-or-something-else/#comment-1093800&quot;&gt;Iris&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Iris,

Please know Dear Lady it is agonising to try to get away and stay away when we have unconscious unhealed parts still trauma bonding us to these people.

I’d love you to try connecting to my inner transformational processes which can truly help you break free.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trauma-bonding-is-it-love-or-something-else/#comment-1093800">Iris</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Iris,</p>
<p>Please know Dear Lady it is agonising to try to get away and stay away when we have unconscious unhealed parts still trauma bonding us to these people.</p>
<p>I’d love you to try connecting to my inner transformational processes which can truly help you break free.</p>
<p><a href="https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse" rel="nofollow ugc">https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse</a></p>
<p>I hope this helps.</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💕❤️</p>
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		By: Iris		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Iris]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:31:13 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[This is really hard.  Again &#038; again, over &#038; over, for 2 years, I feel the agony after an upset with &quot;my&quot; narcissist.  That sentence doesn&#039;t seem to express the hurt, really.  I was already having a hard time with relationships before meeting him, and now, it seems that I&#039;m almost in a fog when interacting with any other human being - just beneath the surface I am almost always writhing &#038; crying.  I&#039;ve gone through #1 module of the NARP series a few times, and today, I don&#039;t know what else to do but to try it again.  If I was &quot;serious&quot; about getting him out of my life, I would block his number, change mine, and make a report to the police requesting some time of restraining order.  But, I have done none of those things.  I&#039;ve gone through the reel of not being able to handle the pain of one of our separations, and so before it seems I&#039;m going to die, I call or go back.  And of course, there have been spans of time when I felt like I was moving on, and I rarely thought about him at all...and then he&#039;d show up at my door.  The stories of others and Melanie&#039;s still amaze me, that we&#039;re all going through/have gone through such amazingly similar experiences.  I haven&#039;t met anyone else in person whose gone/going through this, and no counselors I&#039;ve been thus far seem to want to get into it, and so this site is pretty important, to say the least.  This is really no way to live, and I know there are some days of pain to get through.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is really hard.  Again &amp; again, over &amp; over, for 2 years, I feel the agony after an upset with &#8220;my&#8221; narcissist.  That sentence doesn&#8217;t seem to express the hurt, really.  I was already having a hard time with relationships before meeting him, and now, it seems that I&#8217;m almost in a fog when interacting with any other human being &#8211; just beneath the surface I am almost always writhing &amp; crying.  I&#8217;ve gone through #1 module of the NARP series a few times, and today, I don&#8217;t know what else to do but to try it again.  If I was &#8220;serious&#8221; about getting him out of my life, I would block his number, change mine, and make a report to the police requesting some time of restraining order.  But, I have done none of those things.  I&#8217;ve gone through the reel of not being able to handle the pain of one of our separations, and so before it seems I&#8217;m going to die, I call or go back.  And of course, there have been spans of time when I felt like I was moving on, and I rarely thought about him at all&#8230;and then he&#8217;d show up at my door.  The stories of others and Melanie&#8217;s still amaze me, that we&#8217;re all going through/have gone through such amazingly similar experiences.  I haven&#8217;t met anyone else in person whose gone/going through this, and no counselors I&#8217;ve been thus far seem to want to get into it, and so this site is pretty important, to say the least.  This is really no way to live, and I know there are some days of pain to get through.</p>
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