Comments on: How To Find True Freedom And Keep It

By: Ariana Švigir

Ariana Švigir — Sun, 03 Feb 2019 19:26:09 +0000

A great article, as all yours are! Just a commentary – “We were told that we were worthless and empty unless we filled ourselves up with something greater than ourselves…” So, that from outside should be such and such! Hence resistance! 🙂

By: JESS M

JESS M — Sat, 27 Feb 2016 11:45:38 +0000

Thanks Mel…This & the:”Who is the Inner Child” have been a massive help.
So now I bless the n neighbours on both sides& walk on by saying:”Not my Reality”.
As soon as I condem and Judge Anyone…I get that reality. Awesome trully awesome. Thank you So so much X Jess M
So glad I found this one.?

By: manuela

manuela — Sat, 05 Apr 2014 12:15:17 +0000

Hi Mel
I don’t understand a part in this article, when you say there is no ‘wrong’ or ‘right’ only what serves us. Well, what are you saying, that we should never view or access anything negative in life? Of course if we were walking down a corridor with murals on up of bad stuff, good stuff and everything in between our eyes would be drawn to the bad stuff as WELL as the good or happy stuff! Thats just human nature!! The reason WHY would be firstly that we are human and naturally caring and empathic and secondly we would on some level think this portrait depicts something so horrific and we would become enraged naturally and think what IF this horrible thing could one day, some how happen to us and how would we feel deal with this? Are you telling me you could SEE some terible scene and feel nothing(no charge) because it doesn’t resonate with you, because it is not your reality? I can’t believe that.

By: Tatiana

Tatiana — Sat, 06 Apr 2013 13:39:30 +0000

I love reading the older posts, Mel. Just as relevant and helpful for Narcissitic recovery as the newer posts. we live in a world of rules and restrictions especially if one has been brought up with religious boundaries. I’m really enjoying breaking through thinking patterns that I practiced or those that were impose don me for man-years that said “No! Yu can’t do that its bad for you.” those restrictions kept me in a Narcissitic relationship for many hears longer than I should have stayed. And many would still say “You’re wrong for nit sticking by your partner.” But I know differently now. I know that staying in a relationship when one is being psychologically and emotionally abused is debilitating and oppressive to personal growth. I’m rally enjoying challenging this old rules and restrictions and discovering a whole new me. Thanks for your inspirational story and your continuing words of wisdom which show the way to being set free from a Narcissitc relationship. I’m well on my way to recovery only a few months after separating from a very long term marriage with my NPD husband and I’m feeling freer and more whole day by day thanks to this blog. Thanks Mel.

By: shabana mir

shabana mir — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 04:07:50 +0000

Melanie what can I say? A truly inspiring article which I have read with great interest.Ive always tried my best not to need anyone.Be so independent that no one can have the chance to let me down.Be strong be in charge of my life to a point where so many walls were up I was afraid to let anyone in.Trouble with this kind of persona you develop, deep insecuritys,at least I have.You mistrust in fact you dont know how to trust.It becomes a lonely,painful and unfulfilling existence.A prison of your own making.I know ive got work to do but im aware and willing to find my way .Thank you for your inciteful work.God bless

By: Melanie

Melanie — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 22:57:34 +0000

Hi Sally, I am sorry that I haven’t had a chance to reply until now. Yes, definetely since my breakdown / breakthough experience, and after dedicating myself as a lifestyle to understand Ultimate realities and break off the illusions of co-dependency and egoic defences (that my inner state is susceptible or dependent on approval from the outside), I have found inner peace. Acceptance is the biggest key for me – the acceptance that whatever turns up in my life is in perfect and divine order, is perfect for my evolution and holds a gift of growth. Also reconciling and coming completely to peace with the gift of the past means that there is now no longer anything to ruminate about as pain, or fear in the future. That leaves all this gorgeous space to live and be free to be me! I can ‘be’ and create, instead of obsess and fear – which used to (back before all this) be my every day reality! I hope this helps! x

By: Melanie

Melanie — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 22:51:31 +0000

I love pink stuff and fairy kisses…Big mwah to you too darling xo

By: Val Dent

Val Dent — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 02:16:42 +0000

Hi Mel,
Thank you for this article so beuatifully written and pure and simple in it’s Truth.
I think I will tuck a little (pink) note under my pillow with “NMR” written on it.!
After working with you for more than a year and really beginning now to feel such incredible changes and so “at home” with all our resources- I still slip into my former “Rightoeus Police” routine!! And feel hideous !!
I love these blogs- always inspiring and so great to have the opportunity to share the experiences of others. Bouquets of pink roses and fairy kisses for you Mel!!
Val

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 00:02:44 +0000

Hi Julie,

that is a very good question that you have asked. I think it is great to do things for ourself that feel good on the outer, but most importantly is about loving and approving of ourselves on the inner. That really is our biggest mission. It seems you feel that is lacking, and yes if it is, and we don’t feel ‘good enough’, then we can only attract someone who will reflect that back to us – or if we do attract someone that does love and accpet us, then we will ‘see’ that they don’t and sabotage the real love. I truly is essential that you work on your inner so that you can truly love and accept you – and know that you are lovable just for being ‘you’.