Comments on: Trying to Make the Narcissist Accountable is Keeping You Hooked https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Thu, 10 Jul 2025 19:50:05 +0000 hourly 1 By: capcut apk https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1285760 Thu, 10 Jul 2025 19:50:05 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1285760 This post really resonated with me! It’s so true that trying to make a narcissist accountable often just leads to more frustration and emotional exhaustion. I’ve found that focusing on my own healing and setting boundaries has been much more empowering. Thank you for sharing such valuable insights!

]]> By: capcut APK https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1285759 Thu, 10 Jul 2025 19:49:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1285759 This post really resonated with me. I’ve spent so much time trying to get my narcissistic ex to acknowledge their behavior, only to find myself stuck in that loop. It’s like I was hoping for a savior moment that never came. Your insights on breaking free from that cycle are eye-opening! Thank you for sharing these thoughts.

]]> By: Lindsey https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1284478 Sun, 04 Feb 2024 02:26:08 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1284478 I was nodding along with this entire article and I found it so insightful in a way others have never been. I have often looked for answers as to why I can’t seem to disconnect from this person that I truly want out of my life, but the answers I found were never satisfying. I never felt trauma bonded, it wasn’t love that kept me invested, but I couldn’t understand what did. This, however, resonated with me so profoundly….up to a point, that is…

I don’t think my motivation is the same. I don’t rely on fixing other’s “wrongness” for my happiness and I don’t keep inviting “wrongness” into my life; this is the ONLY source of wrong I’ve ever mistakingly allowed in, and I feel certain that I could and would find absolute peace and happiness, even in the face of his ongoing flaws. However, this man is the father I’ve given my kids. I made the grave mistake of choosing THIS man to be the other influence in their lives and that’s a mistake I can never undo or fix. They have to bear the burden of my bad decision for the rest of their entire lives. I think my belief was: if I can’t change who their father is, I have to change their father.

So I don’t believe it’s the wrong he’s done to me that I can’t live with, it’s the mistake I made that has condemned 3 young kids that I can’t live with. I think I feel it’s my responsibility to mitigate the harm this will do to my kids. I feel like I owe them a debt and it’s my personal duty to make this up to them. And, ultimately, I don’t know how to let that go…

]]> By: Rodney Shapiro https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1284450 Fri, 12 Jan 2024 11:47:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1284450 Trying to hold a narcissist accountable can indeed be an exercise in futility. But don’t give up hope! Remember, the power to break free from abuse lies within yourself. Instead of focusing on the narcissist’s actions, focus on your healing and growth. You are strong, resilient, and capable of creating a beautiful life for yourself. Don’t let the narcissist’s hooks keep you trapped in a cycle of abuse. Take control of your narrative and write your happy ending. 

]]> By: JimE https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1265690 Sat, 26 Feb 2022 20:08:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1265690 Thank you. I’ve been in a 7 yr relationship with a female narc and asked her two different times to go and she did. Not once did she ever take accountability for her actions. And each time after months it was my acceptance of her behavior is what made her worse each time. I had never thought of it like that. This last time she had another supply for I don’t know exactly how long over 6 months I know. It’s not love with these people it’s taking me a long time to realize that and I’ve made every mistake possible as recent as yesterday when I found out about the new supply. It’s unlike anything I’ve ever experienced and don’t wish it on anyone. For myself it’s not been about love for a long time. It’s been about accountability and acceptance. I probably shouldn’t have but I sent the new supply a message and attached messages between her and I. I told him just a heads up with what you’re dealing with if you didn’t know about me. And if you did then more power to you. Said no hard feelings and thanked him.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1241691 Fri, 04 Sep 2020 10:22:07 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1241691 In reply to Jess.

Hi Jess,

please contact my support team at support@melanietoniaevans.com

I hope this helps

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Jess https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1241607 Thu, 03 Sep 2020 15:02:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1241607 Hi Melanie
Could you please email me? I need advice about my N.
Thnx

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1236067 Mon, 20 Apr 2020 02:38:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1236067 In reply to Paul.

Hi Paul,

that is 100% correct!

Love and blessings to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Paul https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/trying-to-make-the-narcissist-accountable-is-keeping-you-hooked/#comment-1235990 Sat, 18 Apr 2020 14:32:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=18#comment-1235990 “Mary there is only one solution – stop trying to make sense of what he is saying, let go and turn inwards to heal.” – thank you. The only solution, as making sense of the madness with endless rumination will ruin your life.

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