Comments on: Unleashing Your Inner Power: Build Your Self-Worth and Thrive https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 05 Nov 2024 12:40:21 +0000 hourly 1 By: Paula https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282993 Wed, 16 Aug 2023 17:02:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282993 Melanie, I found your healing modalities online years ago, after Narcissistic abuse. I was intrigued, but did not sign up at that time, due to limited financial resources. Also, I did not understand what had just happened to me and I am a person, who has to try to find out the truth. I did all of the studying about cluster b disorders, replaying every interaction with the Narcissist in reverse with my new knowledge…and having new horrible realizations that what I thought had transpired between us was only from my heart and not from their heart. I went through much retraumatization and also went to therapy. Finally, you just have to stop reading about it because it is not good for you. You stop buying books, and finding websites. You cannot change what has happened, so you put on your big girl panties and get on with life. There would be more losses of dear friends, family members and loved ones…there would be friends and family who would become ill and need my love and support. Many years have passed and I thought I had healed, but I think I just put it in a box. And now it is back….out of the box, partly because I went down a rabbit hole and learned stuff about “the ex” and a relationship that I believe was started before I was discarded. They are still together, and so it brings up the question, was it me ?…so here I am.
The box has spilled open, and I have been ruminating and feeling new pain and old pain. I did go to Church last Sunday for the first time since Covid and the message was truly powerful…about how your WORST day does not have to be your LAST day. That gave me hope and YOU give me hope ! Thank you for helping us see that we truly do need to heal from the inside out to get better, to have it last… and not only survive, but thrive.

]]> By: Pauline https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282561 Sun, 30 Jul 2023 09:01:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282561 In reply to Sheila.

Dear Sheila, I hear you! My father kept repeating he would kick us all out at the age of eighteen. So I made sure I left the house at seventeen. After studies I paid for with a grant, I went on to marry a narcissist, it took me 25 years to muster the courage to leave. He’s very well off but now claims I should already have a job, offers a tiny alimony to sabotage my plans one last time. I so value being able to know that this is on him, he doesn’t define my self worth any longer. Shifting trauma old and new will help you immensely and bring you peace ❤️

]]> By: Sheila https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282541 Sat, 29 Jul 2023 15:36:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282541 Feelings of unworthiness and not deserving as well as non existing personal boundaries have plagued me since early childhood. Both my parents were Narcissists and there was no other adult or family members in my life. My father informed me at the age of 11 that I would never get a dime of his money. I never understood the concept of being a scapegoat and this had a profound effect on my self worth.

]]> By: Peter https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282540 Sat, 29 Jul 2023 15:33:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282540 Dear Melanie!
Your timing with your suggestions to me, continues to be amazing! 🌟🕊🌟

Yesterday I had a conversation with a friend of mine who does channeling…she emphasized during our session together, that I really need to learn how to forgive the narcissist. (She emphatically used the word, narcissist, which I had never heard her use before! Hmmm, 🤔, I wonder where that might have come from!) And then you suggested, SH & R, as a source to help my healing….🌟

Well, I did SH&R and was guided to follow up with the e-book on forgiveness!
Both were the perfect “elixir“ and help that I needed for this particular segment of my life that I’m going through.

While doing the SH&R I cried a lot, so I couldn’t take everything in the way I would’ve liked to. Afterwards it seemed my guides said I need to do SH&R often for a certain period of time which I have not been able to determine what that might mean…. for instance, how often and when…. any suggestions?

What I’m going through at this time is really really really difficult. I know that the narcissist has done horrible things and continues to do them and is making my ordinary life and days on this planet really difficult.

I struggle so often with understanding that so much of this is really being done “for me, and not to me“! But, boy, that kind of acceptance is not easy.

However each time that I hear you mention that “reality” it becomes a little more clear to me that that is actually true. (And if I did some self/life reflection, I can honestly say that that has happened, thankfully, multiple times before….)

Anyway, your suggestion to do the SH&R was/is powerful, and the fact that it led to the e-book on forgiveness and what my friend said to me yesterday I find really amazing.

I guess this can all be amazing! It would be wonderful if we were able to clearly and unequivocally see what this represents in terms of our personal evolution and spiritual development. Today I have more hope that that can be true! 🙌

Thank you, Melanie, for always nudging me in that direction.

I was thinking that it might be good to post some of this in the forum… I know that so many of us are going through the identical dilemma in our lives.

Anyway, thanks so much! You’ve so often been a “lifeline” when everything feels desperate and dark and bleak….

Many continued blessings to you and everyone here!
Much love!
❤️🦋❤️

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282528 Sat, 29 Jul 2023 08:08:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282528 In reply to Rita Shockley.

Hi Rita,

please known how welcome you are.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282527 Sat, 29 Jul 2023 08:07:42 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282527 In reply to Bill.

Hi Bill,

it’s my pleasure.

I love that you are reaching out for connection.

Sending you love and communion too!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282526 Sat, 29 Jul 2023 08:06:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282526 In reply to Peter.

Hi Peter,

It’s my pleasure. And yes it makes perfect sense 🙂

My suggestion to help this would be to work with the Source Healing and Resolution Module, with the feelings of deficient self-esteeem and assuredness and continue the healing, clearing the trauma patterns until reaching a 10/10.

That should healp a lot Peter.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Peter https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282520 Fri, 28 Jul 2023 23:58:11 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282520 Dear Melanie!
Thank you so very much for this topic!

The balance I’ve struggled with, for instance, establishing my boundaries and maintaining my self-worth simultaneously I’ve painfully learned is vital….

Without a semblance of self-worth, while subsequently ignoring the potential power of believing in ME my boundaries will constantly be trampled on…..

When I live in a state of self-assuredness and feel good about myself, I’m a pretty powerful human being, but without those qualities I am weak….

I don’t know if this makes sense, but it is an issue that I’ve struggled with for sometime now.

When my self-esteem or self-assuredness or opinions about myself wane I have no protection from the insults of the narcissist…

Where would you suggest in the modules to go for assistance with this ongoing issue Melanie? I would sure appreciate your guidance!

Thanks so much! I sure hope this makes sense!
❤️🦋❤️

]]> By: Bill https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/unleashing-your-inner-power-build-your-self-worth-and-thrive/#comment-1282491 Thu, 27 Jul 2023 19:02:47 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13869#comment-1282491 Thank you Melanie..speaks to me. A joy to be reminded of my growth, uncovering my innate goodness..and a joy to be reminded of my need for connection to others to know more/wholeness!!!

Seeking so, recently I made contact with someone about a “planned” /intentioned community!

Love, joy, peace..harmony!

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