Comments on: What Is Epigenetics? And What Does It Have To Do With Narcissistic Abuse?

By: Linda Goodman

Linda Goodman — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 19:47:01 +0000

That is, the micro equivalent of 20 ft high slabs of granite. 🙄

By: Linda Goodman

Linda Goodman — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 19:44:44 +0000

I heard Bruce Lipton a few years ago and began to see evil as cancer; their programming is skewed and they’re disconnected from Source and Purpose and they consume and control everything in their wake to fill the nothingness. I wonder if the micro-version also come up with sophisticated bulls*it to justify their genocidal nihilism or carve it on 20ft high slabs of granite?

By: Dave

Dave — Wed, 30 Oct 2019 14:29:24 +0000

It would behove the author to actually read Darwin and Newton before dismissing them in favour of the shallow assertions of Brice Lipton who seems to embrace a form of cartesian dualism.

Here’s a critical analysis of Lipton’s tomb “The Bioliogy of Beleif” : https://spiritualityisnoexcuse.wordpress.com/2017/08/25/bruce-liptons-the-biology-of-belief-annotated-with-facts-part-1-the-central-dogma/

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 21 May 2019 05:22:09 +0000

In reply to Jeri. Not to mention. She needs to look at herself. Punctuation is just as important. It also sounds like something a NARc would see. Not all the enlightenment we are all getting from Melanie. She has set me partially free. Now I know I wasn't out of my mind. Thank you Susan AOK

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 04 Apr 2019 01:35:33 +0000

In reply to Unkowning Monster.

Thank you UN for your insight.

I truly believe behaviour can change when beliefs change, and beliefs change when we release our beings trauma and replace this with Source.

Then everything can change back to our True Self and True Life.

It all starts to heal …

To me that is the necessary path and surrender and deep application that heals what we logically can’t.

I believe this is available for all regardless of where they are on the spectrum.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Unkowning Monster

Unkowning Monster — Wed, 03 Apr 2019 14:21:46 +0000

After reading articles to discover the reasons for my disastrous past actions, I discovered, both I and my wife are narcissistic sociopaths. Until then I never knew that such a disorder even existed, let alone the effects on my thought and actions. It is a shock to one to realize that you were not in the real world at age 60. You cannot hide a disorder or change from one, if you do not know that the disorder exists. I take responsibility of this mess, as I should have understood my actions and those of my wife. The thought of ruining and losing my family and friends, produces a strong desire in me to change my behaviour. The emotional and financial damage is done and cannot be corrected, as one cannot travel back in time. It keeps going through my mind, what can I do to correct the wrongs. I am like the walking dead at the thought that I have destroyed me, my family, relatives, and friends. I have lost everything; family, health, pension, processions, heirlooms, the house, car, reputation, love, and trust. Every object reminds of the damaged to others and want has been lost. I conducted research not for my gain, but for society in a highly competitive field. Education at the post high school level teaches one to be independent and very competitive. Often my thoughts and actions at home and work do not make sense now; and some are illegal, unethical, and stupid. The narcissistic sociopathic traits are from genetic factors, as I never was devoid of attention, had a happy life, and no trauma until now. My parents did experience trauma from WWII (epigenetic?), but they provided a very loving environment to their children. I will never see my loving daughter again from this mess, as she is studying in France. I viewed my daughter as a precious gift from God that I should be there for support when needed. If I had managed my affairs properly, I would be able to provide financial support to her in an ever increasing cruel world. My daughter has obtained all “A“s except one B+ for her BA in Political Science degree. Remember, in my mind, I was conducting appropriate research and providing a home for family; not inappropriate actions and thoughts. Even if I do not go to prison or die, there is nothing to support my family and that nothing can be changed. No matter what direction or action I take, someone will get hurt. If I stay where I am, it will hurt and abuse others. If I live on the streets, it will hurt others. Donald Trump, Roger Stone, and Associates have a better chance of success. I want just to correct things, erase my memory of those wronged, and then disappeared. lam in this hell and will be in another in the after life. I would not wish on my worse enemy. So how do you explain to the ones that you love that they the have no future because of a mental disorder starting in grade one that was not recognised until a year ago?
I exhibited classic behaviour traits of the disorder; such as high ergo, irrational thoughts, anger at some issues, believing I was competitive while it really was insecurity, believing that I was correct when it was wrong, poor listening skills, went from one unfinished project to another, disregard for some of the rules, poorly designed projects, destroyed property, over inflated my skills, stealing even if I did not want the object, was a hoarder, addictions to food and beverages, and went from one research group to another when a project needed external skills (opportunity to myself). I also exhibited behaviour traits that were not characteristic of the disorder, such as: desire to work in teams, great empathy for family and friends, no silent treatment, no punishments, forgave others, did not want to harm people and other animals ( vets were impress at response and love to me from pets), made friends easily with minorities that historical do not trust WASPs, and I shared resources. I was never told I had a learning problem that made difficulties with spelling and grammar. Instead I was informed that I learnt to spell by sight and recognition, rather than by pronunciation. So, if I am not a narcissistic sociopath, then what am I?
If some of my friends and colleagues were in the mental health profession, then why was my disorder not detected by them? Similarly, why wife was not diagnosed when she attended for counselling to over come childhood trauma?
Since I feel like the walking dead and a non-functional parasite to society, any suggestions on what can I do now? I never not allowed my wife to disconnect (she is not a possession) and now wish we never meet to avoid putting her and my daughter though this bizarre and unreal situation. Be glad that you are a survivor and not the one who is destroying and wasting the lives of those you dearly love and not to feel the horror of your actions. Not all the traits and actions of a narcissistic sociopath stated in articles on the subject are true for everyone who has this lethal disorder. Not every narcissistic sociopath wants to be one, especially if it destroys family and friends, and may also not realize they are one. Melanie, t is not sympathy or acquittal that I desire, but to provide you with insights from an unknowing narcissistic sociopath monster: the other side of the coin.

By: Mistea1

Mistea1 — Mon, 03 Aug 2015 21:04:27 +0000

Hi Melanie, I just discovered your blog. What a blessing. I especially like this article. I studied anthropology about 20 years ago and discovered Lamarck. Back then it was not fashionable to give him any credit. A couple of year ago he got credit. I am so pleased you put a comment about him in this blog.
I became aware of how our family of origin affected me.

This past year I became affected by a narcissist and used all I have learned to help myself. Here I thought I’d discovered something. That is the peptide addiction and the working on what the narc mirrored to me. You have a whole course already developed!! How wonderfull.

In my case I was looking for a church community not a specific relationship. I was sooo entranced the by the beauty of the music. For 5 weeks I listened and could not discover where the organist was sitting (behind a screen). Finally I asked an usher and immediately went to complement his playing. And I’m sure you can guess most of the rest.

We never had a relationship as such but I was as caught neurochemically as if we did. Amazing how that works.

When I questioned myself I realized that the fast exciting parts he played were very similar to the kind of pieces I used to like to play when I was much younger. I soon realized I didn’t want a relationship with him, I wanted to be him! In the course of all this he mirrored back to me all the broken parts of myself and my Dad’s relationship to and regarding music performance.

The most telling point came when this person today made several comments about “the old country” eastern Europe where he and my Dad came from. I had a flashback to 25 years ago when I saw my Dad for the last time before he moved to Eastern Europe and my Dad commented several times about how he was moving back to ‘the old country”. I then realized that my Dad at that time was the same age as this person is now. Whew!! My Dad and I had a very competitive issue about music. This person today is a world class professional classical musician—–just like my Dad.

Wow, I couldn’t make this stuff up. I’m in the process now of beginning to play again and deeply enjoying listening. My synesthesia (seeing music as colors) is back and perhaps I can begin composing. I’m laughing more, sleeping better and no more feeling like I’ve be sucker punched in the gut. I have gone strict no contact and have moved to another church home. I intend to be the expressive player in a beautiful way that I’ve always wanted to be. Thanks for your posts.
Theresa
large hug to you!

I’m so grateful for this blog. I feel so blessed that at least I have been on the right track.

By: Fiona

Fiona — Fri, 26 Jun 2015 09:42:02 +0000

In reply to Karen A.

I thought that everyone these days was aware that different countries have different spellings. Realise and energised are absolutely correct in Australia, and Mel is Australian. It is extremely important these days to be culturally competent as a professional – and that includes being aware that spellings can differ from place to place.

Mel, great blog and so timely. Epigenetics fascinates me. Learning about how we act reciprocally with our environment gives more power – to acknowledge our own influences in all situations and therefore be able to change those patterns, allows us to improve outcomes not just for ourselves but our families. It also helps us understand why patterns of abuse can be so enduring in family lines.

By: LeAnne

LeAnne — Fri, 08 May 2015 13:44:20 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Hi Melanie~~~
Lol… You are so right about “split straws”. I have a tendency to dig deep, especially in science as I am a retired R.N.. I also “feel” and “know” that we are all capable of actual, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual change leading to personal growth. I still enjoy the science of things and would love to have the ability to put my “knowing” into words others can understand. Science is fun for me and I love how it continues to “back up” my inner knowings. However, I do need to step back from the science every now and again to be in full appreciation of “what is”. Thanks for the reminder, Melanie. . . Big Hug!!!