Comments on: What Is Triangulation And Why Narcissists Use It To Gain The Upper Hand https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 05 Dec 2021 06:38:39 +0000 hourly 1 By: Karien https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1260043 Sun, 05 Dec 2021 06:38:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1260043 Hi Mel
I am speechless,I was told by the husband that is a man of God(act totally different) that God gave him word that he will have children,he married me,knowing that I cannot have children anymore,after 10 year of married live,full of hell of his narc behavioural he told me he is going to get a second wife,that is younger that can give him children,he just turned 50,and could not conceive children as a young man in his first marriage.I should stay on as 1 st wife(I paid all the bills) he use his money on his hobby,off road motorcycle riding.
I was devestated,he moved me in another part of the house,bought me a bed,set me up in a nice almost like a flat let.I was still supposed to cook and clean,and I did.Till he told me that it all was not good enough.
Then he accuse me of sleeping around and said God show him that I sleep arround with different men.Then I finally knew something big was wrong.
He scold me out of the house to my quarters for 4 weeks and said then he meant to say something else that he read about a jealous man in the Bible.To cut a long storie short,he still did not find the new wife after 6 months,and then I found this article this morning,and know I know,it is not a Bible thing,it is a narc triangle thing! It is still very very painful but thank you,now I now he is nuts,and not I! May the Lord bless you endless for helping so many of us to see the light behind the darkness!

]]> By: Kate https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1254193 Sun, 11 Jul 2021 04:35:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1254193 Even after 30 years of marriage, my husband brings up his ex in the most covert ways.

Last night, we were having Italian food at a New York style pizza joint; I remarked that the tomato sauce on my ziti was excellent – he replied, “real Italians call it gravy – not sauce.” He has told me variations of this line at least 50 times throughout our marriage.

I just looked at him stone-faced, with no emotion, said nothing, and continued eating. The out of the blue reminders that his ex’s family was Italian, he was close to them, and that he knows this type of “inside” cultural information is something that, apparently, I’m not ever allowed to forget.

]]> By: Anonymous https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1253409 Mon, 14 Jun 2021 08:16:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1253409 Yet again, your words resonate.
I am spitting feathers at the moment- it is shock that people do behave that way and utter disgust. But thankfully I have the NARP modules to help clear that C.R.A.P. out.
Thanks Mel xx

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1250693 Thu, 01 Apr 2021 09:42:16 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1250693 In reply to Daniel Graham.

Thank you Daniel for your kind words,

I’m so pleased that myself and my wonderful MTE team are such a help to you.

Sending you love and blessings

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Daniel Graham https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1250656 Thu, 01 Apr 2021 01:18:10 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1250656 Thanks Melanie for the insight about triangulation. Funny how it sounds like strangulation which it damn near feels like currently been in this predicament, Melanie are you an angel? Because the timing of this post and my current recent experiences with in this topic is damn near perfect timing protection I guess .. hard to explain hope you understand I’m genuinely appreciative of this information to protect my current emotional well being . Once again thanks 🙏🏼 Daniel Graham. I’m already a member in the NARP community. Sending my appreciation. For you to do what you do, making people aware who have suffered or suffering I know you may have endured the same kind of treatments. I feel it . My heart go’s out to you for the work you are doing . Your an angel in disguise . Thank you for your input and understanding this resonates with who I am and what I’ve been going through . You wouldn’t realise how much you and the team have helped. Once again many thanks 🙏🏼

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1250061 Tue, 23 Mar 2021 07:47:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1250061 In reply to CH.

Hi CH,

please know I am actually incredibly grateful for what I went through because the other side – as a result of Thriver Healing – has been so rich, meaningful, peaceful, loving and joyful compared to the life I used to previously live, even before abuse.

You Dear Lady have been through such a shocking ordeal.

I am very pleased for you that you are through this challenging time and that now it is your time to heal and Thrive.

You sooo deserve this.

Sending you love, strength and breakthrough

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1250060 Tue, 23 Mar 2021 07:42:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1250060 In reply to Jackie Rourke.

I agree Jackie,

this is horrific.

I am so happy that there have been healings of even terrible alienations as a result of people working with NARP.

Sending you and your family healing and love

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1250059 Tue, 23 Mar 2021 07:40:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1250059 In reply to Dwayne.

That is so very true Dwayne.

Bang on!

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-is-triangulation-and-why-narcissists-use-it-to-gain-the-upper-hand/#comment-1250058 Tue, 23 Mar 2021 07:39:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=9014#comment-1250058 In reply to Cindy.

Hi Cindy,

thank you for saying that!

Please know how welcome you are and thank you for your gracious support.

Love and blessings to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

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