Incredibly profound and impactful. I’ve researched and have come to an understanding that I am dealing with a narcissist . I am a nurse and have always tried to deal logically, but your articles finally gave light to what i knew must have been a deeper rooted issue. I am so grateful to you

Hi Deborah,

totally that’s an unhealthy statement! And your body is reacting to it with the cringe.

I wouldn’t use that alone to diagnose a narcissist, but it’s definitely somebody who is unhealthily codependent at the very least.

Healthy relationships are formed with whole people who aren’t using other people to self-medicate away the pain or neediness.

I hope this helps

Mel 🙏💕💛

Melanie I do not know if you are still answering questions on this page as many of these comments were made years ago. But is it a red flag someone saying they are ‘addicted’ to you? It makes me cringe inwardly…. Is that a dead give away for a narcissist?

There are so many charlatans and snake oil peddlers in this world. “I can cure you, you just have to send me $.” At a point of desperation I was already untrusting and paranoid with conspiracy theories about joining this program but I took the step of joining yesterday. Your comment triggered fear in me. I answered my fear like this: Melanie has made so much information freely available, so much that resonates with me and provides deep answers (not click bait ie. “click here for the answer.”) I have lost faith in my instincts yet when I hear her free words and see her free videos I lean towards trusting my sense that she shares with genuine lovingness. I remind myself that a person is entitled to make a living from coaching others. I am an animal lover and although this may well be projectile poppycock I observed her lovely cat in one her videos. The cat’s behavior said to me “Hi Melanie, just showing you I am here, I’m not going to paw at you and try and take your attention away from the video you are making but yes I am here I respect your space and now I am going to go perch behind you and bask in your positive energy.”

I am here today crippled with obsession and depression. I’ve spent time contemplating ways I could lesson the pain for family and friends who care about me and execute a choice to exit this world. Ultimately this self discussion was futile, there is simply no way to not “ruin” my dear father’s end years of life after his efforts to always help me. This is pretty dark yes. I’ve accepted the low and affordable risk that on day 31 I will come to a realization that I’ve been scammed. I am sure others while not not necessarily expressing such vitriol as the original poster, have the same fears. I do note that typically a marketing department would delete anything like what was posted here.

In the last 2 days I’ve read a tonne of Melanie’s free material. I’ve felt that I’ve gained some insight (though I perceive that insight alone will not be enough, I’m starting to understand that the solution to an illogical problem is not to try and argue back with logica,) the obsessive thoughts have been significantly reduced and I feel a small and fragile sense of hope.

Were I to read my own words a voice of paranoia would suggest I’m a “plant.” A near impossible position to defend. I think I will update this thread as I get into the program.