Comments on: What Makes You A Target For Narcissistic Love Bombing

By: sven

sven — Fri, 14 Jan 2022 23:11:44 +0000

Thanks, Melanie, very good video. You see, I have got Love-bombed up and down through our relationship. Even after I have left, it was an up and down. A bit like that: “Goodbye, go your way, I go my way, I know now myself, you do what is good for you and then it changed to a barrage of sent photos of good times with little hearts and text how she has changed and that she sees the errors she made, only to start over again, leaving, sending me off and so on. never-ending horror, even though I said so many times, that I need to heal. I need to heal. It never mattered and so she remained the pinnacle of the world and of course all her friends see all of what she told me the way she sees things.

Perhaps you see my message and you can get back to me.

Shaken but still alive.
Sven

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 07 Aug 2021 07:11:05 +0000

In reply to Louise.

It’s my pleasure Louise,

I’m so pleased that I can help

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 07 Aug 2021 07:09:11 +0000

In reply to Sabine Verhaeghe.

Hi Sabine,

I’d love to help you with this, by pointing you towards my comprehensive resources on this topic.

If you google my name plus narcissistic family members these resources will appear.

I hope that this helps

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Bill

Bill — Fri, 06 Aug 2021 08:34:45 +0000

After having a narcissistic experience several years ago I was profoundly confused and forced to learn their behavioral traits. I was able to get away from the relationship roller coaster ride after several months had passed. Left me confused and doubting myself, took about 2 years to start to become myself again. Her changes had occurred so quickly that it was difficult to understand why the sudden change of heart and the cruelty that went with it. I first thought it was The Jezebel Spirit put upon more research I realized that I was dealing with a true schizophrenic paranoia narcissist. If you ever find yourself with a person that can place you on a pedestal one minute and tear you down in front of their inner circle of friends the next, do yourself a favor, run far away, heal, count your blessings that you survived and never look back again

By: Sabine Verhaeghe

Sabine Verhaeghe — Fri, 06 Aug 2021 08:14:13 +0000

What about love bombing from my mother and my sister who are the cause I have been in abusive relationships my whole life. Luckily this is over! I have a lovely husband but I am the slave of my mother and sister. Do I have to do no contact with them? This is so painfull. The family topic is a difficult one. Lot’s of love!!!!

By: Shannon Atkins

Shannon Atkins — Thu, 05 Aug 2021 16:25:54 +0000

Love bombing at church, how disgusting is that? He found out I’d just given my life to Christ and so he turned 9n the ” I’m the Godly man you’re looking for….” we are divorced, he still abuses my kids and I can see him love bombing my daughter and he can still use pain and threats on my son to “keep them in line” do what he wants, make them think he is a nice guy …or he’ll kill you. No joke.

By: Anna

Anna — Thu, 05 Aug 2021 15:00:36 +0000

For me I was immediately attracted to her and fancied her! Like if I had a type of gay woman I look for it would be her! The looks, style, size and figure is something I would fantasise about! She ticked the boxes of what I would be attracted to! I think it was the fact I am very busy and always working but quite lonely with a very small circle of friends that are not close by! My x gf & friend said I was bored and she saw through all this when I showed her video’s she sent of herself dancing and singing to me. She said she is a fake, attention seeker and a user! All of this seemed true as I went through the experience over 7 mnths, but relationship was 3mnths/2mnths seperation and then 2mnths with breaks in between that! It was lots of love bomb/future faking and then discard and at least 3 attempts of mentioning she has a debt of £1000 which I would not entertain and in my mind was thinking what has her debts got to do with me! Anyhow stupidly knowing she has a family and living with a guy who I believe she married to but she wasn’t! She lied and cheated and I know this mainly from intuition but I see her walking one time in the area with another gay woman so I am sure of it! Also she gave things away with how she talks about stuff and is very immature in her manner and with her choice of words! I would see her around she’d always be attached to her phone even in her company at times too! I realise she was playing me all this time! I believe seeing if she could get money or things out of me but I was aware of this and guarded! I have been in non contact since the last time we saw each other! The next day she had said I don’t trust so there’s no point by text! She had said s few days ago that she is toxic. So after her talking about herself (me, me, me). I saw & realised that this person is not only selfish but annoying and her energy so negatiive and draining that I thought I can’t help this person or bend over backwards for them anymore! So in an attempt to talk as I listen more than talk sometimes but it had opened up my intuition about this person’s true colours! So I said hastily ‘our not just toxic, your also a narcissist! Which hit a nerve i bet! Several times within my company her mask fell off and all i saw was guilt and shame written all over her face! All I ever gave this person was genuine love, care and attention! But she continually played her game/s! So that’s what ended it! I was sad for a while but I had to just go back to doing the best for me and my mental health! I am feeling much more peaceful and still hoping to find love although at times I do just feel like given up on this! I am very independent and self sufficient which makes me a very strong willed person!
The thing is my family weren’t nurturing or caring but I’m not a narcissist so this is what baffles me!
My childhood wasn’t exactly or nowhere perfect either yet I’m definitely a em-path and caring type of person! Thank you for your videos and help with this subject! It has been an experience I won’t forget. Bare in mind this happened to me whilst we are all going through a difficult time in life i.e; Covid, lockdowns and restrictions!

By: Julia

Julia — Thu, 05 Aug 2021 13:30:17 +0000

What makes you a target? Sometimes you are rebounding from a long relationship, maybe your biological clock is ticking and you feel you need to hurry up and find somebody. That is what happened to me. I was aware of his shortcomings but felt like if I didn’t marry now then it would be too late to have a family, so I settled. Wrong. I should have heeded that inner voice and just kept looking. He turned out to be an even bigger jerk than I could possibly have ever imagined.

By: (protecting my privacy - no offence intended)

(protecting my privacy - no offence intended) — Thu, 05 Aug 2021 12:42:46 +0000

What comes to mind is that everyone could benefit from this healing work, whether they were abused as adults or not. There are so many cultural and practical aspects to child rearing; past and current circumstances and social norms (speaking for myself, of course) might set an adult up for vulnerability to love bombing. Remember “children are seen, not heard”, for example? Childhood traumas and unhelpful “programming” are certainly nothing to be ashamed of.

Thank you for keeping the conversation going.