I wept while I was reading this, as it joined the dots between so many painful points in my life. I’ve always been bamboozled by the notion of intuition. “Just trust your instincts” people say. When you’ve spent your entire life cut off from them, and left with many fragmented and conflicted internal programs, it hurts to hear that kind of advice.

As a consequence of burying my intuition, I’ve had close to zero trust in my emotions. I’ve chronically sought a supply of external validation (co-dependent supply?) with other wounded people. I’m lucky that I never experienced proper narcissistic abuse but I began to notice narcissistic traits appearing in my partners and myself as I got more and more disconnected from my self and desperate.

Thank you for sharing this wisdom Melanie.
Mark.

Hi Leslie,

The authentic relationship with self starts to automatically ‘be’ when we have lost enough trauma from within to be healthily self-partnered.

This is hard to understand logically and much easier understood when experienced.

Please come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar so that I can explain it to you.

Lots of love

Mel 🙏💕💛

Hi Angelique,

Thank you for your return answer too Dear Lady!

I so agree if your gut is squirming there is often a really good reason for that.

And that our individual red flags are very much about changing our old programs by being much more defined about what we will and won’t tolerate. You are so right about that.

My personal big red flag is men who engulf and are possessive and controlling.

Angelique I loved London it is so charming and beautiful. I find the Brits really warm and down to earth and wished I could stay much longer.

Next time!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

Hi Mel,
Thanks for your answer, I agree with what you say but I really believe you can get a spot on feel way before meeting for someone, even just looking at the profiles if you’re deeply in touch with your intuition.
Yes I did use to go on the dates with the very state of mind you describe and not just with that particular red flag. It turned out everytime as I felt it at the onset. With that red flag it was: too busy, no real time for anyone else in their lives or not interested in you as person, had seen the photos and already knew what they needed to or the type who will shelf you and dust you off as needed or will do as little as they possibly can get away with in general or just after a plus one or simply not that interested all together.
If it didn’t find me a partner it sure made me trust my gut instinct and not waste my time anymore. Maybe one women’s red flag isn’t necessarily another’s but that was my experience.
Hope you enjoyed coming to England, it was nice to know you were on the same bit of earth for a bit.

Hi Sandra,

This is great that you do want to get to your ttue authenticity to lead her. It’s so hard when the stakes are so high regarding love, because this is our children.

Please know I totally went through what you are feleling with my son!

Are you working with NARP Sandra? There is so much powerful shifting and support Sandra there to help you get to where you really want to go.

If you are not working with NARP then I’d really love you to connect to my free webinar to find out more about what NARP can do for you at http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

Hi Angelique,

I’m a little curious as to know, did you have any dates with these guys who did this to see what they were like?

As a previous dating coach as well as prolific online dater myself when I was single, my belief is it is normal for people to strange multiple dates with people to find the person they are compatible with.

I myself would have conversation with people until date was secured and have more dates in the making as well, as I expected them to also, if they had.

My thinking was (only if I was interested in catching up with a man) if that date was secured then he and I could ascertain much more at a face to face meeetind and no more banter was necessary if not forthcoming.

To me the previous interaction was specifically to move it to that potential meeting, which is a next step.

In fact I prefer one phone call before creating the actual physical date, to know if there is potential for the connection of a date.

There is usually no real connection truth in dating until physically meeting someone.

Then I personally believe it is within an actual dating courting process that you will see character, reliability, does he keep his word, and you can start ascertaining his values etc…

Mel 🙏💕❤️