Dear Reesey
I am in the same boat as you. I keep attracting narcissists. This last time I figured him out quicker than the others and ended it the moment I realized he too was a narcissist. Yes I protected myself quickly but it doesn’t make me feel any better than I did with previous experiences.
Just heart wrenching that all I attract in life are narcissists! Like you, I cannot believe anyone anymore.

Hi Kirsten,

this resource of mine may help you https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-set-boundaries-with-a-narcissist-if-you-cant-go-no-contact/

Also please google my resources about elderly narcissists and family narcissists, because this may help as well.

I’m so pleased that NARP http://www.melanietonyevans.com/narp has been able to help you so much Kirsten.

Much love to Big K and little K.

And please remember that you can ask any questions to get any support or tips that you need in the NARP members forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

Mel 🙏💕💛

I was Stunned (!) reading this article. My mom is a narc (as well as my soon to be ex). She lie about EVERYTHING! Even stupid little things that don’t matter. You’ve put my feelings into words! I didn’t understand WHY she does it…all I know is that it drove me CRAZY. I have trouble being around her and severely limit our time together.

My question is…she is 75yrs old. I don’t want to COMPLETELY eliminate her from my life..but I do need to continue to limit my time with her.

Do you have any videos or blogs about managing emotions when around a narc?

I’m actually feeling that feeling of anger and anxiety that I have around my mom right now! Just writing this to you brings up those feelings (I’m going right to module 1 when I’m done writing this).

Thank you so much. Your NARP program has been incredible. It’s hard but it’s also so very interesting to connect with my Little K.

Big K 😘

Hi Melanie,
I know the truth of what you say. Just recently I became consciously aware of a previously unconscious belief “I’m not wanted”. This was then followed half a week later in a deep mediation with experiencing a past life memory. I won’t go into deep detail but I was a baby in the womb, and very much in my body, already spiritually connected to my mother and I had my life ended. In that life the mother was the mother I have in this life. The belief “I’m not wanted” became ‘stuck’ or better put ‘trauma bonded’ to me. I can see now how this unconscious belief has vibrationally affected every person around me my whole life (Only a few select people seemed to be vibrationally immune, like my dad). I have manifested being unwanted by my siblings, the other children at school (bullied), the struggle to get a job whenever I have been seeking one. The ways this inner belief have manifested around me have been countless and in every area of my life. Knowing I was the creator (albeit unconsciously creating) allows me to let go of blaming others for how they have treated me. There is forgiveness instead.
The forgiveness releases me and them and I can move forward and create my new life. Next is to find the (currently unconscious) belief about money (or maybe it’s ‘deservedness’) that is preventing abundance from flowing to me. I am feeling relaxed about this and know that it will unfold and that I do not need to be upset at myself or others that this is something that needs healing. I am instead, feeling curious about what past life trauma event I will discover goes with that belief.

Hi Ellie,

my heart goes out to you being in such a painful, dependent and difficult situation.

I completely hear what you’re saying and it’s incredibly courageous of you to be doing the modules and emotionally detaching from him, and of course this is going to cause you to see things more clearly and to be more reactive towards him.

However, the next step for you is to do the module work to detach from reacting, and to keep pulling fully back into your power and handing him so much less, so you can be the generative force of solution. I promise you that there have been people in your situation within the community who have been able to heal within, and open up the space for supports, solution and even miracle to enter. Even when none seems possible.

I’d love you to come into the NARP members forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp For support in this crucial time.

I hope that this can help guide you, and please know we are all sending you strength, breakthroughs and healing.

Mel 🙏💛💕