Comments on: Why Do We Keep Doing Things We Know Are Bad For Us?

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 20 May 2019 10:06:15 +0000

In reply to Amanda.

Hi Amanda,

It’s my pleasure.

The truth is it wasn’t until I released all the trauma within pushing me to drink to numb out – that it was possible.

Even to this day I know I have to turn inwards to heal my trauma rather than use alcohol to self medicate.

Alcohol is now a fun, feel good celebratory thing.

My addiction with cigarettes was worse and I’m totally clear of it, but in no shape or form would I ever consider having a toke on anything again.

That’s my personal journey with addictions and I hope there is something in there to help with your question.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 19 May 2019 16:53:14 +0000

Mel thank you for that so appropriate for where I’m at. I have a question. You said that you were addicted to alcohol but now you seem to have a cocktail now and again. As a weed addict if I do this process for my addiction will I be able to smoke a joint now and then?

By: lee sutter

lee sutter — Sat, 07 Oct 2017 18:16:45 +0000

This article has given me so much hope, and definite steps to take, to be with the pain, in the now, to override it with the positive side of ceasing the habit, and this reminder, to me, the most important and encouraging, and I quote you: “The great thing is, your emotional body knows no difference between what you are imagining, what you choose to tell yourself, and what is actually real.
In fact what ‘becomes real’ is always what you decide to think about, feel and believe NOW.”
Thank you !!

By: n/a

n/a — Mon, 26 Dec 2016 22:34:42 +0000

I have been fighting to stop my behavior for a long time and keep losing. I like your method of reprogramming the neuron pathway – I have never seen it described that way before and it gives me hope that I can really do it. Deep breath… I hate myself and need to stop the cycle.

By: Amelia

Amelia — Sun, 13 Oct 2013 06:47:53 +0000

Hi Mel,
I’ve been reading about narcissistic behaviours for maybe 6 months now, having left my family of origin and n. mother about a year and a half ago. I just wanted to share, my addiction/destructive habit, was to be swimming in shame. I saw that when my partner would be generous or give praise or compliments, I would often reject it or find it hard to swallow. This craving hit hard recently and I found this article just in time. Thanks for helping me fill the emptyness created by my mother snatching praise and love away from me.
Blessings
Amelia

By: elizabeth doak

elizabeth doak — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 14:44:09 +0000

your comments are hitting the spot in many ways thank you

By: Val

Val — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 08:24:54 +0000

Hi Angela,
I just read your post and it really touched me. I think I know a little of how you feel and that feeling of wondering how you can keep going even one more day.
You will and things will get better!
You have no choice but to put yourself first now or you will not keep going.
Make time for yourself to read some articles,
listen to the radio shows, keep a journal. do some affirmations, believe me Angela there is no other way.
Read this week’s blog that Mel wrote honey and the comments underneath.
You are not alone Angela, there are so many of us here that know what is happening for you. Join us here and keep in touch – lots of love and blessings to you. xxxxxx

By: Angela Birks

Angela Birks — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 13:12:20 +0000

Hi Mel,

My life has become so hugely complicated and
I have read your advice. I am struggling so much within that I feel I am just existing. I go to work, I come home so totally exhausted with the huge problems that are coming my way financially as I am going to lose my house as well. I trusted my partner and with placing money into his business now the company is in huge debt, to this point I could possibly loose my house. The partner who I thought I knew is not the person I know. I have never encountered so much bad luck since meeting him. I am working and supporting him in living expenses as well and I am trying to keep on working so to support myself and my own household bills. I really don’t know how much longer I can continue mentally, physically. I started reading some of your articles and have purchased them in the past. I find I don’t have any time or energy to continue going with you articles, as negative stuff seems to overide my time for the articles. Its like I have to go to another planet to have not distractions. My apologies for such a negativity but this is how I am feeling. Kindest Regards Ange

By: Val

Val — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 10:47:32 +0000

Hi Mel,
Thank you so much for this brilliant article.
I have learnt so much from it and finally been able to find the courage to acknowledge those feelings of emptiness that drive addictive behaviours. I previously had not even been consciously aware of that cause and effect issue in myself. Let alone willing to sit with it.
The clarity of the steps as you set them out in the article are genius-very powerful when you start doing them…
When I was in an addictive damaging relationship I see now that my lifelong addiction to sweets escalated. When panic/anxiety/pain set in I would run for the chocolates and cakes.
In the past 6 months I have lost 18 kilos in weight; without effort. I just stopped with the sweets without even realising it.
At a recent check up my doctor expressed concern – what has caused you to lose 20% of your bodyweight? I said I don’t have much appetite- not even for sweets.
After some tests where all ok- it seems that now life is more predictable and safe a couple of years down the track – I just stopped my sweet addiction.
In hindsight, doing those steps I see that I used to sweets and stop start cigarettes to hide the pain from my own self.
Like a lifelong alcoholic – I know that learning this connection will help me be less vulnerable to repeating this pattern in the future.
I have been working on my nutritional program and know that sugar presents heightened risk of many illnesses and in my case greater risk of recurent or metastastic breast cancer; and heightened risk of breast cancer for all women.
So sugar is a critical addiction to break for me and others who may have alcohol addictions to reduce our risks of that terrible illness.
Now that I am officially a breast cancer survivor- yep- hit the 5 year anniversary- thank you so much for this great information to support my future health plan. I am glad to be at a point in life where I focus on and actively create my health care and nutrition plan.
Not so long ago I was too busy worrying about His health plan!!
So step by step I am getting there- and thank you for the insights and steps to keep working towards better self awareness and care.
Lots of love,
Val