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		By: Kathy		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Kathy]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 30 Aug 2022 20:04:18 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[My soon to be ex always used &quot;work&quot; as the excuse to not be there.  For funerals, sicknesses in the kids, whatever it was, if he was not going to get attention it meant nothing.  He could be there for other people, providing it made him look good or get a lot of praise.    It was really maddening.  Since I have been away from him, I have realized this is not how normal relationships work.  There was absolutely nothing normal, and it was definitely not a relationship.  I did realize a few weeks ago when I suffered a big loss, it sucked but it did not suck as bad as it would have living in the same house with someone who just did not care.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My soon to be ex always used &#8220;work&#8221; as the excuse to not be there.  For funerals, sicknesses in the kids, whatever it was, if he was not going to get attention it meant nothing.  He could be there for other people, providing it made him look good or get a lot of praise.    It was really maddening.  Since I have been away from him, I have realized this is not how normal relationships work.  There was absolutely nothing normal, and it was definitely not a relationship.  I did realize a few weeks ago when I suffered a big loss, it sucked but it did not suck as bad as it would have living in the same house with someone who just did not care.</p>
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		By: Katie		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Katie]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Aug 2022 13:55:17 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271342&quot;&gt;Liz&lt;/a&gt;.

Hello Liz, 

I was just scrolling but and read your comment. Is it possible he has ADHD too? Sounds almost exactly like what I deal with as well, especially when he is unmedicated. Maybe something to look into? I hope it gets better for you.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271342">Liz</a>.</p>
<p>Hello Liz, </p>
<p>I was just scrolling but and read your comment. Is it possible he has ADHD too? Sounds almost exactly like what I deal with as well, especially when he is unmedicated. Maybe something to look into? I hope it gets better for you.</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 31 Jul 2022 05:30:06 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271365&quot;&gt;Aneas&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Aneas,

I love your response and it is so true!

Incredibly true that these people are launchpads to our true destinies ... if we claim that opportunity to go within, heal and be released from the experience.

I love you too Aneas, and thank you for your uplifting and loving message to all of us!

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271365">Aneas</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Aneas,</p>
<p>I love your response and it is so true!</p>
<p>Incredibly true that these people are launchpads to our true destinies &#8230; if we claim that opportunity to go within, heal and be released from the experience.</p>
<p>I love you too Aneas, and thank you for your uplifting and loving message to all of us!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 31 Jul 2022 05:27:25 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271364&quot;&gt;Audra A Mitchell&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Audra,

we do offer sponsorships to NARP.

Please email support@melanietoniaevans.com and ask one of my lovely team about this.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271364">Audra A Mitchell</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Audra,</p>
<p>we do offer sponsorships to NARP.</p>
<p>Please email <a href="mailto:support@melanietoniaevans.com">support@melanietoniaevans.com</a> and ask one of my lovely team about this.</p>
<p>Much Love</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Peter		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Peter]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jul 2022 17:25:10 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271366&quot;&gt;Aneas&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Aneas! 
Thank you for your words of comfort, Aneas! May light and blessings always be with you! ✨]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271366">Aneas</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Aneas!<br />
Thank you for your words of comfort, Aneas! May light and blessings always be with you! ✨</p>
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		By: Aneas		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Aneas]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jul 2022 09:33:50 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271315&quot;&gt;Peter&lt;/a&gt;.

Oh Peter!  Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities!  God sees your heart, and will answer your cries.  Yes, they (meaning those parts of you in the dream) were being sabotaged....but not by this hurt, broken person (though hard to accept), but by satan, wickedness, and principalities that He mentions in scripture. &quot;We do not wrestle against flesh &#038; blood,.....but against (what I mentioned above).  We all as humans have experienced trauma, which causes parts of our core to break off where demons can attach themselves to.  He loves you, and I pray that you reach out to Him as He gives you the comfort you need!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271315">Peter</a>.</p>
<p>Oh Peter!  Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities!  God sees your heart, and will answer your cries.  Yes, they (meaning those parts of you in the dream) were being sabotaged&#8230;.but not by this hurt, broken person (though hard to accept), but by satan, wickedness, and principalities that He mentions in scripture. &#8220;We do not wrestle against flesh &amp; blood,&#8230;..but against (what I mentioned above).  We all as humans have experienced trauma, which causes parts of our core to break off where demons can attach themselves to.  He loves you, and I pray that you reach out to Him as He gives you the comfort you need!</p>
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		By: Aneas		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Aneas]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jul 2022 09:13:12 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271354&quot;&gt;Melanie Tonia Evans&lt;/a&gt;.

Melanie! Yes, this is so good!  For myself, I&#039;m learning that the horrific trauma that I;ve been through with this my whole life, is only being healed by me being willing to face my own false self which God has always intended me to see, address, and heal with HIS LOVE!  Thank you for your rich nuggets that always bless me!!!  I&#039;m learning to embrace this journey and see it as a great blessing instead of the &quot;desperate quick fix&quot; that I know so many of us think we&#039;ve needed. I remember 4.5 yrs. ago when my eyes were first opened to this &quot;narcissistic abuse&quot;, I heard a truth that sticks to me even this day.  Though hard to swallow, it has carried me through to this day...&quot;just try to understand that the narcissist was actually allowed to be brought into your life as one of your greatest blessings&quot;.  Don&#039;t take me wrong, &quot;NO&quot; God doesn&#039;t want us to remain in an abusive situation where we embrace these abusive behaviors,. However,  He does want to use it as His launching pad to bring us to our Destinies!  I just want to encourage everyone who may be reading this,...&quot;Stay with it, He Loves you, and He&#039;s Faithful to walk you through the process as you find yourself (true self) falling head-over-heels IN LOVE WITH HIM&quot;!!!  Thank you again, Melanie!  I love you!....and love &#038; blessings to everyone here!!!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271354">Melanie Tonia Evans</a>.</p>
<p>Melanie! Yes, this is so good!  For myself, I&#8217;m learning that the horrific trauma that I;ve been through with this my whole life, is only being healed by me being willing to face my own false self which God has always intended me to see, address, and heal with HIS LOVE!  Thank you for your rich nuggets that always bless me!!!  I&#8217;m learning to embrace this journey and see it as a great blessing instead of the &#8220;desperate quick fix&#8221; that I know so many of us think we&#8217;ve needed. I remember 4.5 yrs. ago when my eyes were first opened to this &#8220;narcissistic abuse&#8221;, I heard a truth that sticks to me even this day.  Though hard to swallow, it has carried me through to this day&#8230;&#8221;just try to understand that the narcissist was actually allowed to be brought into your life as one of your greatest blessings&#8221;.  Don&#8217;t take me wrong, &#8220;NO&#8221; God doesn&#8217;t want us to remain in an abusive situation where we embrace these abusive behaviors,. However,  He does want to use it as His launching pad to bring us to our Destinies!  I just want to encourage everyone who may be reading this,&#8230;&#8221;Stay with it, He Loves you, and He&#8217;s Faithful to walk you through the process as you find yourself (true self) falling head-over-heels IN LOVE WITH HIM&#8221;!!!  Thank you again, Melanie!  I love you!&#8230;.and love &amp; blessings to everyone here!!!</p>
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		By: Audra A Mitchell		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Audra A Mitchell]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jul 2022 04:32:42 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271356&quot;&gt;Melanie Tonia Evans&lt;/a&gt;.

Do you offer scholarships? I&#039;m willing to give beck . 
I was possessed by a parasite narcissist for about 10 years. I now have diabetes &#038; high blood pressure due to aftershock. All of this just blows my mind. I do forgiveness work every day however, I lost almost everything. 
I thirst to go from deviation to thriving ( if I only had the energy)
I&#039;d love a reply 🌹❤️🌹 Thank you very much ❤️🌹❤️]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271356">Melanie Tonia Evans</a>.</p>
<p>Do you offer scholarships? I&#8217;m willing to give beck .<br />
I was possessed by a parasite narcissist for about 10 years. I now have diabetes &amp; high blood pressure due to aftershock. All of this just blows my mind. I do forgiveness work every day however, I lost almost everything.<br />
I thirst to go from deviation to thriving ( if I only had the energy)<br />
I&#8217;d love a reply 🌹❤️🌹 Thank you very much ❤️🌹❤️</p>
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		By: Peter		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Peter]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jul 2022 04:21:59 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-abandon-you-when-you-need-them-most/#comment-1271341&quot;&gt;Liz&lt;/a&gt;.

Dear Liz!
Thank you so much for your kindness and thoughtful words! Many blesings to you!
❤️]]></description>
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<p>Dear Liz!<br />
Thank you so much for your kindness and thoughtful words! Many blesings to you!<br />
❤️</p>
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