Comments on: Why Narcissists Inevitably Discard You https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 21 Jun 2025 17:44:03 +0000 hourly 1 By: Petra https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1285699 Sat, 21 Jun 2025 17:44:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1285699 Get in touch with spiritual Dr Hope to help you get a dream spouse with marriage. With the help of his spiritualism. He can bring your exes back after separation or divorce if your heart still beats for your ex lover. He’s Highly organized and functional with his spiritual works. His email marriagehelper91@gmail.com, Or WhatsApp+2349137446738. One message to Dr Hope will save your family and the happiness in your marriage.

]]> By: Brea https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1254011 Sun, 04 Jul 2021 11:58:02 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1254011 In reply to Carol Packer.

Thanks Melanie I can relate to every word.
I ran my own business had 3 kids with the narc I had no choice but to take my kids to work when they were all 8 weeks old because he wouldn’t support us and I had to keep up with his grand ideas and if end up paying for them pretty much gave him my soul & waited on him however He was earning the big bucks. His money was his mine was ours. Never truly loved the kids and still I didn’t see it for what it was even tho most around me did. Ended up finding out he cheated on me the entire 8 years many woman even while I was in labour reciving naked pics for mistress once I finally started holding him accountable for all the gasslighting cheating and abuse ect. He gave me cervical cancer from affairs too he booked his teeth in the day of my operation typical narc!!!
Once u see it your like how did I miss it 😣

He stonewalls and discards in the most horrible way to replace with someone else who literally wouldn’t have lasted 1 second having children with him.
It’s hard to comprehend when u have been soooo good to this person and everyone knew it to be smeared before discard your just like whattt this makes sense they have to deny your real self so true!!!
He was so selfish and lazy & kept me in fear with so many tactics! Thankyou again for your work it’s weird how they act the same😯

]]> By: havdvhy@yahoo.com https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1248293 Sun, 14 Feb 2021 18:00:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1248293 Trashy behavior is learnt behavior. Some just inherit the rotten dust bowl genes from their family.

]]> By: Luisa https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1239566 Tue, 14 Jul 2020 22:40:02 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1239566 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Hi Mel, bless you I have been doing the work loving myself back to wholeness working on my trauma which kept me stuck in painful relationships thinking I did not deserve love and now I have woken up to value love and care for myself not to look outside of myself for it. I am feeling happy. Even though it was family members I let go of I cant fix or lose myself they need to take responsibility which I have looked at my part in it and I am willing to do the work for my freedom and emancipation.

]]> By: Mel Ankolly https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1233816 Thu, 12 Mar 2020 18:21:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1233816 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Hello EAlex? I’m finding myself (possibly in vain?) typing & posting a response to an SOS you sent out some time ago.. I would love to know your situation right now & how you are at the moment ? I hope there was no further agony to endure? The reason I’m so interested to know (&hoping!) that you have reached some stage of resolve & /or recovery? is because your ‘words’ mirror my current situation almost exactly, & your explanation is pretty much identical to where I am emotionally in my life right now. I was very recently & very suddenly ‘discarded’ by my covert malignant narcissist of a partner. After three year in a relationship, & sharing (what I was led to believe) an evening of genuine intimacy & affection with my (then) partner. But by 2pm the following day I found a carrier bag containing some returned possessions left on my doorstep. He wouldn’t then
answer my phonecalls, I just got a single text telling me I was a bad person, before he blocked my number on his phone. This person ‘love bombed’ me in a very big way, but then following all my failed attempts & futile efforts to intercept & derail a very long & increasingly painful ‘devaluation’ process, I finally reached a point where I had become so emotionally beaten down, broken & helpless (& still confusedI) through a barrage of continued manipulative abuse & ‘gas lighting’, when I was at my most wounded, I was abruptly & unexpectedly ‘discarded’. The pain is excruciating.

]]> By: Survivor https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1233783 Thu, 12 Mar 2020 06:02:24 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1233783 It was another morning when I didn’t feel like getting out of the bed. The feelings of being abused, discarded and humiliated were all over me again. He discarded me, my efforts, my love right before the month we were getting married in. I invested so much in the wrong person. I still love him and it makes me feel terrible to realize that I am in love with a person who is such a malignant narc. I never want him again in my life but the feeling of loss doesn’t go away. Thank you so much for this article. My will to live is coming to an end but I am trying to get better. Your articles always help me, dear Melanie!

]]> By: Tania https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1230646 Mon, 03 Feb 2020 04:16:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1230646 Hi Melanie My story is not of a love that turns out to be a narcissist, but of several narcissistic and psychopathic stalkers chasing me to harass me and committing any number of crimes from trespassing, property damage, production and distribution of images with images taken with spy cameras , defamation, illegal intervention of communications, and it was first for two sexual stalkers, one of them my boss is a sexual stalker psycho capable of any crime, and the second part of this nightmare, starting with an alleged suitor who got too angry For being discarded, go, I brought the experience of the stalkers and he had the same behavior, I didn’t even let him get close. But for better or for worse, these unfortunates do not leave me alone. To my house only as rateros could they enter: to make fun of us, to humiliate us and ultimately to get money from crimes based on other crimes. Here in Mexico the authorities shine for their absence but society itself is disgusting. My own coworkers, supposed friends, told me to just remember that the State of Mexico was number 1 in femicides. And I think that, by discarding them immediately (because of the experience I had), they committed at least 9 crimes, if I had been with any of these I would already be dead.

]]> By: Stephanie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1230570 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 07:16:32 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1230570 Hi. This evening I came across your blog and am so thankful I did. I have watched a couple of your YouTube videos and read your articles explaining what a narcissist is and how they manipulate the people around them. My sister is a prime example. Knowing that distancing myself was the best thing I could do has helped to alleviate some guilt. I moved across the country just to get away from her and our mother. Living with one narcissist was horrible but two was soul destroying. When our parents passed it should have brought us together. Instead a huge gulf developed. She waited 12 hours to contact me to tell me our mother had died. Ignored me at the wake and funeral. I came home hurt and confused. She wouldn’t answer my phone calls or emails until I finally asked in one about the division of the estate. Surprise to me! She had taken mom to her lawyer and had her change the will. She sent me a copy. The wording tore me apart. She disowned me and my children. For years my sister played a loving role towards me and my family, but all the time she was spreading horrible lies about us. Eight years and I still feel raw and humiliated. It made me doubt everyone in my life, even my own children and spouse. Can I trust anyone? Maybe I am the horrible person she painted me to be? When someone hurts you this deeply it’s hard to believe that anyone loves you.
Really, thrilled to have found you. Will be signing up for your course.
Thank you!
Steph

]]> By: Stephanie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-inevitably-discard-you/#comment-1230568 Sat, 01 Feb 2020 07:08:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6604#comment-1230568 Hi. This evening I came across your blog and am so thankful I did. I have watched a couple of your YouTube videos and read your articles explaining what a narcissist is and how they manipulate the people around them. My sister is a prime example. Knowing that distancing myself was the best thing I could do has helped to alleviate some guilt. I moved across the country just to get away from her and our mother. Living with one narcissist was horrible but two was soul destroying. When our parents passed it should have brought us together. Instead a huge gulf developed. She waited 12 hours to contact me to tell me our mother had died. Ignored me at the wake and funeral. I came home hurt and confused. She wouldn’t answer my phone calls or emails until I finally asked in one about the division of the estate. Surprise to me! She had taken mom to her lawyer and had her change the will. She sent me a copy. The wording tore me apart. She disowned me and my children. For years my sister played a loving role towards me and my family, but all the time she was spreading horrible lies about us. Eight years and I still feel raw and humiliated. Will be signing up for your course.
Thank you!

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