Thank you so much…. finally he discarted me…and i am so happy to be saved by my true intentions..omg i wasn’t aware of this kind of men…. and he denies it in all tones!
But i am saved… hallelujah http://www.jjqart.nl

I had no contact with my narc partner of three years after the first time he punched me in the face, smiling. I never ever thought he would touch me, I was used to the gaslighting and mind games. In his frustration he stalked me, sent flowers, sent threats, tried to lose me my job. So I finally showed the photos of my bruises to the police and took him to court. His lawyer tried to make me seem the wrong one, to discredit me. But he was charged and that was two years ago. I’m in a very happy normal relationship now, but I’m plagued with flashbacks and regrets at putting up with his ego and believing his lies, for over three years. No contact literally is the only way. He even tried to get me back after the criminal sentencing. And him an ex police detective.. he didn’t want me, he just wanted to feed off my love, intelligence, kindness and energy.

Hi Casey,

I’m not sure if Mel’s blog will email you if you get a reply and it’s months later now from my original comment (only just replied to Mel above) but I just wanted to say I appreciate your comment and echo your feelings on now being alone in this.

*big hugs* We’ll get there. We have to.

Love
Jemma

Hi Rania,

thank you for letting me know – and I am so pleased you have done this and that it helped.

I love that you are on your way 🙂

Mel xo

Hi again Melanie,

Just wanted to follow up and let you know that I found the link you gave me so helpful. Although I did have to take it slowly and read it a little bit at a time. In fact I laughed out loud when I got to the line where you wrote:

“I hope this has not triggered you too much – and the reason I included these details is so that you do understand I know of the gravity and damage that occurs when having been abused by a narcissistic parent or family member.”

That’s exactly why I was having to pace myself! But I read it all including the comments. All very helpful.

Sending you gratitude. Many seeds of joy are showing up. And the work continues…

Hi Monica,

thank you! I am so pleased thos resonated and please know you are very welcome 🙂

Mel xo

Melanie,
You really did hard work. To be a leader to become consciously aware that it wasn’t really love as it wasn’t complete, whole and mature love. Wow, thank you for sharing with others.