Comments on: Why People Attract Narcissists https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 07 Sep 2019 06:47:49 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-1204820 Sat, 07 Sep 2019 06:47:49 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-1204820 In reply to Kristen.

Hi Kristen,

I’m so pleased this has helped.

Hun this is so great that it is your time to heal.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: Kristen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-1204662 Fri, 06 Sep 2019 09:57:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-1204662 Thank God I found this link. I really thought I was crazy, that there was something wrong with me. I am married to my narricist. For 4 years I have been in a cycle of misery. I do everything I can to make him happy and not only is it wrong, but it’s my fault it’s wrong and he gives me a 20 min or longer tirade that increases in volume about why it’s my fault. He has alienated my entire family and blames them for “how I am” he plays on my insecurities about my past and my problems with my memory. He talks me in circles and has me agreeing with him that it’s my fault. Lately, I have seen him in a different light and decided to look up the definition of narcissistic behavior. I almost cried when I realized I am not insane. Thank you Melanie. I have signed up for your course. I am looking forward to breaking the cycle.

]]> By: holly https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-1070679 Thu, 28 Jun 2018 01:45:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-1070679 i enjoyed listening to this one again. After a period of relaxing my boundaries it’s good to hear this to firm them up again to a more comfortable level….yay for me.

]]> By: Healing https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-976096 Sun, 17 Dec 2017 13:28:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-976096 omg……… the workplace narc is not there anymore 😀 . thanks to God.

]]> By: Healing https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-972299 Wed, 13 Dec 2017 03:13:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-972299 In reply to Kristine.

how wonderful to hear you have the means to go. mine have been in the work place 🙁 .
now I can focus on a new plan 😀

]]> By: Healing https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-972296 Wed, 13 Dec 2017 03:08:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-972296 I am so pleased with my new responses when the various narcs throw out their narc supply tentacles 😀 . at the moment I find alignment. later is when the weird feelings come and go within me. [those codependent fare-ups, the fear of being punished for in some narc way]. it will never be so bad again that I will endure something bad…… but just knowing how they operate gives me the creeps some times; seeing it happen feels like 1.i’m thrilled i’m not succumbing to them 2.awareness of the next stage of their manipulations….3. going home and feeling like that contrast is getting so old; but they are everywhere. I will keep doing my narps , they help so much.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-966530 Tue, 05 Dec 2017 20:51:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-966530 In reply to Angela.

Hi Angela,

you are very welcome 🙂

Please know the “missing” for all of us to do with some part inside us that from our earlier years that has not as yet been healed to wholeness. Some part of us that we assigned (unconsciously) the narcissist to be the healer/giver of.

When we find that part and release the original trauma connected to it and heal it within ourselves the pain goes and our evolution and thriving begins. That is when, too, we no longer draw the people to us who are there to trigger this wound so that finally we can heal it.

The deeper journey is what sorts this Angela, truly healing from what a narcissist triggers within us, is not about time, it is about the inner work.

I hope this helps and much love to you.

Mel xo

]]> By: Angela https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-966308 Tue, 05 Dec 2017 14:06:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-966308 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Thank you Mel! It’s been 3 years apart and I am healing as you said and there many things I miss about being with him but I also had so much anxiety in my life. We shared 8 years together so I know it will still take more time but a day doesn’t go by without thinking about him even though I’m happier and healthier now. That is the kind of impact our relationship had on me. I no longer regret or hate him but thank him for helping me. The hardest part is that I want to meet someone else like him with his energy and love for life but someone who is true and not false. Even though I’m happy I want to share my lust for life with someone too just like I did with him. BTW he did all of the things you mentioned, gaslighting and blaming and stalking after I left, it was the hardest thing to do not to go back but I didn’t thanks to counseling and support such as yourself! Best, Angela

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-people-attract-narcissists/#comment-966099 Tue, 05 Dec 2017 07:38:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5462#comment-966099 In reply to Kristine.

Hi Pam,

I am so pleased this helped 🙂

Mel xo

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