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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Sep 2022 07:54:46 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273923&quot;&gt;Kevin Coban&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Kevin,

I love that you are one of our awesome guys in this community trailblazing for other men by healing with NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Honouring you, Source and the truth in your circumstances has been the ultimate BIG challenge Kevin, and the choices you have made are so wholesome and correct for you and your children, including your next baby.

Your words are very inspirational too for your NARP sisters who know that there are GREAT men doing the inner work!

Love and blessings Kevin, to you and your children, and thank you for sharing your Source wisdom with all of us.

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273923">Kevin Coban</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Kevin,</p>
<p>I love that you are one of our awesome guys in this community trailblazing for other men by healing with NARP <a href="http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp" rel="nofollow ugc">http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp</a></p>
<p>Honouring you, Source and the truth in your circumstances has been the ultimate BIG challenge Kevin, and the choices you have made are so wholesome and correct for you and your children, including your next baby.</p>
<p>Your words are very inspirational too for your NARP sisters who know that there are GREAT men doing the inner work!</p>
<p>Love and blessings Kevin, to you and your children, and thank you for sharing your Source wisdom with all of us.</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Kevin Coban		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Kevin Coban]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Sep 2022 21:07:01 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Hi Melanie
You have given me so much hope and so much knowledge about how to heal, and you have helpt me so much to see the light in the darkness and to set me free that i am so grateful that you exist. I have done your Narp program sense May and i feel now that i have lost all connection to her. I dont love her anymore. I can see now that the only way to freedom is within, even if its hard but i know that it is the only solution. The only challenge that i have know is that we have three Children togheter and that she is pregnant with our forth Children. But enough is enough i cant be around her and sell my soul the her even if she is pregnant. That makes me feel guilty and shame, but i have done everything and iam exhausted. She just dont get it. So i left her. 

I woke up to narcissism about three years ago but i couldnt let her go until i decided to work with Narp. The day she hit our children in may i bought the Narp program and everything changed for me. The situation now is very komplex. But i now trust source and let source take care of everything from the point of my healing energi. I am still working with NARP i think that everything will be ok for me and my children. Thank you again and i am so grateful for your work, you really are the light!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Melanie<br />
You have given me so much hope and so much knowledge about how to heal, and you have helpt me so much to see the light in the darkness and to set me free that i am so grateful that you exist. I have done your Narp program sense May and i feel now that i have lost all connection to her. I dont love her anymore. I can see now that the only way to freedom is within, even if its hard but i know that it is the only solution. The only challenge that i have know is that we have three Children togheter and that she is pregnant with our forth Children. But enough is enough i cant be around her and sell my soul the her even if she is pregnant. That makes me feel guilty and shame, but i have done everything and iam exhausted. She just dont get it. So i left her. </p>
<p>I woke up to narcissism about three years ago but i couldnt let her go until i decided to work with Narp. The day she hit our children in may i bought the Narp program and everything changed for me. The situation now is very komplex. But i now trust source and let source take care of everything from the point of my healing energi. I am still working with NARP i think that everything will be ok for me and my children. Thank you again and i am so grateful for your work, you really are the light!</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
		<link>https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273888</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Sep 2022 03:05:24 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273838&quot;&gt;Doug&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Doug,

I can always ascertain when someone is actually working with the healings or not in NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp as per the language used in their comments.

Thank you for sharing deep, powerful universal truths that come as a result of &quot;light&quot; (the Infinite Mind) having entered your cells where the trauma once was.

The trap - is so real - to try to medicate or &quot;do&quot; something from the outside to take away the trigger of frustration, yet it only leaves the energy signature of the trigger remaining which then means the situation can only ever still remain. Quantum Law - so within, so without.

The understanding of the Quantum Hologram - so within, so without, is the massive game-changer! Heal on the inside and then everything else will and MUST follow.

Thank goodness for NARP that we have a tool to do that.

Much Love, yoou are so welcome and keep up the awesome shifts Doug!

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273838">Doug</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Doug,</p>
<p>I can always ascertain when someone is actually working with the healings or not in NARP <a href="http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp" rel="nofollow ugc">http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp</a> as per the language used in their comments.</p>
<p>Thank you for sharing deep, powerful universal truths that come as a result of &#8220;light&#8221; (the Infinite Mind) having entered your cells where the trauma once was.</p>
<p>The trap &#8211; is so real &#8211; to try to medicate or &#8220;do&#8221; something from the outside to take away the trigger of frustration, yet it only leaves the energy signature of the trigger remaining which then means the situation can only ever still remain. Quantum Law &#8211; so within, so without.</p>
<p>The understanding of the Quantum Hologram &#8211; so within, so without, is the massive game-changer! Heal on the inside and then everything else will and MUST follow.</p>
<p>Thank goodness for NARP that we have a tool to do that.</p>
<p>Much Love, yoou are so welcome and keep up the awesome shifts Doug!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
		<link>https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273887</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Sep 2022 02:56:32 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273823&quot;&gt;Sarah&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Sarah,

I love what you wrote, &quot;I wish him the peace that I have inside of myself&quot;.

So powerful and beautiful!

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273823">Sarah</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Sarah,</p>
<p>I love what you wrote, &#8220;I wish him the peace that I have inside of myself&#8221;.</p>
<p>So powerful and beautiful!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Doug		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Doug]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2022 16:48:30 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Mel - 

I can certainly feel the truth of what you are saying and it is very very helpful and encouraging to hear this clearly now.  It is so easy to be swept off the path of inner work by the loud distracting victimization story, those thoughts that rise up with the emotions and actually push you to seek other ways of coping with the frustration.   

The resistance to healing is substantial but when you do manage to get back on track with the healing it is profound and the next challenge is not the same, it is less intense.   It is like waves of healing and challenges, structured that way purposefully to gather that focused healing.  Also,  these blog videos are really well timed and provided a needed level of clarity.  They are an integral part of the whole healing gift centered around NARP.  

The trauma does seem like a dramatic play of intense emotions stored inside like recordings and its like they need to be acted out, they need to draw in actors from your life so you can see it and heal it.   

I can believe in the healing because it is just mathematically impossible that the same exact drama plays out over and over.  It is a seemingly impossibly rare level of dishonest behavior manifesting in a particular scenario where people collaborate together with the narc, break the law, and recklessly harm or endanger a small child in order to get revenge for my daring to expose the truth using careful documentation of video and audio.   The more clearly they get caught lying, caught lying to cover up the previous lies, caught violating the law, caught violating court orders and caught recklessly endangering a child, the more the collaborators with the narc expand in numbers, the more intensely they dig in with more accusations and lies and the more the authorities break from the law and disavow civil procedure in a seeming unhinged rage to show some kind of zombie-like hypnotized allegiance to authority for the sake of authority, the right to punish those who question that entitlement to abuse their positions, abuse the privileges of office and exploit their insider connections to get revenge against those who question that insider entitlement of the corrupt and dishonest.   

 It is often hard to discern if fighting is making a healthy boundary that protects children and myself or if that is like fighting fire with gasoline; making things worse, by falling for the trick of fighting with a mirage.    I can say for sure that regardless of the indecision, NARP works.  There may not be clarity about what choice to make in midst of crisis but regardless, it always always helps to do the work, disconnect from stress about the outcome, target and release the frustration, anger, pain and powerlessness.  That has a powerful positive and surprising effect in custody hearing and slipping around traps laid.  
Despite the seeming power of others to do harm, I can see that this is a spiritual battle, a barrier between ourselves and our ability to do great things, not just evade that distracting oppression and abuse.  There is a higher purpose I can see and I am grateful for these challenges and especially grateful for your passionate, constant and skillful guidance through this. 

 Thank You!!

Doug]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mel &#8211; </p>
<p>I can certainly feel the truth of what you are saying and it is very very helpful and encouraging to hear this clearly now.  It is so easy to be swept off the path of inner work by the loud distracting victimization story, those thoughts that rise up with the emotions and actually push you to seek other ways of coping with the frustration.   </p>
<p>The resistance to healing is substantial but when you do manage to get back on track with the healing it is profound and the next challenge is not the same, it is less intense.   It is like waves of healing and challenges, structured that way purposefully to gather that focused healing.  Also,  these blog videos are really well timed and provided a needed level of clarity.  They are an integral part of the whole healing gift centered around NARP.  </p>
<p>The trauma does seem like a dramatic play of intense emotions stored inside like recordings and its like they need to be acted out, they need to draw in actors from your life so you can see it and heal it.   </p>
<p>I can believe in the healing because it is just mathematically impossible that the same exact drama plays out over and over.  It is a seemingly impossibly rare level of dishonest behavior manifesting in a particular scenario where people collaborate together with the narc, break the law, and recklessly harm or endanger a small child in order to get revenge for my daring to expose the truth using careful documentation of video and audio.   The more clearly they get caught lying, caught lying to cover up the previous lies, caught violating the law, caught violating court orders and caught recklessly endangering a child, the more the collaborators with the narc expand in numbers, the more intensely they dig in with more accusations and lies and the more the authorities break from the law and disavow civil procedure in a seeming unhinged rage to show some kind of zombie-like hypnotized allegiance to authority for the sake of authority, the right to punish those who question that entitlement to abuse their positions, abuse the privileges of office and exploit their insider connections to get revenge against those who question that insider entitlement of the corrupt and dishonest.   </p>
<p> It is often hard to discern if fighting is making a healthy boundary that protects children and myself or if that is like fighting fire with gasoline; making things worse, by falling for the trick of fighting with a mirage.    I can say for sure that regardless of the indecision, NARP works.  There may not be clarity about what choice to make in midst of crisis but regardless, it always always helps to do the work, disconnect from stress about the outcome, target and release the frustration, anger, pain and powerlessness.  That has a powerful positive and surprising effect in custody hearing and slipping around traps laid.<br />
Despite the seeming power of others to do harm, I can see that this is a spiritual battle, a barrier between ourselves and our ability to do great things, not just evade that distracting oppression and abuse.  There is a higher purpose I can see and I am grateful for these challenges and especially grateful for your passionate, constant and skillful guidance through this. </p>
<p> Thank You!!</p>
<p>Doug</p>
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		By: Sarah		</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2022 09:43:32 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[This came at such the right time for me. I ended up trying to work with a man with narcissistic traits and he breadcrumbed me for an entire year for a work project. I know now I was meant to meet him and he was meant to meet me. A karmic relationship. I feel at peace I got out of it without too much issue. I wish him the peace that I have inside myself. I think he was the final part of the lesson to learn as I had unhealed trauma from a previous narcopath.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This came at such the right time for me. I ended up trying to work with a man with narcissistic traits and he breadcrumbed me for an entire year for a work project. I know now I was meant to meet him and he was meant to meet me. A karmic relationship. I feel at peace I got out of it without too much issue. I wish him the peace that I have inside myself. I think he was the final part of the lesson to learn as I had unhealed trauma from a previous narcopath.</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2022 06:37:02 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273808&quot;&gt;Sharon Reeve&lt;/a&gt;.

So happy for you and him Sharon.

Much Love to you both!

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273808">Sharon Reeve</a>.</p>
<p>So happy for you and him Sharon.</p>
<p>Much Love to you both!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2022 06:36:24 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273811&quot;&gt;Peter&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Peter,

this time is and can be so different for you - because of awakening - because of honouring your soul, standing in truth and taking your power back.

That is what fundamentally NARP shifts are for to allow us to let go of all lower vibrational fears and guilt that is NOT allowing that.

Peter my heart goes out to you for what you have been through and I am thrilled that you are here with all of us NARPing, evolving, ascending and NOT having to keep doing this painful pattern lifetime to lifetime.

NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp breaks those cycles!

Much Love Peter

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273811">Peter</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Peter,</p>
<p>this time is and can be so different for you &#8211; because of awakening &#8211; because of honouring your soul, standing in truth and taking your power back.</p>
<p>That is what fundamentally NARP shifts are for to allow us to let go of all lower vibrational fears and guilt that is NOT allowing that.</p>
<p>Peter my heart goes out to you for what you have been through and I am thrilled that you are here with all of us NARPing, evolving, ascending and NOT having to keep doing this painful pattern lifetime to lifetime.</p>
<p>NARP <a href="http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp" rel="nofollow ugc">http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp</a> breaks those cycles!</p>
<p>Much Love Peter</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2022 06:32:25 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273813&quot;&gt;Mom of 2&lt;/a&gt;.

Thank you Mom of 2,

you are so sweet.

I&#039;m thrilled that NARP is helping you so much!

Tons of love to you and thank you for your kind thoughts and love to all!

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-the-narcissist-came-into-your-life/#comment-1273813">Mom of 2</a>.</p>
<p>Thank you Mom of 2,</p>
<p>you are so sweet.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m thrilled that NARP is helping you so much!</p>
<p>Tons of love to you and thank you for your kind thoughts and love to all!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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