Comments on: Why Thinking Positive All The Time Is Not The Answer

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 13 Jul 2018 02:58:46 +0000

In reply to Stacey.

I totally agree Stacey,

Part of the maintenance of our wellbeing is to stop putting our pearls in front of swines to get continually smashed.

Thank you for your post.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Stacey

Stacey — Thu, 12 Jul 2018 19:06:23 +0000

I also made that same mistake with the law of attraction. I kept using meditation, exercise, positive thinking, healthy food, Etc.to raise my vibration , or in reality, to heal from the pain of the abuse that I had been enduring before going back for more abuse. But the missing piece was knowing that I could walk away and then find healthy minded people to associate with. All those healthy things that I was doing are great but I was using them to stuff down emotions and to heal from the feelings of the abuse that I kept going back to as soon as I felt healed because I didn’t know I could walk away from it because I kept hearing “you can’t change conditions” but if you keep your vibration High then the people around you will respond positively. So every time I would pull away from the narcissistic abuser and do these things to focus on myself I would begin to get stronger, but as we all know that would only encourage the narcissist to reel me back in. Each time I let them reel me back in I kept thinking that the Law of Attraction had worked and that by me focusing on myself and my own vibration that I was doing it right and I was getting what I wanted which was the love from the narcissist. But then each and every time that would be followed by the rejection from The Narcissist throwing me away once again and leaving me blaming myself for not having kept my vibration high enough to keep them loving me. I kept trying to work on my supposed problem of neediness so that I wouldn’t push him away because I thought it was my fault. I kept trying to work on my own vibration and feeling like I had somehow failed. But it was all so confusing to me because I didn’t feel needy with everyone, just some people. Now I know it was all of the narcissist that I attracted into my life that were leaving me feeling needy because of their love-bombing and rejection cycle. We all need love and it was never my fault for being too needy because I knew then and know now that I deserve love just as much as anyone else. I just didn’t yeah I understand how to separate from those who we’re completely uncapable of giving genuine love so that I could go out there and find those who can. When I’m around those who can I don’t feel needy at all. Not because they are showering me with overwhelming amounts of love, because no they aren’t, they are giving me normal healthy amounts of love. But they are not following that up by abusing me so the normal healthy amounts of love do satisfy me and I can also do all of the self-care things that I’ve learned to do to love myself as well.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 30 Jan 2018 06:50:08 +0000

In reply to Toni Williams.

Hi Toni,

what I suggest to help you is the incredible coaching that takes place in the NARP Forum https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

Please know this is a common problem that many people have been through and the lovely and helpful Thrivers and Moderators can help you with it.

Mel xo

By: Toni Williams

Toni Williams — Tue, 30 Jan 2018 00:23:32 +0000

Melanie, I want to do this Quantum Healing, I want to start to learn to love and care about myself. I don’t want to be involved with the Malignant Narcissists, I know that it is a losing battle. Please help me to do this necessary work, to release the Traumas, and reown my disowned parts, to self partner myself and be who I really am and become fully conscious. Im so tired of repeated the past through destructive relationships and being a victim. I know today that I am not a victim anymore and that I did unconsciously try to fix the past through trying to make those who cannot love love and care and stop hurting me. I am a survivor of sexual and physical abuse and mental abuse. I am determined to survive and get better and help others after I recover. Thank You,

By: Toni Williams

Toni Williams — Mon, 29 Jan 2018 23:55:45 +0000

Melanie, I have purchased the NARP Recovery Program, I want to do the Quantum Healing to take the trauma out of my body, to self partner my disowned parts, to live my life in full consciousness, no longer in destructive relationships with Malignant Narcissists, or a victim, but a strong Thriver, I want to learn to love my self and be there for me and take care of me, to listen, and understand and grow and become all that I never had the chance to do because of the victimization. I have listened to your Webinars, and read your newsletters, but each time I try to do this I feel nothing, I can’t get in touch with any Trauma, any age at this time. Can you help me please, I really want to do this.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 11 Jan 2018 06:31:03 +0000

In reply to Vicki Rebecca.

Hi Vicki,

I am so happy for you and this breakthrough!

Thank you for sharing.

Thrive On Dear Lady 🙂

Mel xo

By: Vicki Rebecca

Vicki Rebecca — Wed, 10 Jan 2018 21:27:40 +0000

Wow thank you Melanie.

6 weeks into recovery I have been so confused to the point of “blaming” the modules for more rounds of obsessive thoughts – then I read something on the forum that made me realise the thoughts were simply resistance. So back to the healing work. My next obsession / resistance was that it was contrary to LOA & despite being a regression therapist (yes) I couldn’t figure it out for myself – own stuff and all that, then thankfully THIS article – 100 thank yous. And apart from it “feeling” right – guess what as soon as I got it and re-committed to the healing – the hoovering started. NC is firmly established and the little sneakily given messages (plastic doll dropped in my garden – call from a friends phone) have been reported to the police but for me it was a bigger message – I am on track and back to the modules with gusto. It’s working – guess it will be complete when the hoover can’t even find my vibration anymore 🙂

Thank you with all my heart!

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In reply to Nikki Weigel A.

Wow – you must be superwoman! What great things and such a productive weekend. I need one of those but just can’t get motivated enough. Once the fire’s lit I just want to snuggle!Cathy X