Comments on: Why You Find Yourself Stuck In Narcissistic Relationship Trauma

By: Dawn

Dawn — Thu, 13 Oct 2022 16:19:57 +0000

Mel, I just wanted to leave you a big thank you for this blog, which I keep returning to again and again as I try to leave my narc husband of 42 years. I have now done all the financial and practical preparations, even with the migraines and health problems making for very slow progress. . . but progress it is and I celebrate each little triumph! Still, it’s the cognitive dissonance that is doing a number on me every time I think of finally pulling the plug, and the information you have provided on each of the 6 reasons for being stuck has been invaluable.

After clearing out so much old stuff, It has finally come down to being able to stand up for my own truth, yet each time I imagine facing “the beast” my thinking gets fuzzy on what the truth actually is about what I’ve been through all these years. I’m quite sure that what I’m experiencing is normal for anyone in a long-term relationship with a narcissist, and thankfully the signs that I’m de-enmeshing myself keep nudging me forward. Your analogy of the fly caught in a spider’s web, being wrapped up in lies and deceptions and mind games, is so perfect!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 14 Mar 2022 02:05:48 +0000

In reply to Jane M..

Hi Jane,

Dear Lady, my greatest suggestion to you is to go into the NARP Forum, where we can help you with this – a lot.

It’s a common thing!

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

This will sort it and make your shifts OH so powerful!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 14 Mar 2022 02:03:26 +0000

In reply to Karena.

Hi Karena,

please know how welcome you are.

I am thrilled you are loving your NARP journey.

Power and love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 14 Mar 2022 01:58:56 +0000

In reply to James.

Wow James,

I love your post.

It’s powerful …

Sending love, healing and beautiful joy to both of you!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 14 Mar 2022 01:57:18 +0000

In reply to Trish.

It’s my pleasure Trish,

thank you for your loving words!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 14 Mar 2022 01:54:37 +0000

In reply to Peter.

Hi Peter,

I’m thrilled that this deeply resonated with you and granted you very powerful “markers” to see where you are at.

Thank you for your kind words and blessings and please know how welcome you always are.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 14 Mar 2022 01:52:10 +0000

In reply to mary.

Hi Mary,

please know to help our children the most powerful thing we can do is lead the way by healing ourselves.

I’d love you to google my name plus “our children”. I hope that these resources can help you with what you can do to help your child – a lot.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Trish

Trish — Sun, 13 Mar 2022 13:06:05 +0000

I would say that all 6 factors were bound up with my choice not to leave the narcissistic relationship l was in for 22 years. The hold he had over me was visceral and l totally believe in past life connection. When l finally stepped away it was so easy, and now l find l can view him at an emotional remove with empathy for the damage he suffered when he was young, but never forgetting the damage he chose to inflict on me and my children.
Your 6 shifts are absolutely spot on – thank you so much for the work you do – it is so validating 🧡

By: Peter

Peter — Sat, 12 Mar 2022 20:14:14 +0000

In reply to Karena. PS! Karena Oh my gosh, those past life connections!!! I sure know what you mean! 😱