Comments on: Your Renewal This Easter

By: Raeanne

Raeanne — Tue, 07 Apr 2015 00:10:41 +0000

In reply to Jessica anne. Remember how he lied and lied some more to you? There is no way he will be a truthful person with the others. Narcs live in their own delusions, and work very hard to sell them to the rest of their world. He broadcasts his new flames to convince himself and others how great he is. He is just an empty well. Run!! And I agree with Mel...pay the fine. Fifty bucks is nothing if it buys your freedom.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 05 Apr 2015 13:21:49 +0000

In reply to Sophie.

Hi Sophie,

It is so true that when we still have bad feeling towards someone, they still have power over us …

And that isn’t personal emotional freedom.

That is so wonderful that you have set yourself free.

Thank you for your lovely comments, and you are so welcome Sophie!

Me xo

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 05 Apr 2015 13:16:36 +0000

In reply to Guðmundur Ás Magnússon.

Hi Gudmundur,

I used to struggle with this too …

How to not be co-dependent and be connected with people at the same time, and allow support.

We are not supposed to be an island, we are supposed to be a “bigger self” which includes others” and generating more with this connection than we are possible of generating alone.

We need “connection” to do this … but in no way is this the neediness of “please give me myself”.

In relation to sessions with me, I also have certain people in my life, such as deep tissue massage therapists and even energy shifters when I want support …

The goal is always for me to be more empowered and “healthier”, and I love getting that support and boost, even though naturally I am fully committed to my own self-development and inner work.

To truly be a giver we need to allow ourselves to receive too …

Its a Law of Nature – just as the plants and ourselves with oxygen and carbon dioxide.

Mel xo

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 05 Apr 2015 13:00:24 +0000

In reply to Jan.

Hi Jan,

we have been having some frustrating recording challenges of late!

Which we are still trying to iron out ….

We are working at increasing the level of volume of this latest show, and will repost it!

Mel xo

By: Sophie

Sophie — Sun, 05 Apr 2015 11:29:26 +0000

Another inspiring article Melanie! I totally agree with all you say…it feels wonderful now to have no ill feeling towards my ex-narc, in fact when all of the legal wranglings are complete and we finally say goodbye for the last time, I hope to shake his hand and wish him all the best in his future. And I can honestly say that how I feel about him now. And it gives me great joy and peace to be able to feel like that. Of course we have a lot of unfinished business yet to go through in the courts and I know that won’t be at all pleasant but at least I can see the bigger picture now! Thank you Melanie…I always look forward to your blogs, you are a true gift to humankind!

By: Guðmundur Ás Magnússon

Guðmundur Ás Magnússon — Sat, 04 Apr 2015 17:28:55 +0000

That reminds me. One of many fine lines that is confusing to me: Absolute independence vs. true independence. I don’t need anyone, EVER! vs I can take care of myself but I’ll accept and/or reach out for help if I need to. It is true that only us can ultimately save ourselves but when it is OK to accept help without worrying that we are allowing others to do too much for us. I strongly wish could heal myself all on my own but I also strongly feel that I need some assistance. Especially because I’ve been indoctrinated with the false belief that I’m helpless. But I don’t want too much assistance because I know that isn’t right and it wouldn’t sit well with me even though my old self would want to be told what to do and feel from time to time and then feel bad about it. At other times, a good way to infuriate me is to demand that i accept more help that I want or need. I crave true independence. I don’t want be dependent on anyone or anything. I want to become my own master. So I guess what I’m trying to say is where is that line between absolute independence and true independence. Why offer private sessions? Why not just allow people to help themselves with your programs in private?

Anyway, time sure flies! Happy Easter!

“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.”
Norman Cousins

“I’m leaving this behind. The gift of guilt”
Gojira – The Gift of Guilt

(I understand that bad experiences can be used to grow and learn but still struggling with the idea of associating the word gift with bad experiences but I’m slowly and hopefully surely coming to terms with it)

By: Jan

Jan — Sat, 04 Apr 2015 12:06:39 +0000

Hello Melanie, I was, as always, looking forward to listening to your latest radio show on Eastertime, however, there appears to be a fault with the sounding on your show, in that I can only very faintly hear your voice and can barely make out what you are saying. Disappointing !!
Was wondering if you have received any similar feedback regarding the sound on this latest show. I would really love yo listen to it, but even with the sound turned up to maximum on the device I am using, I can still barely hear you.
I have also sent you a private FB message regarding the same.
The introduction on the show is perfectly loud and clear, but it is just your voice thereafter which is very very faint and barely audible.

Happy Easter Mel, have a lovely weekend.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 03 Apr 2015 21:35:36 +0000

In reply to Jessica anne.

Hi Jessica Anne,

I am going to be really, really straight with you.

You are totally in the throes of narc obsession, which is a horrible place to be.

The reason you are is this … because you are NOT taking on your own necessary evolution, healing and development.

You are making it all about the narc instead of yourself – and you are not going to get better until you stop doing this, and get down to the total taking on of: “What parts of me are involved?” … and “What do I need to heal within me that allowed this and is keeping me emotionally hooked in this?” “What is it within me that is assigning someone else as the dispenser of my worthiness and value?”

Jessica Anne THAT is what my entire work is about – NOT the narcissist.

I can’t recommend enough coming into my next Webinar https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

As for the $50.00 drop your ego and pay it … of COURSE he is never going to pay it.

And truly you are degrading yourself every time you are making an issue about it – he is laughing at you every time … just pay it!

And count your lucky stars its only $50.00 – there are people in the Community, myself included, who have paid hundreds of thousands of dollars for a lesson that was TOTALLY worth it.

The lesson?

The necessary healing and development of ourselves that became incredible apparent as a result of being narcissistically abused.

Mel xo

By: Denise

Denise — Fri, 03 Apr 2015 21:32:18 +0000

In reply to Jessica anne.

I’m so sorry you haven’t been able to disconnect with your ex yet, but you came to the right place. Melanie has great articles to help us understand what happend and to heal ourselves. If you don’t heal yourself, you’re going to attract other men just like him. Have you read the free e-books Melanie offers? You really need to stop contacting him. Don’t look what’s he’s doing on social media, block him on your phone, and pay the library fine, cancel the account and get another card on your name only. I also recommend learning about co-dependency. Co-dependent people attract narcissists. The books by Pia Mellody and Melody Beattie are great resources to learn about co-dependency. Co-dependent Annonymous groups are great too. There’s a lot of help for us to heal. Good luck in your journey.