Food for thought for me.

Thanks again, great video.

Hi DC,

that’s so wonderful and I can’t wait to see you in the NARP community.

Much love to you.

Mel 🙏💕💛

Thank you Melanie! I will start working with NARP and join the community asap so I can help my self and my DD. I appreciate your empathy and compassion.
Feeling blessed to have your guidance.
DC

Hi DC,

I am so sorry that you are dealing with all of this and my heart goes out to you and your children.

DC are you working with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp ?

I promise you it is vital that you work with NARP so that she heals up tp where you go. Also by you working with NARP you have the support of the incredible NARP Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member and we can show you how to do healing by proxy with her to help her immensely.

I promise you with everything I have got it is never effective or even viable for our children to do the Program, it is us that must lead the way for them – then they organically and powerfully follow.

Once you start working with NARP and become a part of our incredible community you will deeply understand why.

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕💛

Hi Melanie,

Thank you for your blog. I have been desperately seeking solutions for how to co-parent with my soon to be Ex (Narc). I am grateful for your posts and look forward to taking your course and begin healing my trauma.
17 years of marriage to a Narc and separated for 5 months with temp custody of my two kids, one of which he physically and emotionally abused. No bruises, blood or broken bones so his abuse of her was “not abuse”, according to his therapist. Yes! Sometimes a narc WILL attend therapy because they can easily charm the therapist, twist the story and become the victim. He has found his supply with this therapist and is having his anger, and actions validated. His 13yo DD wants nothing to do with him and he is accusing me of brainwashing her and taking her away from him. He does have visitation with his son and weekly family therapy with his DD (which is not going well for him. He demands she should forgive and forget.).
She has Aspergers, PTSD, is in EMDR and cognitive therapy. Her therapist is stating it is likely she will have to visit with him. I would like to end this cycle of abuse for her and teach her how to set boundaries with her narc father. Would your course be appropriate for a 13 yo? If not, what suggestions do you have for me to help her besides healing myself? She has been suicidal due to his treatment of her (his retort was he was suicidal too!) He has stated he will simply commit her to a hospital if she threatens suicide on his watch. I appreciate any advice you have to offer. Thank you.

Hi Melody,

that is so beautiful that it is your time to heal and that you have joined NARP.

I can’t wait to be conjoined with you in the healings.

Mel 🙏💕💛

Hi Elina,

you are welcome and thank you for your graciousness.

Katherine’s work is amazing, she is incredible and SO The real deal – I applaud her and she is a dear friend and colleague. Sometimes Elina, our beliefs are super glued in with a lot of trauma holding them in place Elina, and that is where Quanta Freedom Healing can so powerfully find and remove them.

I promise you Elina, until QFH, myself and many of us have struggled – DESPITE copious amounts of inner work.

That is why I am such a fan of NARP!

Hun, you haven’t failed, you just need a way to truly reprogram your subconscious. Please give NARP a go http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp It’s powerful, direct and incredibly effective and you have a COMPLETE guarantee with it – that if you don’t get incredible results you are completely refunded.

I completely understand your distress, and I know with all of my heart know how much NARP can help you breakthrough.

Mel 🙏💕💛

Thank you Melanie, I really appreciate your direct words and “ferocity” with this!
When we watched tv, he commented the women on the television, how they are “ugly”, “lesbians” and “masculine”. They were not! All very pretty women and definitely not lesbians! I found his comments very weird. I could sense…almost like some deep, old resentment, hate, towards all women.
When I expressed my hurt and was waiting for him to apologize or understand, he instead attacked me by saying how I have hurt HIM. This is very alarming, it can’t be normal or “justified” reaction?

It’s very very easy for me to slip back to old meaning of old beliefs: “relationships just are not for me, I’m somehow wrong, unfixable, I might just give up, because relationships are always like this”. Ouch, that mindset is very painful place to be! 🙁

You know, it’s also very easy and tempting to get sucked into the “story”, “he should do this, he shouldn’t have done that, he should change, he should see my point of view, he should apologize”…it’s frustrating (or maybe liberating!?), the we can only control or change ourselves, not other people. What’s also somewhat sad, as much I’d like to heal/help this man on his behalf…it’s just impossible. I can only change/heal myself, my own stuff.

I did some years ago a relationship course with Katherine Woodward Thomas, and quite frankly I consider her to be the leading relationship expert on the planet! It’s very difficult for me to now avoid my self-loathing…I have got advice from this kind of a relationship expert…and I still fail miserably at relationships. It feels hopeless. I’ve even done some trauma work and energy clearing. It’s very frustrating and painful that I still can’t “make this right” and continue to attract this kind of men I described.
And it feels so unfair, that many people have never done any inner work at all, have never had any relationship issues at all, ever! They just live happily ever after. Or so it seems. Sorry, I’m generally a positive person, but now I felt the need to went! I’ve had enough!
Or maybe, I hope, it is that I have merely started the healing journey and not yet finished, therefore not failed…that all this simply means that I still have some more healing to do?