Hi Jennifer,

if you really do feel that your fear response, once let go of, will mean that this won’t happen, then work on that. If you do believe that there is a threat and your intuition is saying to act on it, then you may need to get your pet somewhere else. Without knowing the situation it’s really very difficult for me to give you a definitive answer.

Most definitely, regardless, for all of us … The healing and rising yourself out of the fear is incredibly important, and that’s where the inner work comes in.

I hope this helps and I wish you strength with your situation

lots of love

Mel 🙏💕💛

I really need help with a question please. I recently found out my Roomate is a covert narc. My life is really financially unstable now. I have a pet, that I love dearly. Im afraid the Roomate could hurt the pet even kill it. Is the negative enegy from my fear response going to further ruin my finances so I’m unable to financially care for the pet in a crisis? Is buying a video camera to watch the pet going to further inflame the intimidation and create a negative energy effect that results in my fears. I already spent $140 boarding the pet at the vet to keep her safe this week. Unfortunately she knows my worst fear and that I’m trying to protect the pet- and I can’t force her to move- how can I reverse my response without being irresponsible and failing to protect my pet? My hiding the pet may have angered her. Please help. My fear mindset seems to signal things won’t go well.
Thanks!!

Unfortunately, I have to deal with a narcissistic mother-in-law and mother.

Years ago, when my mother-in-law wanted to have a relationship with me again (because my baby was a few months old and she obviously wanted a relationship with him, but she won’t admit that of course), I sent her an email. A sort of boundaries and how we would proceed. She accepted it without comment. She’s definitely better than how she used to be. However, if I’m in her company, it’s a different story. She plays the victim constantly, adjusts the truth to make herself look better etc. So, after a mere few days with her, I am exhausted.

So, recently, I reminded her of this email. Again, she manipulated and attempted gaslighting- saying that she is trying to understand me, she approached the relationship with bygones as bygones and she wants to make a relationship with me as a mother and daughter-in-law, not just because I’m her son’s happiness and her grandkids mom etc, and that she’s “really trying”… she also said she doesn’t keep emails anymore (which is hilarious because she made a folder of all the emails of the past ie. My “wrongs”). She said she didn’t realize how important that email was to me and that she doesn’t remember it but I can print it and give it to her. So I asked if she’d like I could email it again, she did not respond.

The thing is… do I print it and give it to her? There’s no hard and fast rule about it and I’ve been trying to figure that out. I know i have to change my mindset etc when in hers and my mum’s company because both are very similar. But do i remind her or simply incorporate the boundaries without having to remind her because it’s just easier not having to deal with her at all. I basically don’t talk much when I don’t have to see her.

I’d appreciate any advice.

Hello Melanie

I have a narcissistic mother-in-law and mother. Any physical interactions with them leave me absolutely exhausted, frustrated and restless. It’s the most unhappy story of my life. I’m trying hard to break free. I have a quick question- should a narcissist be reminded of boundaries? Or should I simply try to heal from the inside?

Thank you… I hope I make it to the other side as successfully as you have.

Best regards

Hi Nath,

The place to work with NARP Modules is in the Forum. We are ready with open arms to help you there http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

Mel 🙏💕❤️

Hi Mel,

Yes i’m Working with them a lot…
Bit i’m still atracting Narcs…and i’s so tired after months of nearly sleep because of noisy neighbors. The owner was going to do something about it. Now he says I need to move…end my contract if it distubs me…that would mean that I will loose a lot of money…people who saw my message to him say this it the world on his head. How to shift out this? The fact that I meet on abuser after the other?

Hi Marcie,

It’s true, otherwise we are continually trying to survive our wounds.

I’m so happy for you that NARP version 3 is powerful and effective for you.

Continued blessings and breakthroughs to you.

Mel 🙏💕❤️