Hi Tav,

all the information you require as per each week is in the blog articles..these are identical to the newsletters…

I hope you enjoy the process!

Mel xo

You have indeed been my liberator. You have helped me to liberate myself from the image that was cast. I begin to feel the results and my narcissist is distraught that she has no power over me. I hope to be fully myself very soon, with your accompaniment. God bless you. But I must say, I saw God in your writings enabling self-liberation and to celebrate the gift of life.

How did this feel for you, upon realising your ‘end goal’? Has this changed the way you see ‘who you want to become’?

My biggest realization here was of how many people ties, I cut being with my ex. How many friends i lost touch with..some just because of the relationship others because he was jealous or antisocial/ better than them. Secondly, how I had let him suppress
nd hijack a very involved, loving piece if myself, out of his jealousy & his desire to have’ all of my attention’ . I realized I miss these people and interactions and
want to be with a partner who allows me to be me& loves me for it, rather than someone who must limit me out of fear.

For Exercise 2:

How did it feel for you going deeply into realising what has been blocking you from achieving your goals? What have you now realised about what has been holding you back?

A lot of this I have worked on for years but I realized that I still have some deep wounds, “untrue truths” and strong fears. In my relationship, I did have some growth in myself despite the negative N behaviors being intertwined with reality…but this exercise showed me know that my ex knew how to use my fears of abandonment/ being alone against me so subtly …and showed me that my work on myself is not quite done.

I have alot of pride in how far I have come in my journey of self & I am not going to let my ex or anyone take that away from me…I read above the comment on coming from a dark void with addictions, avoidance, deep pain and self loathing. I’ve been there and it is terrible… but there is hope with awareness & work…I am now hoping Mel, that your work ( which I am loving) will help what I know logically ( I am worthwhile, loveable, enough & frekin survivor) sin in on an emotional/ gut level. I am praying for it

For Exercise 3:

How do you feel now after creating your Declaration of Self?

I love the affirmation & declarations…I love the positivity of your blog where others are full of circular gripeing. In just a few days ( I know I’m a late starter on this) of affirmations & blessing/ accepting my feelings, reactions and pans, I am feeling hopeful.

I was in a relationship where I loved my ex completely, he did loving things for me intertwined wth his issues but I thought we were both happy, and working on things…We were a family with future plans & I was completely blindsided when I found out he was cheating & had been lying since day 1. I thank a friend for making me aware of NPD and allowing me to make some sense of this. I thank you for posting these blogs and giving me
a path for a more positive way to heal.

Gratefully.
Redd

How did this feel for you, upon realising your ‘end goal’? Has this changed the way you see ‘who you want to become’?

My biggest realization here was of how many people ties, I cut being with my ex. How many friends i lost touch with..some just because of the relationship others because he was jealous or antisocial/ better than them. Secondly, how I had let him suppress
nd hijack a very involved, loving piece if myself, out of his jealousy & his desire to have’ all of my attention’ . I realized I miss these people and interactions and
want to be with a partner who allows me to be me& loves me for it, rather than someone who must limit me out of fear.

For Exercise 2:

How did it feel for you going deeply into realising what has been blocking you from achieving your goals? What have you now realised about what has been holding you back?

A lot of this I have worked on for years but I realized that I still have some deep wounds, “untrue truths” and strong fears. In my relationship, I did have some growth in myself despite the negative N behaviors being intertwined with reality…but this exercise showed me know that my ex knew how to use my fears of abandonment/ being alone against me so subtly …and showed me that my work on myself is not quite done.

I have alot of pride in how far I have come in my journey of self & I am not going to let my ex or anyone take that away from me…I read above the comment on coming from a dark void with addictions, avoidance, deep pain and self loathing. I’ve been there and it is terrible… but there is hope with awareness & work…I am now hoping Mel, that your work ( which I am loving) will help what I know logically ( I am worthwhile, loveable, enough & frekin survivor) sin in on an emotional/ gut level. I am praying for it

For Exercise 3:

How do you feel now after creating your Declaration of Self?

I love the affirmation & declarations…I love the positivity of your blog here

How did this feel for you, upon realising your ‘end goal’? Has this changed the way you see ‘who you want to become’?

My biggest realization here was of how many people ties, I cut being with my ex. How many friends i lost touch with..some just because of the relationship others because he was jealous or antisocial/ better than them. Secondly, how I had let him suppress
nd hijack a very involved, loving piece if myself, out of his jealousy & his desire to have’ all of my attention’ . I realized I miss these people and interactions and
want to be with a partner who allows me to be me& loves me for it, rather than someone who must limit me out of fear.

For Exercise 2:

How did it feel for you going deeply into realising what has been blocking you from achieving your goals? What have you now realised about what has been holding you back?

A lot of this I have worked on for years but I realized that I still have some deep wounds, “untrue truths” and strong fears. In my relationship, I did have some growth in myself despite the negative N behaviors being intertwined with reality…but this exercise showed me know that my ex knew how to use my fears of abandonment/ being alone against me so subtly …and showed me that my work on myself is not quite done.

I have alot of pride in how far I have come in my journey of self & I am not going to let my ex or anyone take that away from me…I read above the comment on coming from a dark void with addictions, avoidance, deep pain and self loathing. I’ve been there and it is terrible… but there is hope with awareness & work…I am now hoping Mel, that your work ( which I am loving) will help what I know logically ( I am worthwhile, loveable, enough & frekin survivor) sin in on an emotional/ gut level. I am praying for it 😉

For Exercise 3:

How do you feel now after creating your Declaration of Self?

I love the affirmation & declarations…I love the positivity of your blog where others are full of circular gripeing. In just a few days ( I know I’m a late starter on this) of affirmations & blessing/ accepting my feelings, reactions and pans, I am feeling hopeful.

I was in a relationship where I loved my ex completely, he did loving things for me intertwined wth his issues but I thought we were both happy, and working on things…We were a family with future plans & I was completely blindsided when I found out he was cheating & had been lying since day 1. I thank a friend for making me aware of NPD and allowing me to make some sense of this. I thank you for posting these blogs and giving me
a path for a more positive way to heal.

Gratefully.
Redd

How did this feel for you, upon realising your ‘end goal’? Has this changed the way you see ‘who you want to become’?

My biggest realization here was of how many people ties, I cut being with my ex. How many friends i lost touch with..some just because of the relationship others because he was jealous or antisocial/ better than them. Secondly, how I had let him suppress
nd hijack a very involved, loving piece if myself, out of his jealousy & his desire to have’ all of my attention’ . I realized I miss these people and interactions and
want to be with a partner who allows me to be me& loves me for it, rather than someone who must limit me out of fear.

For Exercise 2:

How did it feel for you going deeply into realising what has been blocking you from achieving your goals? What have you now realised about what has been holding you back?

A lot of this I have worked on for years but I realized that I still have some deep wounds, “untrue truths” and strong fears. In my relationship, I did have some growth in myself despite the negative N behaviors being intertwined with reality…but this exercise showed me know that my ex knew how to use my fears of abandonment/ being alone against me so subtly …and showed me that my work on myself is not quite done.

I have alot of pride in how far I have come in my journey of self & I am not going to let my ex or anyone take that away from me…I read above the comment on coming from a dark void with addictions, avoidance, deep pain and self loathing. I’ve been there and it is terrible… but there is hope with awareness & work…I am now hoping Mel, that your work ( which I am loving) will help what I know logically ( I am worthwhile, loveable, enough & frekin survivor) sin in on an emotional/ gut level. I am praying for it 😉

For Exercise 3:

How do you feel now after creating your Declaration of Self?

I love the affirmation & declarations…I love the positivity of your blog here

How did this feel for you, upon realising your ‘end goal’? Has this changed the way you see ‘who you want to become’?

Yes it has made me more determined to be ‘that’ better person. I see being a better person means just as much to everyone else as it does to myself.

For Exercise 2:

How did it feel for you going deeply into realising what has been blocking you from achieving your goals? What have you now realised about what has been holding you back?

I realise that it is worth investigating all self doubts and fears now and not just accepting them as’oh thats just me’. Now I look within to understand, accept and move forward to heal. Most of what I have looked within about has been from childhood, which logically makes absolutely no sense to hold on to and use now.

For Exercise 3:

How do you feel now after creating your Declaration of Self?

I feel stronger about being myself and accountable to make myself a better, happier person. I like to read it and think ‘yeah thats right!’