Comments on: 4 Ways Narcissists Gaslight You

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 29 Dec 2021 03:18:14 +0000

In reply to Hedy.

Hi Hedy,

If you google my name plus “leaving a narcissist” I have many resources that can grant you directions as to how to separate in the best and safest and most empowering way.

Big hugs and I hope that this can help you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 29 Dec 2021 03:16:59 +0000

In reply to Hurt Mom.

Hi Hurt Mom,

please google my name plus “our children” and you will see many resources that I have that speak directly to what you are trying to work through.

Also, I cant recommend enough that you come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar which will also grant you many answers regarding what to do for you and your son.

I hope that this can help you,

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Mae

Mae — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 06:22:56 +0000

Spot on! Thank you! As I read through the article, I had to stop several times while reading it. Each time I stopped reading I was grateful for what I was reading, but I kept saying to myself I wanted to forget that it was right and stop reading. Five times I did this……Normally I read at a quick pace, not with this post. Thank you and the Lord so much for helping me understand all of the confusion. The help has helped me save myself for me, my family (regardless of how much the narcs don’t want boundaries), friends and neighbors. We all do so much better with hope and prayer.
Happy New Year to Everyone!!

By: Mae

Mae — Tue, 28 Dec 2021 05:57:33 +0000

In reply to Jessica. I so agree. I can't believe it's taking this long for people around the world to wake-up and realize they are being brainwashed

By: Grateful

Grateful — Sat, 25 Dec 2021 13:13:36 +0000

Hi Melanie,

Thank you, this is useful input going into the Holiday season. Keeping a clear head while “swimming” in emotions that come with the celebration is not easy, and these insights definitely help.

Happy Holidays (not being sarcastic) 🙂

By: Lynn

Lynn — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 23:49:24 +0000

In reply to Hurt Mom. Dear Hurt Mom, My heart goes out to you. I have been there, though of course your personal experience is it’s own painful version of inexplicable. I too have a teenaged son, now 19 years old. From years of experience I have learned the hard way, and for me, the only way, that though everything in you screams to heal your son in the places he doesn’t even know yet that he has been wounded, the only real and lasting healing will originate solely from your own healing. It will be the ultimate act of faith on your part. But your healing, as incremental and paltry as it may feel, is the answer. You have more power than you ever dreamed. You can do this. My son and I made it through and it remains a miracle to me. You can and will heal. Both of you.

By: Patience Kukundakwe

Patience Kukundakwe — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 15:47:18 +0000

Very wonderful posts.
I really appreciate all you are doing to help us live a better life.
I will keep thanking you 1000times.

By: Ami

Ami — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 10:58:47 +0000

My Stepson and his wife have played out every form of gaslighting to my husband and myself but especially my husband. After years of trying to be family I understand now it’s just not going to happen. At first I felt I had been a bad stepmom somehow. But it’s not the case. It truly is my stepson who’s the narcissist. He comes from a lineage of them. His mother her mother and my husbands mother all narcissistic women.
Each very abusive mentally and physically to thier husbands and children.
I didn’t fully understand the amoral part but now I do. My stepson and his wife live with her parents have a baby and are pregnant with another. They are both 27 and capable of caring for themselves but the “wife” of my stepson wanted to move back home with her mommy and daddy. She has a history of quitting jobs to avoid working.
It wasn’t until I saw a posted video of another “cousin’” pulling the baby in her little wheeled walker around the garage in a wheeled vehicle himself she was behind him and no parent was watching her that I realized yep they truly don’t care. She’s not one year old yet and anything could happen in that scenario where she could have gotten really hurt. One fall or accidental out of control move by the “driver” who was a kid himself. In the video my step son and his wife are both separate from each other in the garage playing on their phones while the baby is being ripped around the garage space.
They have already tried to use the baby as a pawn so my husband and myself have decided to go no contact. It’s hard but eventually it all does make sense. You realize these are not good people even if it’s your own kid and it’s better to save yourself because they will not change. It’s rare and that person has to want to change. The lie they live to justify and create their grandiose persona is too much for them to lose. Even though they truly are a turd of a person. You will learn that.

By: San

San — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 08:25:43 +0000

In reply to Jessica. So very true Jessica.