Comments on: 5 Amazing Things To Look Forward To After Narcissistic Abuse

By: charles mayeux

charles mayeux — Mon, 16 Aug 2021 02:37:13 +0000

In reply to Jeanette. I understand where you are. So many questions at this time in life when there is less time ahead than there is behind.

By: Kathleen Sullivan

Kathleen Sullivan — Thu, 12 Aug 2021 15:11:30 +0000

In reply to Jaroslaw Nowacki. It's better to be from a broken family than in one. ~ Dr. Phil

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 11 Aug 2021 07:00:51 +0000

In reply to Peter@44.

Hi Peter,

that’s great that this made you smile!

Much Love to you Peter!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 11 Aug 2021 07:00:00 +0000

In reply to Jaroslaw Nowacki.

Hi Jaroslaw,

no my son is not the ex narcissist’s child.

I completely understand what you are feeling and saying.

I’d love you to google my name and “parallel parenting” because there may be some aspects about this form of narcissistic co-parenting that may help with your moving forward, for you and your children.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 11 Aug 2021 06:57:16 +0000

In reply to Clare.

Hi Clare,

you are very welcome and I so hope that I can help.

Sending you strength and healing

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Warren

Warren — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 18:11:33 +0000

In reply to Eva Palaszewski.

Hi Jeanette and Eva,
Hats of to you two wonderful, beautiful ladies. You guys have taken the first step, the hardest one.
of all. Melanie and all of us Thrivers hear you loud and clear.
The time is NOW and the time is for YOU!! Whatever happened yesterday and what takes place tomorrow is not important.
You have stated that enough is enough. So go for it and take the dive. Never look back from this point on.
NARP saved my life. I am out of debt now…..have a great job……so many hobbies, I am juggling all kinds of great activities……..I get up every morning early…happy and ready to go!!
It does not matter how old you are!!! It is one day at a time from here on in……got it!!!!!
This miracle is yours………just keep going…….Mel takes you by the hand…….she has put her heart and soul on the line for all of us. We are all eternally grateful for what continues to do every single day.

By: Peter@44

Peter@44 — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 14:55:42 +0000

Hi Melanie!
After reading through this today a smile appeared on my usually not smiling face! 😌 thank you so much! I feel encouraged! 🙌 bless you, Melanie, and thank you for all the help you and NARP have given to me and others….Much love ❤️🦋❤️

By: Col

Col — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 11:07:16 +0000

Personally I think separating is the only option with shared children either your own or fostered, but you must put up healthy boundaries to protect yourself, I know it doesn’t feel fair, but at least by having your own home even if it’s a rental when the Children come to visit, you can make it as normal as possible for them, so as they get older, they can compare your normality with her craziness, otherwise the craziness becomes their normal. And you don’t need to say anything derogatory about her, just love them unconditionaly and they will come through alright, and you will keep your Sanity, hope this helps Blessings Col.

By: Jaroslaw Nowacki

Jaroslaw Nowacki — Mon, 09 Aug 2021 08:52:03 +0000

Hi Melanie,
I got to the point same as yours – healed internally and managed to shield myself off sucking energetic vampire. Just got one question to you ? Do you have children with your ex narc ?
I don’t think I can divorce my covert narcist wife – we have 2 adopted children and it will be a heavy blow to them if I decide to divorce. Both of them already went through a trauma of rejection and during a conflict times I got a taste of potential damages they would got (drop in school performance etc). The youngest isn11 yo lovely, sensitive and a gifted boy. That is why I decided to stay few more years until he gets to his 18th birthday.
I have a friend of mine in similar situation who recently divorced his narcistic wife. Peaceful co-parenting with those empty shells of human being is impossible. From time to time he has to go to the family court as his ex empty shell of human being wife is constantly trying to change parenting agreements. Its all honky dory if you split with narcissistic partner and you don’t have children with them, I wish it could my situation but its not. So I have deal with what shitty cards life has thrown on me. I don’t think there is any good advice on co-parenting if you divorce a narcist monster. You still will have to be exposed to this venom and watch your kids getting traumatised in a process. I had s taste of what it could be with my covert narcist wife. During our last conflict when she was the one trying to discard me I mentioned children and particularly the younger one. I told her this will inflict a huge damage and with his past it will have a serious impact on his emtions and will likely kill or diminish his wonderful gufts(my son is quite gifted and talented boy with very sensitive soul). Do you know what was her answer ? Answer coming from professional (she is a teacher in special educational needs school) This empty person she just shrugged her shoulders and replied she knows many single parent families bringing up children and “there is no problem ?????!!! WTF
Of course she conviently omitted the fact of adoption as of course it would not suit the answer well. Anyhow I wish I could be in a different situation, without children but I am not and I am accepting it. Thanks to myb transformational healing, practising mental. development I became 100% resistant to many of the primitive games this empty shells are doing.Supply was cut off and I can see in many occasions evidence of narc starvation..Tough – either she will understand something about her (doubtfully) or will struggle – at this point of my life I don’t care.